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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Older generations show resistance to trans rights

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Inauthentic · 07/04/2024 22:36

"Millennials and Gen Z tend to be overwhelmingly supportive of trans people, having grown up in a more inclusive environment, while older generations show far more resistance to trans rights, likely intimidated by the speed of social change."

Is this your experience?
There appears to be an overwhelming support for gender critical beliefs on Mumsnet.
Is it because it's mainly older generations engaging in this debate?

How old are you and what are your views?

I am 45yo and I mostly support trans rights (with the exception of trans athletes competing in woman's events and I agree puberty blockers is a grey area)

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Helleofabore · 09/04/2024 06:45

valensiwalensi · 09/04/2024 00:32

Good question.

I don’t believe trans people are asking for any additional rights because as you say, the rights are already there - human rights. However like other marginalised groups how well this works in day to day practise is obviously not great - whether that’s through unconscious bias or just out and out bias.
in my experience trans people just want to quietly crack on with things like the rest or us and are quite happy to use third gender neutral or unisex spaces. As JKR pointed out, trans people are also prone to violence from other men just as women are. They also face dealing with people making assumptions on them based on stereotypes.

Ok. So, your opinion aligns with many others on this board. Thank you for clarifying. I think though other posters who have entered the thread and declared that they fully support trans rights have different ideas as to what those rights are but won’t discuss them.

RedToothBrush · 09/04/2024 06:47

Helleofabore · 09/04/2024 06:39

Yes. But it is discrimination to exclude male people from female spaces. Just because it is legitimate doesn’t mean that it isn’t discrimination. Hence why I said it is very important to be clear when posters say ‘trans people shouldn’t be discriminated against. It ends up being a lazily made point because it is a half made throw away point, if you see what I mean.

And the root of that discrimination may be for being male, not for being transgender. However, unless posters clarify this, the discussion goes around in circles and doesn’t progress.

The word 'proportionate' is the one that's missing

Proportionate discrimination to achieve a legitimate aim.

And yes they aren't being discriminated against for being trans but for being male. You don't lose your sex if you transition. You retain it.

forgotmyusername1 · 09/04/2024 06:55

Underthinker · 08/04/2024 10:37

You think any man should be able to go into women's changing rooms as long as they don't commit a crime?

I'm male and I know a lot of men just like looking at naked or semi naked women, can you not see a problem with giving them absolute permission to do so? Do the rights of the women being ogled not matter?

Exactly. Even if they didn't touch any of the women it would most certainly be going into the wank bank for later

Helleofabore · 09/04/2024 06:55

DameMaud · 09/04/2024 01:34

Here's a very young woman expressing her view. Seems apt for this thread:

I think she is awesome. And she has been subjected to huge amounts of abuse for this. From some transgender people, usually male people, and their allies.

Helleofabore · 09/04/2024 07:02

forgotmyusername1 · 09/04/2024 05:27

Which sports do you think should be mixed sex? Rugby? Boxing? Mma or football?

Women need our own teams as we cannot compete against the strength and speed of men once they pass puberty - that is biological fact. We are not built the same. The elite women's national football team in America was beaten by an under 15 boys side 5-2.

My son does judo competitively at age 11. They weight band of course but they also age band competition to under 12's, 12-14, 15-17 and 18+ because the impact of puberty makes it dangerous not to split older kids and younger kids even if they weigh the same. Women could take on pre pubescent boys but that's about it

Edited

This happened in Australia too where the Australian women’s football team was defeated by a team of teenaged male people.

I cannot believe anyone who declares sports is a grey area. No! It isn’t. No male people in female people specific events. It never should have been allowed. It has been harmful from the beginning. It is a cop out to say ‘it is complicated or a grey area.’

ArabellaScott · 09/04/2024 07:06

Cem82 · 09/04/2024 02:14

In my early 40’s - I support the Trans community - have met some lovely people who have transitioned and feel no one should have a say over other people’s bodies!

I agree sports and puberty blockers are grey areas.

Do you think children have absolute rights to self determination? Or do you think that some people maybe should have' a say' over whether children, for example, get tattoos?

borntobequiet · 09/04/2024 07:23

ThisOldThang · 08/04/2024 21:04

Back when men retired at 65 and women at 60, the men really missed a trick by not self-identifying as women and demanding their pensions five years early.

Given that we can apparently just declare ourselves to be any old shite, can I add 40 years to my age and immediately start claiming my state pension including backdating it to when i would, apparently, have turned 68?

