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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

WOMAN'S HOUR TODAY!

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heldinadream · 18/06/2024 09:12

Today's WH is as follows - Woman's Hour Election Debate. In a special extended 90 minute programme, Nuala McGovern hosts the Woman's Hour Election Debate. Senior women from the main political parties of Great Britain outline their priorities for women and answer your questions. Taking part are: Scottish National Party spokesperson for Consular Affairs and International Engagement Hannah Bardell; Reform UK candidate Maria Bowtell; Green Party spokesperson for Housing and Communities Ellie Chowns; Deputy Leader of the Liberal Democrats Daisy Cooper; Conservative Minister of State for Disabled People, Health and Work Mims Davies; Labour Party Chair and Shadow Secretary for Women and Equalities Anneliese Dodds, and Plaid Cymru’s Westminster Leader Liz Saville Roberts.

Questions via text 84844 or WhatsApp - 03700100444

I intend to send something like the following - Given that you are all designated senior women politicians, speaking as such on Woman's Hour, can we possibly decide an answer to the question - What is a woman?

Send in yours!

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MaidOfAle · 19/06/2024 00:22

Halfemptyhalfling · 18/06/2024 23:54

If the conservatives get back in due to protest votes women's lives will get much worse. There will be no escape from abusive husbands and partners and the legal system and education will continue to deteriorate.

There will be no escape from abusive husbands and partners

At least if the Tories get back in, women will be able to set up female-only services, like JKR has with Beira's Place, without having to admit men with speshul gender feels as staff and service users. If Labour get in, all refuges and rape support services will become defacto mixed and hence useless to women.

dunBle · 19/06/2024 00:58

WearyAuldWumman · 18/06/2024 21:50

I'd vote Monster if one stood in my constituency. Unfortunately, there are only five candidates: Labour, Tory, Liberal, SNP and Reform. Shoot me now.

I'm 64. I've never missed voting in a General Election, but I don't know what to do with that lot. Have not been able to get any info which would make me comfortable with the Labour, Lib or SNP candidates, I can't vote Reform and if I voted Tory you'd be getting reports of a whirlwind over the local Garden of Remembrance as all my coalmining ancestors went birling.

Seriously considering writing "What is a woman?" on my paper.

I live in a massively safe Labour seat, so it really doesn't make any difference if I vote or not. I'm writing by the Labour candidate on my postal vote "I wanted to vote for you, but while the leadership dismiss women's rights as a culture war, try to fudge the issue by talking about "safe spaces" rather than "single sex spaces and services", and treat Rosie Duffield so badly, I can't". It's a good job I've got very small handwriting.

Given how safe the seat is, it's unlikely they'll be scrutinising the spoiled ballots very closely, but I'd rather do that on the off-chance they do than vote for a party I find unpalatable as a protest. Sadly there's no Monster Raving Loony or Count Binface here either.

RhymesWithOrange · 19/06/2024 07:11

@Halfemptyhalfling if Labour lose because they can't reassure women that they will protect their rights and spaces against trans activists then they only have themselves to blame!

GameOfJones · 19/06/2024 07:49

Ramblingnamechanger · 18/06/2024 23:16

I will either spoil or go SDP although I think they were pro Brexit which I cannot agree with. But at least they don’t think it is a great plan to put men in women’s prisons which the incumbent Labour man does.

I also don't agree with the SDP's support for Brexit but I'll still be voting for them, I'm never going to fully align with any party.

Excerpt from their manifesto attached.

They're the best of a bad bunch in my local constituency, so that's where my vote is going.

WOMAN'S HOUR TODAY!
EdithStourton · 19/06/2024 07:53

I'm screwed here.
Tory, who is an okay bloke, does listen to his constituents, but is a Tory with all that goes with it.
Labour, nice enough young chap, but flannels about what a woman is.
LibDem, we know what they think about women, but I don't know the candidate.
Green, I've met him and know a bit about him. Arrogant arse.
Reform, kill me now.

