India's outburst to JKR 'I will always be more of a woman than you.'

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https://x.com/IndiaWilloughby/status/1924912102063345706

India not happy with JKR drawing a line. Very aggressive.

Jo, you are bitter and twisted. A modern-day Miss Havisham. Bought court. You know it - I know it. I will always be more of a woman than you. The way you and your ghastly gang pretend to be the voice of all women is disgusting. And a joke. Along with the fact your daily sick bullying of women is completely ignored by UK media. You represent the Gender Critical movement - not women. I hope your boat sinks. Go fuck yourself. Trash.

I promise you, I wasn't interested enough to be bothering to notice the sex of someone who was nothing much to do with me: I'm not into table-top games as a hobby so I wasn't particularly involved. The first I knew of it was when he told me that I probably hadn't realised he was trans. My mistake was saying I didn't see why it mattered, because they were simply a person in my house and what sex made no nevermind; this was obviously intolerable provocation.

You failed to pander to the ego @AskingQuestionsAllTheTime

I know. Bad Asking; no asking-biscuit.

You also committed the cardinal sin of using the word sex and not gender.

I very much hope you threw him out of your house for picking a fight and being aggressive to you.

Not my guest for me to throw out, and DH hadn't witnessed it. I explained afterwards what had happened and that particular person is not welcome here any more; my DH agreed this had been poor behaviour of which he did not approve, and made that clear to both of them.

But everything you describe is a description of mental health issues. Surely, like all mental health issues they need to to seek appropriate professional treatment to help them navigate their internal battles rather than rely on everyone to just go with their internal flow

People who experience distress and think that gender is the root cause should receive effective treatment. People who are not distressed or disturbed (typically those who fit the labels ‘odd’, ‘quirky’, different) don’t.

Single sex provision should be accessed by only those who are the sex the provision is designed for.

Nobody should be forced (by law or by social norms) to pretend people aren’t the sex that they are.

Society should treat everyone the same, regardless of their sex, other than where sex matters. It was the failure to do this that led women being denied them basic freedoms - for centuries.

I've had mental health treatments in the past when things happened, or came to light, that made me mentally unwell. There are various treatments available. Talking therapy, CBT, antidepressants, lifestyle changes and so on.

This appears to be the only situation whereby the treatment is not only to pretend that the distressing thing is not true, but to get society to reorganise itself around pretending it isn't true. I was never told that everyone else in the world had to affirm the situation that I dearly wished was true but sadly simply was not. The therapy and treatment were all based around helping me to make changes where possible, and cope and adapt where they were not.

Everyone else can't go with someone else's internal flow.

Ultimately we all know the truth and we aren't mind readers about how someone might react to a tiny comment or slip of the tongue.

I was speaking to a transwoman the other day, and when they introduced themselves (in relation to someone else) the very first thing they did was slip up themselves using the male relationship rather than female one! Yet everyone else is supposed to skip along always using the male ones. It doesn't work.

Changing identity like this affects the identity of those closest to them because it affects how they relate to others (I find 'do you have a brother or a sister?' a really difficult question because people are looking for ways to relate to you. They are trying to understand you not learn about the life and personality of your relatives. It's about your identity not your siblings).