TW would be missing a trick if they don’t apply for backdated earlier pensions, because they can.

https://www.gov.uk/guidance/apply-for-backdated-state-pension-if-youre-a-transgender-woman

Apply for backdated State Pension if you’re a transgender woman

Transgender women born between 31 October 1953 and 6 November 1953 may be eligible for State Pension from 31 October 2018 to the date of their 65th birthday.

https://www.gov.uk/guidance/apply-for-backdated-state-pension-if-youre-a-transgender-woman

Helleofabore · 09/04/2024 07:24

Cem82 · 09/04/2024 02:14

In my early 40’s - I support the Trans community - have met some lovely people who have transitioned and feel no one should have a say over other people’s bodies!

I agree sports and puberty blockers are grey areas.

What is categorised as ‘no one should have a say over other people’s bodies’ though?

Does this include which bodies access single sex spaces? Does this include people democratically declaring that extreme body modifications should not be paid for by the NHS, particularly as the evidence is showing that it shows no improvement to overall mental health if patients, even adults?

Again, all this sounds good as a sound bite, but if you start to drill down to specifics, what does it all mean really? It feels like a deflective reaction sometimes, and this is a general point, not aimed at cem. This trite statements can come across as mantras.

ArabellaScott · 09/04/2024 07:25

borntobequiet · 09/04/2024 07:23

TW would be missing a trick if they don’t apply for backdated earlier pensions, because they can.

https://www.gov.uk/guidance/apply-for-backdated-state-pension-if-youre-a-transgender-woman

How strange these rules are!

'You may be entitled to backdated State Pension if all the following apply:

you were born between 31 October 1953 and 6 November 1953

you had lived in your acquired gender for at least 2 years by 31 October 2018

you have had gender reassignment surgery

This is because a court ruling means that a transgender person who has had gender reassignment surgery and lived in their acquired gender for a significant period must be recognised in their acquired gender for State Pension purposes.'

ArabellaScott · 09/04/2024 07:26

That reads like a rule written for one specific person.

TheaBrandt · 09/04/2024 07:50

How I despise the weasel words “it’s complicated” “it’s a grey area”.

No it really isn’t.

Nearly 50 all my friends are Terfs. We have inculcated our dds in women’s rights. They had a PSHE lesson on this recently and the female middle aged teacher asked for opinions. Dd said people can do what they like but women and girls need single sex spaces. The whole class agreed (year 10). Dd then said the teacher “seemed like she was going to cry” and said how proud she was of them as she wasn’t allowed to say what she really thought.

valensiwalensi · 09/04/2024 07:57

TheaBrandt · 09/04/2024 07:50

How I despise the weasel words “it’s complicated” “it’s a grey area”.

No it really isn’t.

Nearly 50 all my friends are Terfs. We have inculcated our dds in women’s rights. They had a PSHE lesson on this recently and the female middle aged teacher asked for opinions. Dd said people can do what they like but women and girls need single sex spaces. The whole class agreed (year 10). Dd then said the teacher “seemed like she was going to cry” and said how proud she was of them as she wasn’t allowed to say what she really thought.

#nodebate right?

forgotmyusername1 · 09/04/2024 07:58

VitoCorleoneOfMNMafia · 08/04/2024 15:21

or you discover they are in a women's prison and the women are required to take birth control as a result.

The male should be vasectomised if the prison authorities won't remove him. The women shouldn't have to quadruple their risk of stroke by being on the Pill because the authorities won't remove the male.

I wonder how many male prisoners would want to self identify into women's prisons if a condition of trans women being moved to women's prison was that they had to undergo bottom surgery

Runningupthecurtains · 09/04/2024 08:30

As mixed sex sport has been brought back up (the mixed relays in swimming, athletics and triathlon are fabulous) there is a place for mixed sex sports but only where there is zero contact in the sport and vitality where woman continues to mean adult human female. If you allowed sports to mix teams of X number of men and X number of women those women still need to be women. Otherwise it would be a team of men and men with female identities.

Underthinker · 09/04/2024 08:39

valensiwalensi · 09/04/2024 07:57

#nodebate right?

No. No debate means we can't dicuss it. Not a grey area means we can discuss it but I don't see any merit in the other side's position.

Of course you could try to argue that position persuasively to convince people. But most don't bother to try because they know the genderist arguments are ridiculous when you drill down into them.

lemonstolemonade · 09/04/2024 08:42

@forgotmyusername1

I'm a millennial and honestly only know one person who shares your views. Most people I know pretend they are much less gender critical than they are and don't hate trans people, but do not see them as their acquired sex - it's just that it's not possible to say it out loud to many people, so we stay quiet and thank the heavens for JK Rowling!

