I'm sorry, but why does she have control over me then?
She wants me to use male pronouns. Thats exerting control over me.
Then there's my brother who tried to rewrite my entire history and entire identity by exerting his control over me when he decided that his identity could be changed and that the right to self determination, only applied to him.
This is not how identity works. It is NOT individual. It is NOT neutral. It has ramifications and impact on others, particularly those closest to an individual in terms of THEIR identity.
We should have the right to say no if we do not believe in this.