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allstarsuperstar · 26/04/2025 22:14

Igneococcus · 26/04/2025 21:08

I actually don't think you're sad, you're absolutely revelling in the drama.

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These lads love a bit of humiliation with their narcissism.

SidewaysOtter · 26/04/2025 22:20

@ButterflyHatched I remain in sympathy for your distress.

But you have shown not one iota of sympathy with the women whose spaces you have accessed, nor have you acknowledged that your prior access may not have been with the consent of the women whose spaces they were. Instead there’s a whole lot of I, I, I and me, me, me.

Read @MissScarletInTheBallroom’s posts because she talks a lot of sense. It’s up to you if you take it on board or not but either way you should be angry at those who sold you a lie, not those who refuse to be complicit in it or who refuse to give in to your self indulgent demands.

JazzyJelly · 26/04/2025 22:21

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/04/2025 21:23

If you could turn the clock back, there were a thousand ways you (by which I mean trans people in general) could have averted this disaster.

You could have spoken up when male rapists were put in female prisons and said, "Not in our name."

You could have made it perfectly clear that you didn't have a problem with female rape survivors having their own rape crisis groups, and that if they were being denied this for your benefit, that was wrong.

You could have stood up for any of the women who lost their livelihoods for saying something you disagreed with and said that although you disagreed with their opinion, you respected their right to hold it.

You could have publicly called out those among your number who made rape and death threats to feminists, said this isn't what you stand for, not marched shoulder to shoulder with them.

You could have agreed that it was wrong for trans women to compete in women's sports, that that isn't a human right at all and has nothing to do with living your lives in dignity.

You could have said, "Thank you for wanting to profile me on International Women's Day, I'm very honoured, but I think it might get people's backs up if the focus is on me for the one day of the year that is devoted to women. We have Pride Month and Trans History Month and Trans Day of Visibility and I'd be absolutely delighted to do something for you during any of those events instead."

You could have said, "Of course we don't count towards the female quota for board members, come on, don't be ridiculous."

You could have refrained from calling people TERFs and bigots and, well, been kind.

Surely if you actually thought we were all in some kind of sisterhood together, you would have done these things.

But you didn't, did you?

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There is little I've ever agreed with more strongly. I was absolutely '#BeKind' and 'TranswomenAreWomen' until I saw how little these males understood and supported women. It's not any kind of hate to understand that women (female humans) need spaces away from male humans.

EasternStandard · 26/04/2025 22:21

UrsulasHerbBag · 26/04/2025 22:07

@EasternStandard i think it’s because it’s undiluted self pitying, hyperbolic words describing a fiction wrapped up in a persecution complex with out the vaguest hint of honesty or self reflection. It’s overblown, selfish and has no basis in reality or fact.

I get what you mean I guess I’m nervous because facts haven’t always won out and the I don’t trust the gov not to be swayed by emotional blackmail.

TheLongRider · 26/04/2025 22:25

I note that Butterfly repeatedly refers to Baroness Falkner as if she alone was responsible for his predicament. Again, blaming a woman for a situation not of her making. The misogyny is strong and unrelenting.

ThatsNotMyTeen · 26/04/2025 22:26

ButterflyHatched · 26/04/2025 19:29

I don't think you quite understand what you are saying here.

I transitioned more than a decade before the Equality Act existed, when trans people did not have legal recognition through the GRA, but were still allowed to use single sex facilities that best suited us.

Even back then at a time of all-consuming culture-wide hostility, the idea of being banned from female facilities was patently ridiculous.

Falkner hasn't just removed my legal recognition with this guidance and rolled us back to before the Equality Act or even the GRA - she has rolled us back to a point so utterly backward; so patently dehumanising and unworkable that it almost beggars belief.

I cried myself to sleep last night - haven't done that for decades - and the tears came right back when I woke up this morning.

Your crusade has allowed Falkner to destroy everything that anchored my world. If I go out in public and use the facilities I have used my entire adult life and much of my teens, I am breaking the law. If I use facilities I am now required to use in the absence of unisex facilities, I automatically breach my right to privacy afforded by the GRA by outing myself. It's unworkable, inhumane and astonishingly irresponsible, not to mention in breach of the ECHR.

