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3 questions for GC women

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ChirpyFinch · 28/08/2024 00:27

As the title says, three questions for the women in this chat.

  1. Do you think the majority of people are gender critical, and why/why not?

  2. Globally, the right wing is more vocally gender critical than the left. They are also far more likely to be regressive on a range of women’s issues like abortion and anti-gay. Why do you think they agree with GCs on this one issue but disagree on so much else (if you think they do?)

  3. How many trans people do you estimate there are globally?

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NoBinturongsHereMate · 29/08/2024 10:34

Sorry @RickyBobbysKFC not Rufus. @EveSix?

CocoapuffPuff · 29/08/2024 10:34

I'm guessing you only get so many deletions within a certain time span before you automatically get banned?

I don't see rock cakes being an offensive topic so I guess it more of a "talking in the wrong tone of voice" crime.

ArabellaScott · 29/08/2024 10:34

Oh. Well, I did not know that.

It's interesting, though, that as 'paraphilia' replaced 'perversions', the word 'paraphilia' has become to be perceived in the same way as the word 'perversion'.

It's almost as though just changing the word doesn't change the thing it applies to.

NoBinturongsHereMate · 29/08/2024 10:39

@HeadTerf and @Omlettes have a deletion each, but I can't remember what those posts were.

NoBinturongsHereMate · 29/08/2024 10:44

Oddly, my recipe seems to be back - I'm sure that was one of the vanished yesterday. And of course there are dozens of cake and biscuit posts left untouched, so it's horribly inconsistent modding.

Enforce the 'no diversions' rule or don't (preferably don't, because that's what human conversations do), but don't pick on a few people.

Helleofabore · 29/08/2024 10:44

CocoapuffPuff · 29/08/2024 10:28

No, I saw that post. The OP said she'd been banned for cake recipes, and expected to be banned again once her new poster name was noticed. She said banned.

Chilling.

CocoapuffPuff · 29/08/2024 10:47

Helleofabore · 29/08/2024 10:44

Chilling.

I suspect that's the intention. Prob not of MN, but of the monitors who deem us worthy of subduing. It must be so difficult, being afraid of women talking.

NoBinturongsHereMate · 29/08/2024 10:48

I note the OP didn't reappear last night.

TheCoolOliveBalonz · 29/08/2024 10:49

If cake recipes are bad faith why is starting a conversation in a snippy tone and then not returning ok? I'm genuinely lost.

GustyFinknottle · 29/08/2024 10:51

DeanElderberry · 29/08/2024 07:58

This beliefs and feelings thing is weird. I believe in God. I have a sense, a feeling, that God exists. The way I live my life is shaped by that.

There is nothing I or anyone else could do (despite much theological effort) to prove God 'exists' because it is a concept, and idea, an emotion, not a 'thing'.

Many highly intelligent, moral, educated, responsible, creative, sensitive and sensible people do not believe in God, have no sense of God or feelings about it.

Nobody thinks that my strand of religious belief has to be demonstrated by hairstyle or fashion or surgery or life-alerting medication. Thank - er - God.

Which is partly why I am disturbed by the current theory that belief in gender does require such demonstration.

Which is partly why I am disturbed by the current theory that belief in gender does require such demonstration.

Yes, I know other religious people who are disturbed by the pressure they feel to back up their beliefs with evidence now that 'belief' is under the microscope.

I take it that you don't think that something that could lead autistic people (and people who are suffering from psychological issues or MH illness, people who've been emotionally or sexually abused) to have extreme body modifications with all the poor psychological, social and medical outcomes we're all aware of is a good thin? You don't really think that that mutilation should proceed without other less damaging interventions or without evidence that it works, do you?

There's growing evidence that a great many things we thought just happened randomly are actually hard-wired and genetic.

A tendency to authoritarianism, for example:
https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m000y7sq

And possibly also a tendency to religion: The God Gene:
https://www.nature.com/articles/ng1204-1241

BBC Radio 4 - The Spark, Karen Stenner and the authoritarian predisposition

Helen Lewis meets people offering radical solutions to the big problems of our times.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m000y7sq

GustyFinknottle · 29/08/2024 10:54

CocoapuffPuff · 29/08/2024 10:34

I'm guessing you only get so many deletions within a certain time span before you automatically get banned?

