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Theeyeballsinthesky · 27/04/2025 12:43

Lololol at the idea that WE should find a new hobby butters

why dont you get a new hobby instead of coming onto MN to bore everyone rigid with your over emoting tone deaf hyperbole??

as you’ve been told a gazillion times; if it’s so awful and damaging why are you here so often??

EasternStandard · 27/04/2025 12:44

ButterflyHatched · 27/04/2025 12:40

What have you been doing for the last decade? Getting on with your life as best you can?

No. You've dedicated it to destroying trans people's access to healthcare and protection from discrimination.

Just find a new hobby for christ's sake.

No she hasn’t. This isn’t helping.

You were lied to, the Supreme Court has interpreted the law correctly. Don’t take it out on women on here. Go to Stonewall et al and ask why.

BaronessEllarawrosaurus · 27/04/2025 12:44

ButterflyHatched · 27/04/2025 12:40

What have you been doing for the last decade? Getting on with your life as best you can?

No. You've dedicated it to destroying trans people's access to healthcare and protection from discrimination.

Just find a new hobby for christ's sake.

We will when males learn to stay out of spaces designated for females. All we want are our rights to be recognized.

Merrymouse · 27/04/2025 12:47

ButterflyHatched · 27/04/2025 12:40

What have you been doing for the last decade? Getting on with your life as best you can?

No. You've dedicated it to destroying trans people's access to healthcare and protection from discrimination.

Just find a new hobby for christ's sake.

As a legal and persuasive argument, this is flawed.

I think you need better advice than has so far been provided by organisations like Stonewall, but I'd start by arguing for rights based on the PC of gender reassignment.

The previous policy of arguing that the PC of sex doesn't or shouldn't exist is now a non starter.

DrSpartacularsMagnificentOctopus · 27/04/2025 12:57

Restoring women's rights isn't a hobby.

It's been essential work.

But we are used to men dismissing and minimising women's work, including women's political work.

DrSpartacularsMagnificentOctopus · 27/04/2025 12:59

The protected characteristic of "gender reassignment" has not been changed. Access to healthcare and protection from discrimination remains.

borntobequiet · 27/04/2025 12:59

Lalgarh · 27/04/2025 09:37

R4 Broadcasting House going with the impact on UK hospitality industry who are claiming the EHRC ruling is confusing and a burden on small businesses

Pretty much what one would expect from BH. I haven’t bothered to listen to it for years now.

GailBlancheViola · 27/04/2025 13:01

What have you been doing for the last decade? Getting on with your life as best you can?

Many women have been prevented from getting on with their lives as best they can due to the infiltration of men into women's spaces, services, sports, awards, etc., etc.

No. You've dedicated it to destroying trans people's access to healthcare and protection from discrimination.

Trans people have the same access to healthcare as the rest of the population, the NHS is there to treat the needs of the population, not the wants and is free at the point of use. It does, however, fail across all sectors of the population on treating their needs but that is an entirely different conversation.

Trans people have the same protection from discrimination they always had.

Just find a new hobby for christ's sake.

How arrogant and dismissive to frame women fighting for their rights in Law to be clarified and upheld as a hobby.

You availed yourself of what was never yours in the first place that illegal grab is now over. Deal with it.

Shortshriftandlethal · 27/04/2025 13:02

BernardBlacksMolluscs · 27/04/2025 10:01

Agree

in my opinion for all men role playing as women sexual gratification is at least a partial motivator. Any post saying that here would usually be deleted and I’m not 100% sure this one will stand.

It seems to be unsayable in naice circles but it doesn’t make it less true though. We used to understand and admit that men pretend to be women because it turns them on.

Totally agree!

TeenToTwenties · 27/04/2025 13:04

borntobequiet · 27/04/2025 12:59

Pretty much what one would expect from BH. I haven’t bothered to listen to it for years now.

The BH Presenter gently pushed back on what the UK Hospitality person was (erroneously) saying.

Helleofabore · 27/04/2025 13:14

LonginesPrime · 27/04/2025 11:59

Here you go - para 25 onwards of the original decision.

IIRC, I don’t think it was dealt with in the subsequent challenge by Mermaids as they didn’t have the standing to challenge anything, and so the actual challenge they were trying to make was irrelevant.

Thank you Longines.