Your crusade has destroyed our lives. There are a tiny, tiny number of women in this situation in this country and you have consigned us all to social death. Half my friends are frantically making plans to leave the country; the rest are still in a state of shock. The callousness; the unbelievable cruelty with which our worlds have been torn apart, and the triumphant crowing that has accompanied it, has genuinely shocked me. It is so brazen - so inhuman in its relish at our suffering that it is hard to see it as unintentional. This is a gloating victory lap.

Before you leap in with the accusations of overplaying the impact, please think how you would feel to be told that you must now exclusively use male-only facilities, would be sent to a male prison if you decide to stand your ground and break the law that's just detonated your social existence and right to privacy, and people are cheering and gloating and crying tears of joy, then laughing about how upset it is going to make you.

No.

You have not actually ever been legally allowed into female spaces. The SDA and EA are both clear sex is biological sex. You got away with it as this used to be much less of an issue and there were many fewer transsexuals around.

What has changed is not the law but the increased demands of men to get into our spaces.

I am sorry you are hurting but how dare you come on here and try and paint women standing up for the invasion of their same
sex spaces by men and breaching of legislation as “hate”. Just do not.

murasaki · 26/04/2025 22:28

It's been years of coercive control, and a lot of women have done the Freedom Project and have said no.

Datun · 26/04/2025 22:28

EasternStandard · 26/04/2025 22:21

I get what you mean I guess I’m nervous because facts haven’t always won out and the I don’t trust the gov not to be swayed by emotional blackmail.

In all seriousness eastern, I suspect the consultation is absolutely going to get loads of screeds exactly like that.

And I hope they realise exactly quite how much of a massive con has been perpetrated on people. And that they focus on the people who did it.

I hope they have the remit to recommend enquiry after enquiry, to find out exactly how this dangerous ideology was allowed to flourish, trampling on women's rights, and targeting very vulnerable children.

Someone really has to unravel all this, and go after the people responsible.

Additionally, I don't think we're seeing fear, we're seeing rage. Unsurprisingly, given it's the top characteristic of TRAs.

SidewaysOtter · 26/04/2025 22:33

In all seriousness eastern, I suspect the consultation is absolutely going to get loads of screeds exactly like that.

Can you even imagine what the submissions of the likes of Joly and Windy are going to be?

murasaki · 26/04/2025 22:35

I was so upset I battered another fox.

Datun · 26/04/2025 22:41

SidewaysOtter · 26/04/2025 22:33

In all seriousness eastern, I suspect the consultation is absolutely going to get loads of screeds exactly like that.

Can you even imagine what the submissions of the likes of Joly and Windy are going to be?

It really should be a bit of an eye opener. They have nothing rational, logical or legal on their side.

It's all massive entitlement generated by a handful of TRAs. Of course, men being told they could have exactly what they want, when they want it, regardless of anyone else, weren't a difficult audience to persuade.

But nonetheless, the entitlement, the rage, the default to hyperbole, paranoia, violence and threats, might well be rather enlightening.

What did I read about other submissions to the Supreme Court? Were they called absurd and incoherent? Something like that.

Somebody really needs to ask why are so many men acting in such a way.

BernardBlacksMolluscs · 26/04/2025 22:41

yeah, basically people who have chosen to live their life in a frankly bananas way ain't gonna be able to gracefully accept a 'no' as demonstrated on this thread. they can't regulate themselves and behave with consideration towards others.

there are lots of people who chose to live bananas lives, not just those who pretend to be members of the opposite sex. some pretend to be pilots, or members of the saudi royal family. and grown ups have to say 'no' to them and make it stick.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 26/04/2025 22:42

Datun · 26/04/2025 22:28

In all seriousness eastern, I suspect the consultation is absolutely going to get loads of screeds exactly like that.

And I hope they realise exactly quite how much of a massive con has been perpetrated on people. And that they focus on the people who did it.

I hope they have the remit to recommend enquiry after enquiry, to find out exactly how this dangerous ideology was allowed to flourish, trampling on women's rights, and targeting very vulnerable children.