I'm going to write to both the Labour and LibDem candidates in the search for a clear answer on that really, really, REALLY tricky question, What is a woman?

Sausagenbacon · 19/06/2024 07:54

dunBle wouldn't it make more sense to write directly to your candidate?

heldinadream · 19/06/2024 08:39

@EdithStourton (great name!) Both my partner (a man) and I have written to our Labour candidate WEEKS ago asking questions around this issue - he asked the simple 'what is a woman' in his own words and I sent the Sex Matters template letter a bit tweaked.

Neither of us have had a reply.

At this point I have to say this about our current MP who is a Tory and a monumental arse, we have both written to him over the years about various issues (not this because his views are known) and he always, unfailingly replies BY POST on HOC notepaper in proper thought out personal replies, nothing cut and pasted or dismissive, with a proper hand done signature at the end. What a shame I would rather rip out my own eyes than vote Tory.
No viable party represents women. Literally none. We might as well all go and chain ourselves to the railings again.
I'm so angry.

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dougalfromthemagicroundabout · 19/06/2024 11:01

VoteLabour · 18/06/2024 23:04

@LandHo , I like to think I'm a fair person.

I'm not going to discourage anyone from voting, even if I disagree with who they're going to vote for. Brexit happened because of the people who didn't vote.

Wow. Not because of the people who cared enough to think Brexit was a good idea?

Maybe the people who didn't vote didn't care either way?

I voted Remain but the Brexit vote was the beginning of a realisation that there are many in the middle / upper classes who actually think working class people are not entitled to democracy. Not really, because they're stupid and don't know what's best for them. And if they have evidence based opinions about immigration, really they're just secretly racists so all they have to say can be dismissed (even if they're BAME themselves).

I see more of this kind of thinking in Labour and the Lib Dems than in the Conservatives. It's authoritarianism and it never ends well.

Mycatsmudge · 19/06/2024 12:04

dougalfromthemagicroundabout · 19/06/2024 11:01

Wow. Not because of the people who cared enough to think Brexit was a good idea?

Maybe the people who didn't vote didn't care either way?

I voted Remain but the Brexit vote was the beginning of a realisation that there are many in the middle / upper classes who actually think working class people are not entitled to democracy. Not really, because they're stupid and don't know what's best for them. And if they have evidence based opinions about immigration, really they're just secretly racists so all they have to say can be dismissed (even if they're BAME themselves).

I see more of this kind of thinking in Labour and the Lib Dems than in the Conservatives. It's authoritarianism and it never ends well.

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VoteLabour · 19/06/2024 12:20

@dougalfromthemagicroundabout , Wow. Not because of the people who cared enough to think Brexit was a good idea?

I don't understand why you felt the need to post 'Wow'.

The people who did vote voted Yes or No, or spoilt their vote, as was their right. I can't criticise their choice because we live in a democracy.

The people who didn't vote made up 27.8 of the electorate. A proportion of those were probably complacent and thought 'Leave won't happen, it doesn't matter if I vote'. Had they voted the result would have been different.

(I can criticise the people who believed the lies peddled by the Leave brigade)

Ramblingnamechanger · 19/06/2024 12:30

So you think it is a good plan to vote for Labour despite their complete rejection of women and our rights? I don’t really see any radical policies which will improve the lives of women.

EdithStourton · 19/06/2024 12:30

@dougalfromthemagicroundabout
the beginning of a realisation that there are many in the middle / upper classes who actually think working class people are not entitled to democracy. Not really, because they're stupid and don't know what's best for them.
I've not forgotten the immoderate rant that a friend's DH launched into, with minimal provocation, about self employed builders, plumbers etc who, amongst other perceived sins, 'voted for Brexit'.

The level of contempt for tradesmen really shocked me. It was just a shocking way to speak of fellow-humans and I've never looked at him the same way since.