I don't see rock cakes being an offensive topic so I guess it more of a "talking in the wrong tone of voice" crime.

Yes, this. But they don't automatically inform you of deletions. So unless you go back through all your conversations looking for deletions, the axe can fall very suddenly.

DeanElderberry · 29/08/2024 11:00

The religion I belong to abandoned the requirement for male circumcision that some of its founders (I'm being very mature and nor referring to them as male members) grew up with two thousand years ago, specifically to make the point that bodily change is not needed to demonstrate spiritual change.

So no, I'm not in favour of people doing damage to their bodies because of a feeling. Particularly if it's a feeling based on the rejection of and denial of science.

Authoritarianism is a whole other thing,

GustyFinknottle · 29/08/2024 11:01

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 29/08/2024 07:54

This has turned into such a fantastic thread. What a shame so many eloquent and intelligent women are having to spend their time arguing against such lysenkoist nonsense.

Your post inspired a 10-minute trawl on t'internet to work out whether 'lysenkoist' was an interesting typo or a thing. And he was was thing, and a very useful one, I suspect, to know about:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trofim_Lysenko#:~:text=Lysenko%20forced%20farmers%20to%20plant,and%20exacerbated%20the%20food%20shortages.

According to Wikipedia (I know, I know) his insistence that seeds be sown very close together to ensure better crops led to Russian famine.

Which is why we need evidence, proper quality, peer-reviewed and test-driven evidence, to be sure that something that starts as a belief is actually a good thing in practice.

He also has something of Simon McBurney about him, don't you think?

Trofim Lysenko - Wikipedia

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Trofim_Lysenko#:~:text=Lysenko%20forced%20farmers%20to%20plant,and%20exacerbated%20the%20food%20shortages.

GustyFinknottle · 29/08/2024 11:03

DeanElderberry · 29/08/2024 11:00

The religion I belong to abandoned the requirement for male circumcision that some of its founders (I'm being very mature and nor referring to them as male members) grew up with two thousand years ago, specifically to make the point that bodily change is not needed to demonstrate spiritual change.

So no, I'm not in favour of people doing damage to their bodies because of a feeling. Particularly if it's a feeling based on the rejection of and denial of science.

Authoritarianism is a whole other thing,

Try telling the women of Afghanistan that.

I think we both know that I'm not just talking about body modification. That's just the most extreme, though not the most pernicious, manifestation of gender ideological belief. The denial of the reality of sex is more dangerous on a societal level.

I've been talking this morning to a lesbian friend who has family in Belfast and Co Antrim and she/s concerned about the number of evangelical churches moving into NI. People go to the US to be trained, then come back and build huge US-style churches and housing communities that, among other things, welcome trans people — not because they love transpeople, but because they dislike them less than they like lesbians and gay men. If anyone in the Ballymena area is reading, perhaps you can confirm that the evangelicals there are buying up loads of property, including pubs, as part of their mission?

This is the one I hear mentioned most:
https://www.gpastures.co.uk

ElleWoods15 · 29/08/2024 11:09

CautiousLurker · 28/08/2024 22:49

Just back from a few hours drinking with an old friend and not sure whether to laugh or cry at this thread now. Her DD, 11 days younger than my own, with similar psychiatric profile to my own (incl EuPD, tho’ not ASD/ADHD) but with 18m as an inpatient aged 14-16, is now 19, on T and had her breasts removed by the NHS on 1st July. Just how FUCKING TRAGIC is that? And just what the FUCK is wrong with the NHS? Am I GC, yes I fucking am.

How does the young person in question feel about this though.

@CautiousLurker and her friend are devastated, consider it tragic etc. But surely the person whose feelings are key in this debate are those of the young person in question (not clear whether they are NB or a trans man hence using non gendered language)?

Helleofabore · 29/08/2024 11:13

TheCoolOliveBalonz · 29/08/2024 10:49

If cake recipes are bad faith why is starting a conversation in a snippy tone and then not returning ok? I'm genuinely lost.

We await an answer to your question with eagerness!

It has been asked before.

Just like many of those who accuse posters of not allowing alternative opinions seem to be inclined to pepper their posts with name calling and sentences of shame!