Lion400 · 09/04/2024 08:42

TheaBrandt · 09/04/2024 07:50

How I despise the weasel words “it’s complicated” “it’s a grey area”.

No it really isn’t.

Nearly 50 all my friends are Terfs. We have inculcated our dds in women’s rights. They had a PSHE lesson on this recently and the female middle aged teacher asked for opinions. Dd said people can do what they like but women and girls need single sex spaces. The whole class agreed (year 10). Dd then said the teacher “seemed like she was going to cry” and said how proud she was of them as she wasn’t allowed to say what she really thought.

Love that!

Helleofabore · 09/04/2024 08:46

Since I doubt OP will be returning, and we have lots of new posters, I am going to post the evidence that relates specifically to sport. However, this evidence is also entirely relevant for the discussion about why male people at any stage of transition or not, should not be accessing any female single sex space.

I hope that when I have posted these links and people take the time to read them, that people will no longer feel that 'sports is a grey area'. Because it is NOT a grey area, the harms are very clear once you see it laid out. The harms are hidden behind what is effectively a demand to 'be kind' though. Even the fucking IOC has doubled down that male feelings should be prioritised above female athlete safety and fairness.

Here is an excellent summary of the current situation and why this is not a 'grey area'.

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/epdf/10.1111/sms.14581

Tommy R. Lundberg, Ross Tucker, Kerry McGawley, Alun G. Williams, Grégoire P. Millet, Øyvind Sandbakk, Glyn Howatson, Gregory A. Brown, Lara A. Carlson, Sarah Chantler, Mark A. Chen, Shane M. Heffernan, Neil Heron, Christopher Kirk, Marie H. Murphy, Noel Pollock, Jamie Pringle, Andrew Richardson, Jordan Santos-Concejero, Georgina K. Stebbings, Ask Vest Christiansen, Stuart M. Phillips, Cathy Devine, Carwyn Jones, Jon Pike, Emma N. Hilton

Perspectives:

The IOC framework on fairness, inclusion and nondiscrimination on the basis of gender identity and sex variations is misaligned with current scientific and medical evidence and offers insufficient protection of fair competition for female athletes within a female category. Also, it does not adequately engage female athletes, who are primary stakeholders in their sport. Male pubertal development results in large performance advantages in athletic sports, which necessitates a female category that excludes male advantages, to ensure equal opportunity through fair competition for female athletes at all levels of sport. There is currently no evidence that testosterone suppression in transgender women can reverse male development and negate male advantages. In contrast, there is convincing evidence that the male advantage persists even when testosterone is suppressed. As a result, sports face the uncomfortable reality that the inclusion of transgender women in female sports categories cannot be reconciled with fairness, and in some instances safety, for females in athletic sports. The IOC must reconsider its framework and revise the 10 principles to reflect scientific evidence and fundamental principles of fair competition. We also recommend implementing a system to enable female stakeholders to be consulted in this matter and to have their voices heard, recognized, and valued.

I would suggest starting with these two reviews for further research.

This one from Dr Hilton and T Lundberg. is the source for the graphic I have attached below.

https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s40279-020-01389-3

Harper et al.

bjsm.bmj.com/content/early/2021/02/28/bjsports-2020-103106

Conclusions are in line with No. 1. For information (considering many people will seek to discredit based on alleged bias) Harper is the transwoman who has released some sports studies in the past that had some methodology issues.

Here is the USAF study here for people to read.

bjsm.bmj.com/content/early/2020/11/06/bjsports-2020-102329

Timothy A Roberts, Joshua Smalley, Dale Ahrendt

Effect of gender affirming hormones on athletic performance in transwomen and transmen: implications for sporting organisations and legislators

Summary The 15–31% athletic advantage that transwomen displayed over their female counterparts prior to starting gender affirming hormones declined with feminising therapy. However, transwomen still had a 9% faster mean run speed after the 1 year period of testosterone suppression that is recommended by World Athletics for inclusion in women’s events.

It is interesting reading as it also leaves the suggestion that even after 3 years advantage still exists.