Edited to add, I really hoped the Brexit vote would wake the political class up to the level of disengagement and dissatisfaction amongst a whole swathe of the electorate. It didn't. Did they go and talk to people in Clacton about why they were so pissed off? Not as far as I know. Who is now standing in Clacton with a fair chance of making a decent showing? Nigel Farage. Am I surprised? Not in the slightest.

chaosmaker · 19/06/2024 12:32

DanceTheDevilBackIntoHisHole · 18/06/2024 11:10

What she said was that women SHOULD have more children. Not if they want to or make it easier. She clearly said they should.

She also said most women want to be in the home with children, which I dispute.

I also don't see anything in their manifesto to financially support women. In fact the benefits section is all about motivating people back into work. We know women being financially reliant on men leaves them vulnerable. There's real contradiction in their policies and I don't see them as pro-women at all.

Probably means their end goal if they got into power would be to follow the US's rollback on abortion rights. Frightening.

I really don't know who to vote for either. Green's policies overall are the ones I like most but their stance on women and how they've treated their own members and candidates over this.

dougalfromthemagicroundabout · 19/06/2024 12:45

VoteLabour · 19/06/2024 12:20

@dougalfromthemagicroundabout , Wow. Not because of the people who cared enough to think Brexit was a good idea?

I don't understand why you felt the need to post 'Wow'.

The people who did vote voted Yes or No, or spoilt their vote, as was their right. I can't criticise their choice because we live in a democracy.

The people who didn't vote made up 27.8 of the electorate. A proportion of those were probably complacent and thought 'Leave won't happen, it doesn't matter if I vote'. Had they voted the result would have been different.

(I can criticise the people who believed the lies peddled by the Leave brigade)

For all you know, the entirety of those who didn't vote were in favour of Brexit but just couldn't be bothered either.

How on earth can you come to the conclusion it was just voter apathy that resulted in Brexit? Unbelievable. You're just going to clearly think what you want to think, but I think you're wrong.

Brexit was quite like the sex and gender debate, except a mild version (less punching of women involved) in that I know quite a lot of people who voted for Brexit but would not tell anyone they didn't trust absolutely, including a pollster, that fact. Because so many people would knee jerk brand them a 'racist' for doing so. Even though some of them are black so probably know what racism looks like better than all those saying blithely that those voting for Brexit were racist.

Edited to add: I voted Remain but I did listen to the reasons of people I knew who voted for Brexit. They had good reasons, evidence-based reasons. I didn't agree with them, and I came to a different conclusion, but they did have well thought through positions and simply prioritised different things than I did. None of them are racist. Some of them are immigrants.

VoteLabour · 19/06/2024 12:58

@Ramblingnamechanger , the Labour candidate is the only one who I would vote for. I've given it a fair amount of thought, and I'll be voting for the person who I feel will best represent the community. There are several candidates

Back to 'What is a woman?', I generally live my life as a person, but a situation I can see the woman with a penis being an issue is the 'women-only' sessions at the public swimming pool.
How would it be OK for a 'person who identifies as a woman but has a penis' to be in the swimming pool and changing room with women and young children. Many of the (born as) women go to these sessions because there are no men there.
I'm really not comfortable with it at all - it seems like a man's right to identify as a woman is more important than a woman's right to have her privacy or religious belief.

VoteLabour · 19/06/2024 13:05

@dougalfromthemagicroundabout , you can think what you like. You don't have to agree with me. I genuinely do not believe that the majority of the electorate wanted Brexit to happen, but the majority of those who voted did.
Hence my post.

Mycatsmudge · 19/06/2024 13:06

dougalfromthemagicroundabout · 19/06/2024 12:45

For all you know, the entirety of those who didn't vote were in favour of Brexit but just couldn't be bothered either.

How on earth can you come to the conclusion it was just voter apathy that resulted in Brexit? Unbelievable. You're just going to clearly think what you want to think, but I think you're wrong.

