Is the Kink Scene a Cult? Interesting Podcast

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Was I In a Cult UK Kink Scene episode

Latest episodes of the 'Was I In A Cult?' Podcast features a guest who gives a shocking account of the UK Kink Scene. She states the scene acts as a cover for coercive control and abuse and gives a horrifying example of attempts to link 'dark age players' to "Minor Attracted Persons"/ AKA paedophiles

From the comments it appears "Kink shaming" is the new hate crime as there's quite a pile on in response to these episodes. The guest provides a convincing feminist critique of this subculture and I found her story alarming. Yet it appears only 'lived experience' that fits a certain narrative is authentic as she is widely dismissed as phobic and bigoted.

Worth a listen

She admitted that she was on loads of drugs at the time.

You have an account of a time where you were drug and alcohol dependent.

I have by saying several times that kot all men are sexually dominant. Nobody has engaged with that point. I've pointed out dominant women... nothing. This is all about dominant men spanking submissive women. It bears no actual relevance to kink.

I'm asking about sexually dominant women who sexually dominate submissive men. How do they fit into this abuse theory?

Yes we have workshops and courses and all sorts on how to do things safely. Breath play is a kink that some people are into but it isn't that common. It's become more common among vanilla men it seems than it is among kinky men. The most common kinks that dominant people have are to do with impact (like spanking) and bondage/shibari.

Breath play is a niche kink practiced by few and mainly 1v1.

Again, all of these activities are fetishes that some kinky people have. Being kinky doesn't mean you're into A,B and C. It means you might be into A and/or B and/or C.

I don't see how being both dominant and submissive would change things. Can you expand on that?

No. I believe people who display a lack of compassion, empathy and continually break boundaries are most likely to be dangerous. Whether or not they have contact with the kink community is totally irrelevant. Most men who have killed women have never been to a kink event. Most men who have used a rough sex defence have never been to a kink event.

Kink isn't the red flag.

But I'm done here. I may do a AMA on kink at some point but I bore of labouring over the same topic for hours.

@ByGentleFatball WHAT ABOUT COMINANT WOMEN????

What about you RTFT and respond to some of the points raised here. Or better still, listen to the actual podcast we are discussing.

You are coming across a tad hysterical. The kink scene is great for dominant women as there's a plethora of cheating men out to worship their feet? 😆 You're welcome to them!

Doh! Dominant. Natch! Is too early...

Here is where I asked you about your experiences. Kindly read the fucking thread.

Er that isn't me. I quoted another poster in response to your "what about dominant women?"

But hey; is probably just another junkie, outcast or unhinged woman like everyone else you have dismissed. Unlike you, who is the authoritative voice of kink. So dominant! So powerful! We should all be worshipping your feet along with the cheating scumbags who prop up your ego 😏

So why did you quote a post I've responded to?

Your posts have certainly been very enlightening into the type of person who would be attracted to these types of sex acts.

Goodness. Sounds as if you're angry posters aren't providing the sexual information that you require?

I think that can be told by the number of thanks I have on posts here

😂😂

No I'm responding to the accusation that I've not answered the dominant women who have commented.

Outbursts of indiscriminate anger and malice are often rooted in insecurity and severe cognitive dissonance, and are also often seen in individuals with poor emotional regulation.

https://www.angermanage.co.uk/low-self-esteem-anger/

https://discoverymood.com/blog/anxiety-and-anger/

God Fatball can you at least stop posting multiple times in a row while calling other posters junkies etc? It's really annoying to read.
Very enlightening thread, though.

But you haven't engaged with the substance of what they are saying. The points about pro-dommes being negged by creepy men.. the ultimate point that "domination" is an illusion catering to porn sick male fantasies.

Ahh Fatball don't need this. She's got all our cheating husbands to worship her feet. Its all the other dommes who are nuts and making the scene bad!