Someone really has to unravel all this, and go after the people responsible.

Additionally, I don't think we're seeing fear, we're seeing rage. Unsurprisingly, given it's the top characteristic of TRAs.

This.

EasternStandard · 26/04/2025 22:47

Datun · 26/04/2025 22:28

In all seriousness eastern, I suspect the consultation is absolutely going to get loads of screeds exactly like that.

And I hope they realise exactly quite how much of a massive con has been perpetrated on people. And that they focus on the people who did it.

I hope they have the remit to recommend enquiry after enquiry, to find out exactly how this dangerous ideology was allowed to flourish, trampling on women's rights, and targeting very vulnerable children.

Someone really has to unravel all this, and go after the people responsible.

Additionally, I don't think we're seeing fear, we're seeing rage. Unsurprisingly, given it's the top characteristic of TRAs.

I hope so too. I don’t want people to lose their nerve on this due to the sheer onslaught but to hold people accountable for getting us here.

murasaki · 26/04/2025 22:53

Yes, someone needs to really call Stonewall out and hold their feet to the fire.

KnottyAuty · 26/04/2025 22:54

Sorry if I’ve missed this - what consultation please?

SidewaysOtter · 26/04/2025 22:56

KnottyAuty · 26/04/2025 22:54

Sorry if I’ve missed this - what consultation please?

There will be a two week consultation on the EHRC report, some time in May.

Conxis · 26/04/2025 23:02

KnottyAuty · 26/04/2025 22:54

Sorry if I’ve missed this - what consultation please?

This was in their statement yesterday @KnottyAuty

“We will shortly undertake a public consultation to understand how the practical implications of this judgment may be best reflected in the updated guidance. The Supreme Court made the legal position clear, so we will not be seeking views on those legal aspects.
The consultation will be launched in mid-May and last for two weeks. We will be seeking views from affected stakeholders.”

CautiousLurker01 · 26/04/2025 23:06

Conxis · 26/04/2025 23:02

This was in their statement yesterday @KnottyAuty

“We will shortly undertake a public consultation to understand how the practical implications of this judgment may be best reflected in the updated guidance. The Supreme Court made the legal position clear, so we will not be seeking views on those legal aspects.
The consultation will be launched in mid-May and last for two weeks. We will be seeking views from affected stakeholders.”

So I assume that women who are positively affected can also respond - muslim women, survivors of CSA and DV etc can all write in to describe the positive impact of this revised understanding of the law?

murasaki · 26/04/2025 23:08

CautiousLurker01 · 26/04/2025 23:06

So I assume that women who are positively affected can also respond - muslim women, survivors of CSA and DV etc can all write in to describe the positive impact of this revised understanding of the law?

I assume so, it's whether they will, we all know who shouts loudest and will play the emotional card.

GrumpyMenopausalWombWielder · 26/04/2025 23:12

I’d like to know why men who bought into the lie they had a right to use women’s spaces/services aren’t out there yelling at Whittle & Burns & whoever else were involved in bringing in the GRA, for pushing that lie for 15 years while pocketing a lot of government cash for doing so. Why buy into the fact women are the ones ‘spoiling’ your imagined self image instead of the narcissist activists who knew that certificate didn’t give any rights of access to women’s stuff?

We’ve had 15 years of abuse, threats, mobbing, monstering, smearing, lies, capture & absurd policies that risk employment when we spoke up, and it’s supposed to be women’s fault you bought the lie, supported the lie, took advantage of the lie & lived the lie, at the expense of women who always had the right to say no, to have female only provision, who were also lied to & about.

How about all those who feel the FWS judgement ‘ruins’ their lives take a long hard look in the mirror & see the sort of person who doesn’t give a shiny shit about women, their safety, their dignity, their experiences or their rights, because you never thought you needed to do any work to secure the ‘safe space’ you claim to need when you felt entitled to take ours.

Honestly, I’m absolutely raging at the pity posts here, trying to shame & guilt women for standing up for what was always legal & our rights. Take your poor me & my poor friend bollocks & yell at those who lied to everyone who claimed women never had any right to say no, to our boundaries, our spaces, our rights.

