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SinnerBoy · 24/07/2024 06:11

biscuitandcake · 22/07/2024 19:32

My personal opinion is we should have agreed to send Van De Velde (and others like him) back to the Netherlands but made him swim tied to a large millstone.

I'm not a religious person, but sometimes, going Biblical does seem appropriate:

https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/search=Matthew%2018%3A6&version=KJV

"But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea."

0Oo · 24/07/2024 07:58

ageratum1 · 26/06/2024 09:46

Because he has served his sentence.

Except he did not serve his sentence.

"Under a treaty between the Netherlands and UK, Van de Velde was transferred to the Netherlands to serve his sentence. The sentence was at that time adjusted in line with Dutch law, and the charge of rape was substituted for that of fornication.[10] After serving a year of his original four year sentence, he was released from prison. The National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children (NSPCC) condemned his comments at the time, stating that his "lack of remorse and self-pity is breathtaking"

Source: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Steven_van_de_Velde

Steven van de Velde - Wikipedia

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Steven_van_de_Velde#cite_note-10

Grammarnut · 24/07/2024 09:57

Userxyd · 24/07/2024 05:31

Ugh how can anyone be interested in a man who did that to a 12 year old?
How is he walking around freely let alone representing the Netherlands at the Olympics.
I'm shocked at their lack of laws around online grooming and paedophilia- I'd've thought EU law would require proper sentencing etc for crimes of that magnitude especially cos it seems like a civilised place otherwise.
I guess it goes with the prostitution approach but I thought they were liberal in a sensible progressive way about consenting adults etc - this just makes me think it's all just about seedy sex and drug money and they don't care about children getting harmed in the process. Shame on them ☹️

Agree. EU law is not concerned in local paedophilia laws (i.e. not in its 'competence') - the EU is not some utopia where women have all the rights you would like, it depends on the country and the local agenda - and the Netherlands' view on prostitution and 'consenting adults' fits exactly with having no laws on online grooming and little worry about paedophilia - i.e. they are sex-positive. A society that believes prostitution and pornography harm no-one is just as likely (very likely) to dismiss child-rape, where the child has been groomed so appears to consent, as fine, not a huge crime at all, because, look, they enjoyed it and they 'consented'. This is the logical outcome of sex-positivity ideas, grounded in queer theory.

murasaki · 24/07/2024 11:44

It does seem odd that GB can manage to not take a woman who hit a horse (and rightly so) and the Dutch are happy to take a child rapist.

ScrollingLeaves · 24/07/2024 12:01

Grammarnut · 24/07/2024 09:57

Agree. EU law is not concerned in local paedophilia laws (i.e. not in its 'competence') - the EU is not some utopia where women have all the rights you would like, it depends on the country and the local agenda - and the Netherlands' view on prostitution and 'consenting adults' fits exactly with having no laws on online grooming and little worry about paedophilia - i.e. they are sex-positive. A society that believes prostitution and pornography harm no-one is just as likely (very likely) to dismiss child-rape, where the child has been groomed so appears to consent, as fine, not a huge crime at all, because, look, they enjoyed it and they 'consented'. This is the logical outcome of sex-positivity ideas, grounded in queer theory.

Edited

And they have the greatest use of child sexual abuse pornography in Europe.

misscockerspaniel · 24/07/2024 13:58

murasaki · 24/07/2024 11:44

It does seem odd that GB can manage to not take a woman who hit a horse (and rightly so) and the Dutch are happy to take a child rapist.

I agree - her behaviour was abhorrent - but it is ironic that the lawyer who raised the complaint on behalf of a client, is Dutch and based in the Netherlands.

Kucinghitam · 24/07/2024 14:47

murasaki · 24/07/2024 11:44

It does seem odd that GB can manage to not take a woman who hit a horse (and rightly so) and the Dutch are happy to take a child rapist.

Indeed.

It's a bit like a mirror image of that "man or bear" thing... Nobody thinks the horse asked for it, but sadly it seems an awful lot of people think the child did.

Grammarnut · 24/07/2024 15:02

ScrollingLeaves · 24/07/2024 12:01

And they have the greatest use of child sexual abuse pornography in Europe.

I did not know that. Appalling. A boycott against this man would be welcome - sadly, I doubt it will happen.

murasaki · 24/07/2024 15:21

Apparently he's also being protected by not doing any media. I think he should be pursued around town by a gaggle of loud journalists.

fedupandstuck · 24/07/2024 15:23

murasaki · 24/07/2024 15:21

Apparently he's also being protected by not doing any media. I think he should be pursued around town by a gaggle of loud journalists.

