is mumsnet a safe space for me?

[rexrabbit]

would you say mumsnet these days is a safe space for a non-transphobic lesbian with children to hang out?

Any chance you can translate non het cis stuff into English?

Might depend how marginal your opinions are. I mean, no one can squeeze you off the page or anything. We all get the same amount of typing space.

What would invalidate you? Why would random users on a talk site validate you?

If you say something lots of people like they’ll use the thank or agree emoji. So that’s validating I suppose. There’s no ‘downvote’ equivalent.

Where's that then?

The only person who knows what feels safe for you is you. So the best thing I can suggest is that you spend some time reading previous threads on any Mumsnet boards you are interested in, to get a feel of the place. That's what I did for a while before I started posting.

Plus: I also want dragons

I want dragons too, I am going to stamp my feet and shout It's not fair until I get some.

With, what, 9 million (?) users there isn't a single thing everybody is going to agree on. There's probably at least 1 person here who'll disagree with you about the speed of light in a vacuum or the shape of the globe. And there's variation between the different boards

But on the whole I'd say the feminism board is pro lesbian, and anti people asking vague, peculiar questions.

Oh fuck off with your humble brag. Many of us don’t even have a dragon. And there you are complaining about the lack of fire eating.

The globe is definitely flat

<confiscates Beetle's dragon>

The million dollar question is : How do you validate or un-validate someone?

This is crucial stuff.

To be fair I complained prior to the complaints of people being dragonless.

I am so very sorry for actually having dragons.

Please forgive me.
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Pssst...

Want to buy a dragon?

This is only a metaphorical “space”, though - so how can it be “safe”? It isn’t real.

Never mind the dragons. I want a magnificent octopus.

Nope, it's all mine. Soz.

What needs to happen for you to be non-margin nalised and validated?

I’ve just done a quiz to find out my dragon name. It’s Drogon if anyone’s interested.

If we are only reliant on validation from others to shore up our self esteem, am we will never learn resilience and self determination, op.

Learn to validate yourself. It's the most empowering gift you can give yourself. Apart from fire breathing dragons, of course!

Nobody ever wants a beetle!

❤ op I tried to make you a lesbian flag out of coloured hearts so that you'd feel more welcome, but there was only a black one there and now I can't even delete it.

Now you have to tell us where we get our Dragon name!

Hi OP.

Would you just explain what "non het non cis" means.

You are now literally Hitler and dragonphobic

What makes an average octopus into a magnificent octopus? Does it need a safe space to be its authentic self?

Especially not a boiled one @Boiledbeetle