And Sean Ingle’s take on it.

www.theguardian.com/sport/2020/dec/07/study-suggests-ioc-adjustment-period-for-trans-women-may-be-too-short

Another study, this time the Brazilian study:

The Brazilian study.

bjsm.bmj.com/content/early/2022/09/01/bjsports-2021-105400.info

Cardiopulmonary capacity and muscle strength in transgender women on long-term gender-affirming hormone therapy: a cross-sectional study

Leonardo Azevedo Mobilia Alvares, Marcelo Rodrigues Santos, Francis Ribeiro Souza, Lívia Marcela Santos, Berenice Bilharinho de Mendonça, Elaine Maria Frade Costa, Maria Janieire Nazaré Nunes Alves, Sorahia Domenice

This is the conclusion:

Conclusion


In this small cohort of non-athlete TW, who were previously exposed to male pubertal development and underwent long-term oestrogen therapy, we identified higher grip strength and VO2 peak levels than in non-athlete CW, but these same parameters were lower compared with non-athlete CM.


These findings add new insights to the sparse information available on a highly controversial topic about the participation of TW in physical activities. Future studies involving transgender athletes that account for and quantify variable exposure times to pubertal development and assess muscle cell metabolism are needed to elucidate the effects of long-term GAHT on TW sports performance.

From Ross Tucker, an expert sport scientist on this study above:

Over a decade (14.4 yrs average) of T-suppression, and TW have VO2max 20% higher, grip strength 19% higher & skeletal mass 40% than women. More evidence that male biology persists long after T is removed. Another piece of the same puzzle, albeit from a cross-sectional study.

The cross-sectional bit is important - the study hasn't (like over a dozen others) tracked people from Day zero onwards, so the differences are a 'snapshot' rather than a 'movie', if that makes sense? Means you don't know how those TW began, 14.4 yrs earlier, but the finding of quite large differences compared to women (20% or more) is striking, because a) they either began as typically representative of males, and lost some, but retained significant advantages vs women, or b) they began well below men, and lost hardly any advantages. In either case, the end point, over a decade later, is biological differences compared to women that will create performance implications. Of interest, the mass retention and VO2max advantage mean that relative VO2max (ml/kg/min) ends up similar, which means in some sports (weight-determined) the performance implication may differ - sometimes very large, sometimes smaller, as in some categories within endurance sports.

But zero? Unlikely, because cardio function, FFM & strength are greater. Important paper, showing striking biological 'persistence' 14 yrs on.
Two further thoughts on the study. First, the TW vs women differences in muscle mass and strength remain large (20%) after more than a decade of T suppression. One year vs ten, biology "persists". Second, add training to the mix and TW and women would obviously get stronger.

You could TRY to argue that women would get stronger relatively more than TW (you'd have a job on your hands to explain why this would be, but anyway). More likely is that the differences - TW vs women - would persist or even increase with the addition of training. What this study confirms is that non-trained TW retain biological differences with performance implications after 14 years of T suppression. You'd have to believe that W could make up these gaps with training to believe in fairness in sport. That is, trained W = non-trained TW = fair!

Here is a study released 14th December 2022 from Nederlands and Denmark about the physical impact of reduction of testostorone on performance of male athletes.

pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36534950/

Lisanne H P Houben, Maarten Overkamp, Puck van Kraaij, Jorn Trommelen, Joep G H van Roermund, Peter de Vries, Kevin de Laet, Saskia van der Meer, Ulla R Mikkelsen, Lex B Verdijk, Luc J C van Loon, Sandra Beijer, Milou Beelen

Abstract

Purpose: To assess the effects of 20 weeks resistance exercise training with or without protein supplementation on body composition, muscle mass, muscle strength, physical performance and aerobic capacity in prostate cancer patients receiving androgen deprivation therapy (ADT).

Methods: Sixty prostate cancer patients receiving ADT were randomly assigned to perform 20 weeks of resistance exercise training with supplementation of 31 g whey protein (EX+PRO, n = 30) or placebo (EX+PLA, n = 30), consumed immediately after exercise and every night before sleep. A separate control group (CON, n = 36) only received usual care. At baseline and after 20 weeks, body composition (dual energy X-ray absorptiometry), muscle mass (computed tomography scan), muscle strength (1-repetition maximum strength tests), physical performance (Timed Up and Go Test, 30-second Chair Stand Test, Stair Climb Test), aerobic capacity (cardiopulmonary exercise test) and habitual dietary intake (food diary), were assessed. Data were analyzed using a two-factor repeated-measures ANOVA.

Results: Over time, muscle mass and strength increased in EX+PRO and EX+PLA and decreased in CON. Total fat mass and fat percentage increased in EX+PRO and CON, but not in EX+PLA. Physical performance did not significantly change over time in either group. Aerobic capacity was maintained in EX+PLA, while it decreased in EX+PRO and CON. Habitual protein intake (without supplements) averaged >1.0 g·kg body weight-1·day-1, with no differences over time or between groups.

