I think it might be a class thing actually! I'm from a working class immigrant background (ie my parents came to this country from another one and actually did shift work with their hands, as opposed to owning a toolmaking factory).
Good men from my class don't mince words and don't espouse trendy social movements, they tend to be hyperaware of women's vulnerability to things like DV, sexual assault etc because unfortunately these things tend to be more prevalent, or at least I guess immediately noticeable, in working class communities and workplaces. So they're quick to spot potential problems and pitfalls in woke-sounding ideas like, 'gender is nothing but a performance', or 'petty crime is a cry for help against an evil capitalist system'. And rather than reify or intellectualise an idea like that, they'll just say it's bollocks.
Whereas when I encounter middle class men with loads of degrees who call sex trafficked women 'sex workers' and say it's no different from working at McDonalds, I can just tell they're misogynist shits. They might even think they're feminists but deep down they want women to shut up and do all the hard graft whilst they have the limelight.
I have more thoughts on the many intersections between class and woke ideas/misogyny but don't want to write an essay lol.
Orrr maybe I just have a good inbuilt radar, it's a mystery lol