I must be honest and say I keep my mouth shut. I wish I didn't but DS1 is gay and the one subject he foams at the mouth over is JKR. He is entirely irrational about this - has refused to read a word she has said (if he did, he would be forced to admit she is no transphobe just a fair campaigner for women's rights) but he glares and changes the subject if her name even comes up.
And DS2 is dating a woman who identifies as a man (or used to... she wears a lot of lacy mini skirts and jewellery these days and has changed her name again to something far more feminine, so I am never sure, but too late to reverse the double masectomy 😥) One of my dearest friends also has a female to male trans teen.
If I spoke out, I would alienate too many people so very dear to me. I love DS2's partner - whether female or transmale - they are a gorgeous, sweet-natured, fun-spirited person who makes DS happy right now. I don't care how they dress or if they change their name every few months or that they want to be called they not he or she. All of that's fine by me and always was.
But I do care that 6 foot hulking men are thugging their way into women's sports, taking medals from sportswomen and putting female players in physical danger. I care that autogynophiles have carte blanche to bully and perve and control women in changing rooms, prisons, even rape crisis centres FFS. And tbh, I care on DS's partner's behalf that surgeons who should know better have removed this gorgeous person's breasts before they are old enough to truly know if they will ever want children and to breast feed.
And I am beyond exasperated that we cannot have a civil conversation about how dangerous and misogynistic it has been to conflate these complex and separate issues into one, bland, unquestionable #bekind theory that gives retrogressive power to too many deeply questionable and controlling men.