ArabellaScott · 27/04/2025 13:17

Womens rights described as a hobby.

We could not get a more accurate demonstration of the contempt with which women are held in by the very people who claim to need access to women's spaces to meet their own inner needs.

Women are human, we have human rights, and we have the right to say no.

DrSpartacularsMagnificentOctopus · 27/04/2025 13:21

ArabellaScott · 27/04/2025 13:17

Womens rights described as a hobby.

We could not get a more accurate demonstration of the contempt with which women are held in by the very people who claim to need access to women's spaces to meet their own inner needs.

Women are human, we have human rights, and we have the right to say no.

Hear hear.

borntobequiet · 27/04/2025 13:21

Namechangeforobviousreasons100 · 27/04/2025 11:36

I’m sorry if it seemed an unhelpful answer, but I think asking me to define masculinity and femininity is a bit silly, I think we all have a reasonably good idea of what those terms refer to.

It may be true that we all have an idea of what constitutes masculinity and feminity, but different people’s individual perspectives and understanding may not align, and may or may not be associated with some innate sense of “gender”.

Basically, it’s all speculation. That’s why it’s referred to as gender woo.

Helleofabore · 27/04/2025 13:25

ButterflyHatched · 27/04/2025 12:40

What have you been doing for the last decade? Getting on with your life as best you can?

No. You've dedicated it to destroying trans people's access to healthcare and protection from discrimination.

Just find a new hobby for christ's sake.

Oh dear.

Still unable to accept that male people who chose to use female single sex spaces contributed to the harm of female people, I see.

Still unable to accept that male people forceably redefining the very words that we need to use to describe ourselves harmed female people?

Instead, just attack, attack, attack. Never look back. It seems like those medieval war recreations of storming the castle. But this is life. When male people coercively told the world that they were female people and that they had to be treated as female people, it was never going to last. Political movements built on falsehoods are not righteous ones.

Shortshriftandlethal · 27/04/2025 13:28

Namechangeforobviousreasons100 · 27/04/2025 11:45

We were talking about the concepts of masculinity and femininity, they aren’t categories that you fit into or not?

Nobody is thoroughly 'masculine' or throughly 'feminine'. We are all individuals with various different interests, preferences, talents, skills...some of which may be judged to be more on the 'feminine ' side, others more on the 'masculine' side.

So for example I have always had a preference for short hair - which many see as 'masculine', and I've not worn heels since I was 15 years old..though I do like skirts and I like to paint my toe nails - both of which are coded 'feminine'.

I love interior design and creating a comfortable, beautiful home ( coded feminine), but I also contribute to an architecture and urbanism forum which is populated by 98% men. I don't understand why there are so few other female contributors. .....perhaps they are all out shopping for beauty products and lingerie? 😉

borntobequiet · 27/04/2025 13:29

TeenToTwenties · 27/04/2025 13:04

The BH Presenter gently pushed back on what the UK Hospitality person was (erroneously) saying.

Maybe I’ll start listening again!

NotAtMyAge · 27/04/2025 13:36

ButterflyHatched · 27/04/2025 12:40

What have you been doing for the last decade? Getting on with your life as best you can?

No. You've dedicated it to destroying trans people's access to healthcare and protection from discrimination.

Just find a new hobby for christ's sake.

"Just find a new hobby for christ's sake."

If anything more were needed to demonstrate that @ButterflyHatched is unchangeably male and not any kind of woman, this sentence will do it. Women seeking to protect our same sex spaces, services and sports and also safeguard vulnerable young people (who are being falsely told changing their body will make them members of the opposite sex) are NOT simply idly pursuing a hobby. That is an appalling suggestion, totally lacking in any understanding of woman's actual needs and rights and the concerted effort that has been put into undermining them in favour of men with womanly feelz. The Supreme Court judgment is simply setting the record straight that you and all other trans-identified men are not, indeed never have been, entitled to claim admittance to those things that by statute belong to women alone. Go and feel sorry for yourself somewhere else, because I and most posters here simply don't care.

Shortshriftandlethal · 27/04/2025 13:38

CautiousLurker01 · 27/04/2025 11:46

I think you are mixing up gender identity with ‘awareness of one’s sex’.