Brexit was quite like the sex and gender debate, except a mild version (less punching of women involved) in that I know quite a lot of people who voted for Brexit but would not tell anyone they didn't trust absolutely, including a pollster, that fact. Because so many people would knee jerk brand them a 'racist' for doing so. Even though some of them are black so probably know what racism looks like better than all those saying blithely that those voting for Brexit were racist.

Edited to add: I voted Remain but I did listen to the reasons of people I knew who voted for Brexit. They had good reasons, evidence-based reasons. I didn't agree with them, and I came to a different conclusion, but they did have well thought through positions and simply prioritised different things than I did. None of them are racist. Some of them are immigrants.

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I know members of my circle who voted for Brexit some were tradesmen including Sikh builders who were being undercut by recent immigrants for the same jobs to the point they just couldn’t compete with them on prices.

For a lot of immigrants especially those from the former communist countries with lower living standards, working in the UK and living frugally for a few years meant much more money which they could save and it would set them up in their own countries. The UK tradesmen couldn’t do that, their lives are in the UK and they have now where else to go which would have given them a higher wage.

dougalfromthemagicroundabout · 19/06/2024 15:03

Mycatsmudge · 19/06/2024 13:06

I know members of my circle who voted for Brexit some were tradesmen including Sikh builders who were being undercut by recent immigrants for the same jobs to the point they just couldn’t compete with them on prices.

For a lot of immigrants especially those from the former communist countries with lower living standards, working in the UK and living frugally for a few years meant much more money which they could save and it would set them up in their own countries. The UK tradesmen couldn’t do that, their lives are in the UK and they have now where else to go which would have given them a higher wage.

Yes. We seem to be at a point in politics where those on the left don't want to engage with meaningful debate about such issues though.

If you're in any way for any limits on immigration you're a right wing racist and bigot. End of story.

It's not good for society.

The other issue I'm concerned about is young male immigrants claiming to be younger than they are and ending up in schools with their views that women and girls are inferior. The complaints of several schoolgirls who've claimed sexual harassment by immigrants like this have been brushed under the carpet. I suppose it's clear that young girls lives don't matter in our society (Rotherham etc) but it's disheartening we can't even talk about it.

dougalfromthemagicroundabout · 19/06/2024 15:06

I suppose you could argue that the weakening of the pound against the euro / other currencies since Brexit has made the option of economic migrants coming to the uk and working hard and living frugally for a few years and then having enough money to go home set up for life a lot less feasible. So actually UK tradesmen voting Brexit for this reason may have achieved their goal....

LetsSeeIfThisSticks · 19/06/2024 15:57

dougalfromthemagicroundabout · 19/06/2024 15:03

Yes. We seem to be at a point in politics where those on the left don't want to engage with meaningful debate about such issues though.

If you're in any way for any limits on immigration you're a right wing racist and bigot. End of story.

It's not good for society.

The other issue I'm concerned about is young male immigrants claiming to be younger than they are and ending up in schools with their views that women and girls are inferior. The complaints of several schoolgirls who've claimed sexual harassment by immigrants like this have been brushed under the carpet. I suppose it's clear that young girls lives don't matter in our society (Rotherham etc) but it's disheartening we can't even talk about it.

People’s personal and professional experience on these issues is also quickly dismissed. Both sides of my family are immigrants from two and three generations back, so I am pro managed and beneficial immigration. However, I frequently work with extremely vulnerable women fleeing domestic violence. The amount of male perpetrators who are here seeking asylum/refuge is massively disproportionate. Their safety is valued above women’s as they are allowed to remain in the country due to them being in danger in their country or origin, despite them committing heinous crimes against, often, multiple women who should be safe here. Many of them are also known offenders in their country of origin. It has been a clear trend for several years now but if I point this out, backed by actual statistics as a reason that immigration needs better management, people get very quiet and uncomfortable.