I think he should be forced to do the standard media interviews, so that he can be asked about this constantly, and be referred to as a sex offender to his face and in front of the other players etc.

murasaki · 24/07/2024 15:28

fedupandstuck · 24/07/2024 15:23

I think he should be forced to do the standard media interviews, so that he can be asked about this constantly, and be referred to as a sex offender to his face and in front of the other players etc.

Exactly.

lcakethereforeIam · 24/07/2024 15:34

There was an article in the DM, behind their paywall. A journalist tried to speak him while the Dutch team were en route with a gaggle of bodyguards. He just stonewalled him.

UpThePankhurst · 24/07/2024 15:47

Really have to wonder why you'd send someone like this with this history to represent your country.

It's not exactly an honour they have earned, and they are going to drag the Dutch team and the country itself through a lot of dirty linen and negative publicity instead of being a focus of pride and celebration.

Bit of a thick decision really.

DysonSphere · 24/07/2024 16:08

I haven't read the thread. The title was horrifying enough.

I feel exhausted.

murasaki · 24/07/2024 16:19

Someone brave with a ticket to one of his matches should wear a t shirt with his name and child rapist on it, under a zip up top, and unveil it at a crucial moment. They'd get thrown out, but the media would pick up on it.

biscuitandcake · 24/07/2024 18:34

murasaki · 24/07/2024 16:19

Someone brave with a ticket to one of his matches should wear a t shirt with his name and child rapist on it, under a zip up top, and unveil it at a crucial moment. They'd get thrown out, but the media would pick up on it.

Even the Dutch sporting acronym NOC-NSF is really easy to turn into Nonce on the hop and they can't ban the Dutch Olympic committees own branding.

YellowAsteroid · 24/07/2024 18:53

murasaki · 24/07/2024 15:21

Apparently he's also being protected by not doing any media. I think he should be pursued around town by a gaggle of loud journalists.

If only for the safety of young female athletes.

murasaki · 24/07/2024 19:02

YellowAsteroid · 24/07/2024 18:53

If only for the safety of young female athletes.

Well quite, some of the skateboarders, for example, are very young.

The gaggle of journalists should also have a sousaphone. So everyone can hear him arriving.

EarthSight · 24/07/2024 20:08

ageratum1 · 26/06/2024 09:46

Because he has served his sentence.

Great. So if someone served their sentence, you'd be ok with working in close quarters with someone like that, not matter what they had done in the past??

EatPraySnooze · 24/07/2024 20:22

This is awful, that poor child. This man is an evil predator. He has no right to represent his country at the Olympics, I'm disgusted he's out of prison. Athletes should be role models

Yougotwhatstuckwhere · 24/07/2024 20:39

@Grammarnut , one of the Vicarage Farm rapists was then allowed to change his name. He went on to groom a vulnerable friend of mine, married very quickly, got her pregnant. He rated her, beat her, threw her out in the snow whilst pregnant. She ultimately took her own life. Baby went into the system.
Our penal system has been broken for years.

This particular deviant is just showing other deviants that being a deviant is just fine and dandy.
Look at me now!
I am disgusted this was even a option for him 😡

Yougotwhatstuckwhere · 24/07/2024 20:40

Rated/raped bloody autocorrect

DysonSphere · 24/07/2024 21:40

Yougotwhatstuckwhere · 24/07/2024 20:39

@Grammarnut , one of the Vicarage Farm rapists was then allowed to change his name. He went on to groom a vulnerable friend of mine, married very quickly, got her pregnant. He rated her, beat her, threw her out in the snow whilst pregnant. She ultimately took her own life. Baby went into the system.
Our penal system has been broken for years.

This particular deviant is just showing other deviants that being a deviant is just fine and dandy.
Look at me now!
I am disgusted this was even a option for him 😡

Goodness gracious, that is appalling.

After reading your post I decided to read more about the Vicarage rapes. I was quite young when they happened, still a child, but I knew of the case in my twenties.

I didn't know about the disgraceful sentences and that one of the burglars received more time for burglary than those that commited the rape did for that crime. Or the Judges disgusting comment.

Absolutely shocking. And then so many years later you have cases like this.

Hateam · 24/07/2024 22:34

That sentence was disgustingly low.

I would be very happy for sporting organizations have a policy where they will not select convicted sex offenders for national teams.

I do feel though there's a wider issue of what happens to people once they have served their sentence. Should they be allowed to continue with their previous careers if those careers do not involve contact with children or vulnerable people?

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