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is mumsnet a safe space for me?

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rexrabbit · 04/02/2025 21:04

would you say mumsnet these days is a safe space for a non-transphobic lesbian with children to hang out?

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OakleyAnnie · 04/02/2025 23:08

Maaate · 04/02/2025 22:14

Cor such a coninkydink that all these ever so loving and tolerant posters end up on here completely by accident after what happened last night.

🤔

What happened last night?

DrSpartacularsMagnificentOctopus · 04/02/2025 23:09

ManyATrueWord · 04/02/2025 23:08

Anyone asking if the Internet is a safe space really needs to get off the Internet. Also they should rethink what they mean by "safe".

Your nickname is very apt here!

GetDressedYouMerryGentlemen · 04/02/2025 23:09

BaronessBomburst · 04/02/2025 23:06

Chocolate bars were a step in the right direction. It's usually full of liquorice.

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But then the lovely biscuits would taste of hideous liquorice 🤢.

Joolsin · 04/02/2025 23:09

FallenSloppyDead · 04/02/2025 23:06

Am I the only one that read 'danger' as 'dragon'?

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I'm reading everything as dragon by this point: danger=dragon, gender=dragon, beetle=dragon, dragon=dragon.

Thelnebriati · 04/02/2025 23:10

Calling lesbians transphobic is rape culture.

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 04/02/2025 23:11

GailBlancheViola · 04/02/2025 21:27

The million dollar question is : How do you validate or un-validate someone?

This is crucial stuff.

In validate please. Some dragons are pedants.

PennyApril54 · 04/02/2025 23:12

izimbra · 04/02/2025 22:27

The only people who aren't 'safe' on mumsnet are transgender people and those who love a transgender person.

Because this board is full of aggressively transphobic posters who can't mention transgender people without mentioning in the next breath that they see them primarily as a danger to others, and that the start and end point of gender non-conformism is that can be can and should be 'cured' with therapy.

There's been real pleasure expressed on these board about what's happening to transgender people in the US right now, and distaste for the words of Bishop Budde in calling for mercy and kindness towards transgender people who are scared about their futures under Trump.

If you're ok with hearing that shit then this is a safe space for you.

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Well people are clearly not safe from mass generalisations

MsPavlichenko · 04/02/2025 23:12

rexrabbit · 04/02/2025 21:14

I meant safe as in feeling non marginalised or invalidated

That’s not what safe means. Do you feel marginalised and/or invalidated when folk don’t agree with you or challenge your opinions? If so you’re better off avoiding mumsnet , and indeed almost everywhere and everyone on and offline.

AccidentallyWesAnderson · 04/02/2025 23:20

ThisFluentBiscuit · 04/02/2025 23:03

Stay off the Feminism boards. The pure hate for trans people there will sicken you.

The board that you're on right now?!

Bannedontherun · 04/02/2025 23:22

I needed this rambunctious sense of humour to end the day, i only hope SP is on here as my god she needs some humour after today

RumNotRun · 04/02/2025 23:23

@EmpressaurusKitty that depends on the size of the beetles. They may be huge fire breathing dragon beetles. We need Boiled's AI picture skills 😞

CandyLeBonBon · 04/02/2025 23:24

ThisFluentBiscuit · 04/02/2025 23:03

Stay off the Feminism boards. The pure hate for trans people there will sicken you.

You're trolling everyone at this point, surely?

(Note. I am not troll hunting)

Bellie710 · 04/02/2025 23:25

Safe space for what? I have always thought mumsnet was a great safe space for everyone as it is totally anonymous.

Even if someone disagrees with you or you dont like what they say it is totally irrelevant as they have no idea who you are and you dnt have to listen to anyone (as most people dont)

Joystir59 · 04/02/2025 23:25

No that makes me a lesbian- and adult human female who is sexually attracted to other adult human females. That's the definition of a lesbian.

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 04/02/2025 23:25

Boiledbeetle · 04/02/2025 22:22

So I take it informing AIBU that I own many toilet brushes would be a no no then?

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You will need thick skin.

oakleaffy · 04/02/2025 23:26

Boiledbeetle · 04/02/2025 22:49

Hmmm

How about 10 magic beans and 12 tea cakes?

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Tunnocks Teacakes GIF by voben

You tortured me with an image of a Tunnocks Tea cake wrapper
and all the shops are closed!
That snowy fluffy goodness underneath that crispy chocolate dome!

CandyLeBonBon · 04/02/2025 23:27

RumNotRun · 04/02/2025 22:51

To whomever mentioned dinosaurs being non fire breathing dragons, my tiny mind was blown when I found out that a pterodactyl is not a dinosaur. It also doesn't breathe fire, but that wasn't a surprise.

Hmm, @EmpressaurusKitty and @TheBroonOneAndTheWhiteOne maybe a dragon would be good on the stag for when Vix is weary of breaking up fights?

What???? Not a dinosaur??? How so?

My 6 year old brain will never recover!!!

What are they then? Leathery birds?

I'm intrigued (I could google but I'd rather ask you!)

Boiledbeetle · 04/02/2025 23:29

RumNotRun · 04/02/2025 23:23

@EmpressaurusKitty that depends on the size of the beetles. They may be huge fire breathing dragon beetles. We need Boiled's AI picture skills 😞

I feel like I'm currently on the naughty step with the image ban going on. Co Pilot and Microsoft Designer will be sending someone to check I'm still alive if it goes on for much longer!

oakleaffy · 04/02/2025 23:29
Killing Eve Cleaning GIF by BBC America

I own a toilet brush.
I’m an outlier.
a 50p one from IKEA.
For use as self defence only.

oakleaffy · 04/02/2025 23:31

Boiledbeetle · 04/02/2025 23:29

I feel like I'm currently on the naughty step with the image ban going on. Co Pilot and Microsoft Designer will be sending someone to check I'm still alive if it goes on for much longer!

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Your name reminds me of shellac
poor beetles 🪲!

Are lac beetles boiled ?

Boiledbeetle · 04/02/2025 23:31

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 04/02/2025 23:25

You will need thick skin.

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I'm a beetle. I have a carapace!

😏😉

GutsyShark · 04/02/2025 23:31

I avoid the trans debate altogether, I don’t understand it and don’t think I have anything positive to add to it. I just don’t read the trans stuff on here and stick to what interests me and it’s all fine!

Boiledbeetle · 04/02/2025 23:32

oakleaffy · 04/02/2025 23:31

Your name reminds me of shellac
poor beetles 🪲!

Are lac beetles boiled ?

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I'm too afraid to Google the answer!

Bannedontherun · 04/02/2025 23:32

<whispers i do not own a toilet brush> this is because my husband is the dishwasher in our house and he would not appreciate a toilet brush being, erm…placed in him.

selffellatingouroborosofhate · 04/02/2025 23:34

EmpressaurusKitty · 04/02/2025 22:26

Tell the Litter Tray that you’re buying a cat from Gumtree as your 5 year old’s birthday present, & intend to let her have just one litter.

Your screen might melt, but you’ll still be safer than I’d feel if I went to Pride in my LGB Alliance T-shirt.

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As a Litter Tray regular here, I can confirm this.

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