But (some of) those posters also dislike having this pointed out. They dislike having it pointed out that their own points assume a position of moral judgement while declaring everyone is silencing them. The hypocrisy is clear once you sort through the emoting. Because to them, they are only posting what the righteously believe and any challenge is unsafe and abuse.

And Some of those posters thrive on being told they have again shamed a whole group of people using false or misapplied evidence and adherence to empty mantras.

Still the accusations of silencing continue with one hand, with the other hand dishing out shame, sometimes using slurs they deny are slurs. The cycle is self fulfilling. They post, people react to the shaming and then the poster claims to be silenced.

Plus ca change

GailBlancheViola · 29/08/2024 11:16

Indeed Helleofabore.

Helleofabore · 29/08/2024 11:18

ElleWoods15 · 29/08/2024 11:09

How does the young person in question feel about this though.

@CautiousLurker and her friend are devastated, consider it tragic etc. But surely the person whose feelings are key in this debate are those of the young person in question (not clear whether they are NB or a trans man hence using non gendered language)?

What should be celebrated about a young female person who has potentially shortened, certainly limited their life with this treatment?

Do you believe that these side effects can be dismissed as just gender affirming care? And that the ramifications are clearly understood by a teenager?

ArabellaScott · 29/08/2024 11:22

The other point that I think is often glossed over is that 'delusion' is a fairly common occurence.

Accepting without question that someone is actually the opposite sex because this is how they say they feel seems somewhat jarring when we think about people who think they are Jesus Christ, or anorexics who think they are fat, or any number of other ideas/feelings that don't correspond to material reality.

ArabellaScott · 29/08/2024 11:23

Why is this particular delusion 'affirmed' and other delusions dealt with differently?

A man is not a woman, even if he truly thinks he is.

ElleWoods15 · 29/08/2024 11:23

Helleofabore · 29/08/2024 11:18

What should be celebrated about a young female person who has potentially shortened, certainly limited their life with this treatment?

Do you believe that these side effects can be dismissed as just gender affirming care? And that the ramifications are clearly understood by a teenager?

What about the effects of refusing gender affirming care, and indeed of family etc refusing the acknowledge a young person’s gender identity - associated suicide risk etc?

My question though related to the fact that the response was unequivocally ‘how tragic’, ‘how devastating’ to @CautiousLurker’s post, relating primarily to how she and the young person’s parent felt. But no consideration at all was given to the mental health and overall impact on the young person in question.

AmaryllisNightAndDay · 29/08/2024 11:27

CautiousLurker · 28/08/2024 22:49

Just back from a few hours drinking with an old friend and not sure whether to laugh or cry at this thread now. Her DD, 11 days younger than my own, with similar psychiatric profile to my own (incl EuPD, tho’ not ASD/ADHD) but with 18m as an inpatient aged 14-16, is now 19, on T and had her breasts removed by the NHS on 1st July. Just how FUCKING TRAGIC is that? And just what the FUCK is wrong with the NHS? Am I GC, yes I fucking am.

That's terrible. How's your friend doing?

TheCoolOliveBalonz · 29/08/2024 11:28

ElleWoods15 · 29/08/2024 11:23

What about the effects of refusing gender affirming care, and indeed of family etc refusing the acknowledge a young person’s gender identity - associated suicide risk etc?

My question though related to the fact that the response was unequivocally ‘how tragic’, ‘how devastating’ to @CautiousLurker’s post, relating primarily to how she and the young person’s parent felt. But no consideration at all was given to the mental health and overall impact on the young person in question.

Reading this, I thought it was 2021 again! The debate has moved on hugely in the past couple of years. Might be time to catch up? Very few people now argue that so called trans health care has anything to do with suicide rates.

NoBinturongsHereMate · 29/08/2024 11:30

Very few people now argue that so called trans health care has anything to do with suicide rates.

Apart from the demonstrated increase in risk after medical/surgical transition.

ElleWoods15 · 29/08/2024 11:30

TheCoolOliveBalonz · 29/08/2024 11:28

Reading this, I thought it was 2021 again! The debate has moved on hugely in the past couple of years. Might be time to catch up? Very few people now argue that so called trans health care has anything to do with suicide rates.

Excuse me?!

I’m talking about lack of access to healthcare and affirmation- ie the opposite to what has happened in this case from the NHS at least.

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