My tiny violin —> 🎻

Faffertea · 26/04/2025 23:18

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 26/04/2025 21:01

Absolutely.

The trans rights lobby massively overplayed their hand.

If they'd stuck to toilets they'd have got away with it, even with the occasional unfortunate woman or child being assaulted.

But no. They went way beyond anything that could reasonably be said to be ensuring the basic safety and dignity of quietly law abiding trans people.

It turned into "we need to respect the gender identity of convicted rapists" and "female rape survivors who want single sex care are bigots who need to reframe their trauma" and trans women taking medals in women's sporting competitions and activist thugs posing for selfies with politicians whilst holding up placards calling for TERFs to be beheaded and peeing all over the front steps to the Equality and Human Rights Commission.

Far from being powerless and marginalised, they thought they were untouchable. They thought they could continue to rub their hatred for women in our faces and that no one would ever do anything about it because we're only women.

And now they've found out to their cost that they were wrong. That there is in fact a limit to what women will put up with.

So there's no use crying crocodile tears now.

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I feel like “overplaying their hand” gives what lobbyists have been doing too much credit. They didn’t start with GRA for admin purposes, start using loos get carried away and end up here.

They strategised it. They strategised that if they could get males who identify as women into prisons, in what they considered the most difficult circumstance then they could get it accepted everywhere. It was always the ultimate aim. And they used some of the most vulnerable women in our society as sacrifices to some of the worst men. All because of their wants and needs.

I cannot get over the cynicism of that. It was truly despicable.

KnottyAuty · 26/04/2025 23:19

Thanks. Good to know it’s about the practical application. So small business owners, groups, advertising/signage etc. Probably all the issues discussed on the boards here.

In which case it might be an opportunity to flag the practical problems of dealing with people who refuse to follow the rules? Which will be underlined by the TRA responses complaining about the rules and/or saying they ignore them!?

Datun · 26/04/2025 23:20

GrumpyMenopausalWombWielder · 26/04/2025 23:12

I’d like to know why men who bought into the lie they had a right to use women’s spaces/services aren’t out there yelling at Whittle & Burns & whoever else were involved in bringing in the GRA, for pushing that lie for 15 years while pocketing a lot of government cash for doing so. Why buy into the fact women are the ones ‘spoiling’ your imagined self image instead of the narcissist activists who knew that certificate didn’t give any rights of access to women’s stuff?

We’ve had 15 years of abuse, threats, mobbing, monstering, smearing, lies, capture & absurd policies that risk employment when we spoke up, and it’s supposed to be women’s fault you bought the lie, supported the lie, took advantage of the lie & lived the lie, at the expense of women who always had the right to say no, to have female only provision, who were also lied to & about.

How about all those who feel the FWS judgement ‘ruins’ their lives take a long hard look in the mirror & see the sort of person who doesn’t give a shiny shit about women, their safety, their dignity, their experiences or their rights, because you never thought you needed to do any work to secure the ‘safe space’ you claim to need when you felt entitled to take ours.

Honestly, I’m absolutely raging at the pity posts here, trying to shame & guilt women for standing up for what was always legal & our rights. Take your poor me & my poor friend bollocks & yell at those who lied to everyone who claimed women never had any right to say no, to our boundaries, our spaces, our rights.

My tiny violin —> 🎻

I’d like to know why men who bought into the lie they had a right to use women’s spaces/services aren’t out there yelling at Whittle & Burns & whoever else were involved

I really would like an actual answer to this.

What would they say? But we wanted it? So it doesn't matter that they lied?

What possible answer would be forthcoming???

Datun · 26/04/2025 23:21

Faffertea · 26/04/2025 23:18

I feel like “overplaying their hand” gives what lobbyists have been doing too much credit. They didn’t start with GRA for admin purposes, start using loos get carried away and end up here.

They strategised it. They strategised that if they could get males who identify as women into prisons, in what they considered the most difficult circumstance then they could get it accepted everywhere. It was always the ultimate aim. And they used some of the most vulnerable women in our society as sacrifices to some of the worst men. All because of their wants and needs.

I cannot get over the cynicism of that. It was truly despicable.

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