I absolutely do not wander through life ‘feeling’ feminine or ‘like a woman’. I just am one. Just as I don’t ‘feel like a human being’, I just am one. My life is shaped by my sexed body - the periods, the miscarriages, the carrying to full-term and birthing of two babies, the menopause etc all had specific practical implications on my daily existence; just as sex-specific laws surrounding employment rights, maternity benefit entitlement (for example) are all predicated on my being legally recognised as a woman. My personal experiences of life in a woman’s body have shaped my understanding of others and, hopefully, led to my being more empathetic than I might have been had my experiences in that same body been different.

But ‘being a woman’ is not part of my identity. I am a multi faceted being and consider my ‘self’ to be rather like a diamond or 3-dimensional crystal prism where only certain facets of that prism will be visible at any one time depending upon where I am and how I [choose to] present. Sometimes that will include the facet of my sex. More often the focus - or the facets I choose to present to the world - are my AuDHD, my loyal nature, the importance I attach to my role as a mother, to the fact that I come from a multi-faith/racial extended family, my love for music and literature. These are all far, far more a part of my sense of ‘who I am’, than my sexed body. My sexed body is almost incidental, in the same way I don’t identify as a ‘brunette’ or as an ‘average height, size 10 bodied person’. They are just physical facts of my being.

And I don’t think I am alone, or even in the minority, in perceiving myself in this way.

A very eloquent post!

Identity is not a fixed thing. Identity evolves and changes as one moves through life, in response to changing conditions and experiences.

There are some factors that one cannot/do not change and that includes one's parents; one's background and place of birth; one's time in history; one's race or ethnicity and one's sex.....everything else is about personal character and one's personal response to the above circumstances and conditions.

Helleofabore · 27/04/2025 13:38

Namechangeforobviousreasons100 · 27/04/2025 11:54

There isn’t a legal definition of race, but it’s still an important concept in the EA

And you think that gender can be compared to race?

Race has materially definable aspects.

And you have just shown that you cannot explain gender without referring to stereotypes that you choose to measure yourself against.

Shortshriftandlethal · 27/04/2025 13:44

Namechangeforobviousreasons100 · 27/04/2025 11:53

I can only explain it in terms of how gender affects my identity. Here’s an example. I have small breasts. When I was younger, that caused me a great deal of distress, because I felt that I wasn’t feminine enough; it felt like it meant I was less of a woman. The fact of having breasts (or being typically expected to have them) was an aspect of being biologically a woman. But how my particular anatomy made me feel about myself and my value as a person is an aspect of my gender identity - how I feel about being a woman.

So, you seem to be saying that 'gender identity' is somene's personal commentary on how they feel about societal expectations aroud their sex?

Though, you do know that how we feel about things shifts and changes throughout our life. We all have to adapt and we all have to deal with the conditions of our lives, but our responses are fluid in nature and not set in stone.

The thing about adopting a gender identity which is 'fixed' is that it freezes you in just one response. and becomes a sort of role you think you have to play. It becomes performative. ( The 'Performance of Gender' - Judith Butler)

ButterflyHatched · 27/04/2025 13:44

Helleofabore · 26/04/2025 20:31

The outpourings of pure emotional manipulation that we have seen from extreme transgender activists online since this ruling has been worrisome.

Firstly, weren't we told that they fully accepted their sex? That it was ridiculous to say that any person who had a transgender identity would deny their sex? And yet, how often has this been proven false even in the past few months,

But now we are seeing a massive emotional outpouring over social media and at protests. And I think these people genuinely think that it works. Maybe they did just this to coerce getting what they wanted from others in the past.

Either way, we know that inadequate mental health support was given by the gender clinics in the UK. I think that the NHS has so much to answer for. But also those extreme transgender activists who influenced the health care to where it is now in the UK. Imagine if even approaching adequate mental health care was given to help people to be resilient to the realities of their world.

But instead, we have what we are seeing across the internet and beyond.

Every time you try to frame compassionate feminists as 'extreme trans activists' you really show your hand.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 27/04/2025 13:46

ButterflyHatched · 27/04/2025 13:44

Every time you try to frame compassionate feminists as 'extreme trans activists' you really show your hand.

There's no such thing as a feminist who puts trans women above women in the pecking order.

Annoyedone · 27/04/2025 13:47

@ButterflyHatched ecery time you frame women fighting for their rights as anti trans bigots you let everyone know exactly who and what you are.

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