dougalfromthemagicroundabout · 19/06/2024 16:31

LetsSeeIfThisSticks · 19/06/2024 15:57

People’s personal and professional experience on these issues is also quickly dismissed. Both sides of my family are immigrants from two and three generations back, so I am pro managed and beneficial immigration. However, I frequently work with extremely vulnerable women fleeing domestic violence. The amount of male perpetrators who are here seeking asylum/refuge is massively disproportionate. Their safety is valued above women’s as they are allowed to remain in the country due to them being in danger in their country or origin, despite them committing heinous crimes against, often, multiple women who should be safe here. Many of them are also known offenders in their country of origin. It has been a clear trend for several years now but if I point this out, backed by actual statistics as a reason that immigration needs better management, people get very quiet and uncomfortable.

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Agree 100%. Thank you for sharing your experience.

The way that the chattering political classes are willing to harm vulnerable women for the sake of a political ideology is horrifying.

Douglas Murray has I think been very good on highlighting the question of why the hell we're allowing people to remain in this country (often in receipt of state benefits) who've been convicted of heinous crimes in their home countries. Who then unsurprisingly go on to harm people in this country.

Mycatsmudge · 19/06/2024 16:52

I believe a lot of immigrants left the Uk after Brexit not primarily due to hostility towards them (though I’m sure there was some hostility) but because of the weakening of the pound so earnings in the UK were not so lucrative as before and also because the living standards and wages of some countries had such as Poland had increased over the decade since they joined the EU. I for one believe we do need controlled immigration to fill skill shortages and for the exchange of ideas/cultures which adds to our national life. Unlimited immigration is bad for both those already here and for migrants. I have seen evidence of illegal migrants mainly young men sleeping in bushes and hedges in our town (I volunteer picking up litter in public places) whilst working as Deliveroo couriers and on building sites. They are probably indebted to a trafficking gang so also very vulnerable to violence.

ActivePeony · 19/06/2024 17:27

RhymesWithOrange · 19/06/2024 07:11

@Halfemptyhalfling if Labour lose because they can't reassure women that they will protect their rights and spaces against trans activists then they only have themselves to blame!

Indeed. But they will blame the thicko working classes and the bitch TERFS.

dunBle · 19/06/2024 19:47

Sausagenbacon · 19/06/2024 07:54

dunBle wouldn't it make more sense to write directly to your candidate?

Normally yes, but I'm likely to need to contact her about a casework issue later in the year, and I don't want to make that more difficult.

EvenMyWashingMachineCommittedSuicide · 19/06/2024 21:47

dougalfromthemagicroundabout · 19/06/2024 12:45

For all you know, the entirety of those who didn't vote were in favour of Brexit but just couldn't be bothered either.

How on earth can you come to the conclusion it was just voter apathy that resulted in Brexit? Unbelievable. You're just going to clearly think what you want to think, but I think you're wrong.

Brexit was quite like the sex and gender debate, except a mild version (less punching of women involved) in that I know quite a lot of people who voted for Brexit but would not tell anyone they didn't trust absolutely, including a pollster, that fact. Because so many people would knee jerk brand them a 'racist' for doing so. Even though some of them are black so probably know what racism looks like better than all those saying blithely that those voting for Brexit were racist.

Edited to add: I voted Remain but I did listen to the reasons of people I knew who voted for Brexit. They had good reasons, evidence-based reasons. I didn't agree with them, and I came to a different conclusion, but they did have well thought through positions and simply prioritised different things than I did. None of them are racist. Some of them are immigrants.

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For all you know, the entirety of those who didn't vote were in favour of Brexit but just couldn't be bothered either.

Often, people vote to make a change, not to keep things the same. Low electoral turnout usually means that the electorate are not unhappy with the incumbents. I was startled by the number of people I talked to who didn't seem to understand that they needed to go out and vote Remain if they wanted things to stay the same.