Bluestocking: Do androids dream of electric hair?

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Previously on 'The Bluestocking':
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5198256-autumn-leaves-crackling-fires-quokkas-and-puffins-at-the-bluestocking?page=40&reply=139728736

Can you do an analogy? I'm curious now. Do you want some more hot chocolate?

We could guess....
Student failed to hand in homework/project on time. Magpie rightly remonstrated with student. Student got parents to come in shout at Magpie, along the lines of " my poor child, you pick on him, he doesn't have to do what you say, if he did homework he'd have no time for playing Fortnite, SNOT FAIR..."

Anywhere close?

Very! Throw in an extra dose of entitlement...

"I've paid little Johnny's tuition fees.."

Fortunately my boss greatly enjoys taking on arsey parents when they get abusive. Very nice to know they've got my back.

Hurrah. Great to have a supportive boss. (Oddly, autocorrect tried to change that to a "supportive bird".)

Oh gosh magpie don't let it get you down.

i called my husband a fucking cunty fucker today, all about the shenanigans of his demented mother who is (not on purpose) making all our lives very difficult.

We have been together 37 years and have always been madly deeply for each other.

That’s why am not on here a lot ATM.

Can i have a gin and a pile of snowballs for me and magpie pleeeeese

Here you go Banned and Magpie

ErrolTheDragon · Yesterday 17:08

Meanwhile I've been enjoying this thread but maybe there's artwork to be done?
Could dragons really exist?

Hmmm, @ErrolTheDragon ... perhaps they could be glimpsed through the mist ... or is it STEAM?

So sorry to hear this, Banned. It sounds like you and your DH are being sorely tried by a situation beyond anybody's control, including his mother's.
My main concern is for you obvs, cos you're a Bluestocking regular, but I can't help thinking... poor DH, this is about his mother - difficult on so many levels.

I hope you feel you can let off steam to each other like you did today, knowing that it's the situation, and not your feelings for each other, that's causing it.
Pop in here for a gin or hot choc and all the snowballs you can eat any time, take care in the meantime.

@MarieDeGournay Awe much appreciated. His mum has 6 hours per day care support but has taken to wandering in between visits. He had to abandon work to retrieve her from a complete stranger in an unsafe area, one shoe and one boot on in the snow.

He is so stressed he takes it out on me.

Social care have lead boots she needs to be in a care home, and we are really worried about her coming to harm.

We are fine now he apologised and is letting me help today.

Thanks again xxx

You're welcome, Banned, stay strong.
to you
to your DH
to his poor mum

Marie has put it so eloquently. Banned, lots of kindly thoughts and Bluestocking love coming your way. Sometimes life is just a bugger. X

I agree with @MarieDeGournay too, @Bannedontherun - and I am sending you and your dh lots of love (and Tunnock's products, of course). Come and vent here whenever you need to.

If it would help to have a listening ear, I'm more than happy to pm you my phone number.

Dear Banned, what an awful situation for you all. Just when new baby grandchild Banned has arrived as well.

I would like to add my thoughts and love to everyone else's here. The situation is completely unbearable and unavoidable - it's a time of life thing, whether it's your mother or his mother, it's very much expected that the woman will provide the backbone emotionally as well as practically.

I'm very glad that DH has apologised, and that you are both working together today.

🪷🪷🪷

@Bannedontherun I feel your pain.

My MIL's dementia was very hard on the whole family. DH would return from visiting her in the filthiest of tempers which - as with you - was often taken out on me. We had years of trying to keep her in her safe in her own home whilst trying to winkle her out of said home, massive sibling fall-outs due to some who shall be nameless undermining the efforts of others, etc etc. It is a horrible thing to have to handle.

I really hope that things ease up for you.

O gosh i am so overwhelmed with your support, it has cheered me no end.

Mr banned in meetings at home all day so i have his moby (we have a camera on the porch door). I managed to ring her three times this morning to stop her going out.

I said hiya what you up to today she said i am not going to go out this morning (seemingly unaware i was looking at her in a woolly hat and an outdoor coat on)

LOL

Went round in the end. Good job i did found a big number two on the floor.

carers arrived so i can relax until three thirty then back on watch the porch duty.

God i hope this gets sorted soon. Mr banned does not expect anything of me, but it is getting impossible, his siblings are not much use and one is away.

Anyway i hope Social care do something soon….

Agin thank you all xxxx

Oh bless you banned. I really do hope you don't have to do this for too long. Too tough. X

Dementia is such a cruel disease. My fellas mum is just coming down with it. At the moment she's just obsessed with the location of things; handbag, gloves and whether or not you want tea, biscuits or a sandwich. His dad's finding it hard.

Do you have something like an airtag (I think that's what it's called) to track her in case she does escape? Although making sure it would be on her?

I always felt we were very lucky because my father never wandered - dementia is tough going anyway, but that adds an extra level of background anxiety.

I've had a dull cold day because the electrics were out for 41/2 hours (I had been warned; I had forgotten the warning), and now want to stock up on water and stuff in case we get the threatened snow and lose power again.

Hi Banned! Hope your sentry duty is going well right now, & that things get sorted out soon.

I just got the letter saying I have been awarded the standard rate of disability living allowance and the transport component. And it is being backdated 2 months.

And we have had some snow - just a powdering, but I don’t feel left out any more! 😂😂😂

Well done Woley. I really hope that makes you feel heard, as well as helping financially.
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It occurred to me ( and is possibly a shit idea) but would there be any milage in a Bluestocking WhatsApp group. We'd have to out ourselves, but our personal stuff wouldn't be online for anyone to see.

Tell me to bog off if I've read the room all wrong!

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius Yay!

No snow here but it was zero degrees last night - that's enough for me. Lots of sun & a bright blue sky today. We went out to the local Italian restaurant for lunch to celebrate the end of the building work, & it was lovely.