Conclusions: In prostate cancer patients, resistance exercise training counteracts the adverse effects of ADT on body composition, muscle mass, muscle strength and aerobic capacity, with no additional benefits of protein supplementation.

This is an article about the connection of injury with menstrual cycle. It is yet another reason why female people need to be competing with only female people because they are more prone to injury from male bodies. Plus because no male person on this planet has had to deal with the physical consequences of menstrual cycles which means that including them into the sports category discriminates against female people who have had to deal with menstrual cycles disrupting their training and their competition.

https://www.economist.com/science-and-technology/2021/06/24/acl-injuries-are-a-growing-problem

Plug this into archive dot is for the full version.

One of the most curious features of ACL injuries, though, is that they afflict women far more often than men—as much as eight times more, some investigations suggest. Why this might be is the subject of intensive research. But a clue lies in an apparent connection with the menstrual cycle.

A study published in 2013, of a group of women skiers in the Alps, for example, found that those in the pre-ovulatory stage of the cycle were more than twice as likely to suffer an ACL tear than were those in the post-ovulatory stage. A four-year survey of 113 female England footballers, published in March, also found a clear correlation. Muscle and tendon injuries were far more common in the late follicular phase of the cycle, just prior to ovulation, than in the other phases.

The reason for this menstrual-cycle link is unclear. The ACL has oestrogen receptors, which might help to explain what is happening. But it is not unique among ligaments in this, and the receptors’ job is, in any case, obscure. Levels of oestrogen in the body do spike just before ovulation—the point when tear-frequency rises—but uncertainty remains about the exact link.

Other contributory factors to women’s higher ACL tear rate may be female body shapes and movement patterns. Compared with men, women have wider hips, more inverted knees and “over-dominant“ quad muscles (meaning that the quadriceps femoris muscle group in front of the thigh bone is relatively stronger than the hamstring group behind it). All these factors put pressure on the elaborate workings of the knee joint. Women also tend to land in a more flat-footed manner than men do, and to pivot more awkwardly.

This study is for those posters who don't believe that even at six years old that male athletes have physical advantages over female athletes.

Danish study on VO2 max and LBM in children from age 6

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1725036/pdf/v039p00725.pdf

Maximum oxygen uptake and objectively measured physical activity in Danish children 6-7 years of age: the Copenhagen school child intervention study

Eigberg, Hasselstrom, Gronfeldt, Friberg, Svensson, Anderson
October 2005

Objectives: To provide normative data on maximum oxygen uptake (Vo(2)max) and physical activity in children 6-7 years of age and analyse the association between these variables.

Methods: Vo(2)max was measured in 366 boys (mean (SD) 6.8 (0.4) years of age) and 332 girls (6.7 (0.4) years of age) from preschool classes in two suburban communities in Copenhagen, during a progressive treadmill exercise. Habitual physical activity was measured with accelerometers.

Results: Boys had higher Vo(2)max both in absolute values (1.19 (0.18) v 1.06 (0.16) litres/min (+11%), p<0.001) and relative to body weight (48.5 (6.0) v 44.8 (5.6) ml/kg/min (+8%); p<0.001) than girls. The difference in Vo(2)max between boys and girls decreased to +2% when expressed relative to lean body mass (LBM). Absolute Vo(2)max was related to LBM, body mass, and stature (all p<0.001). Boys were more physically active than girls (mean counts +9.4%, p<0.001), and even when boys and girls with the same Vo(2)max were compared, boys were more active. The difference in physical activity between the sexes was higher when sustained activity of higher intensity was compared.

Conclusions: Vo(2)max is higher in boys than girls (+11%), even when related to body mass (+8%) and LBM (+2%). Most of the difference in Vo(2)max relative to body mass was explained by the larger percentage body fat in girls. When boys and girls with the same Vo(2)max were compared, boys engaged in more minutes of exercise of at least moderate intensity.

Plus this study on performance across Australian children

https://citeseerx.ist.psu.edu/document?repid=rep1&type=pdf&doi=021cccdaed57d120bb05bac71c05ee82b0c5b315

And

New study released on sex differences between male and female children under 11 years old.

Sex-based differences in track running distances of 100, 200, 400, 800, and 1500m in the 8 and under and 9–10-year-old age groups

Gregory A Brown, Brandon S Shaw, Ina Shaw

5th February 2024

https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1002/ejsc.12075

"In conclusion, although some have stated that sex-based differences in athletic performance do not arise until puberty, the present data indicate that in the 8 and under and 9–10-year-old age groups males run faster than females in distances of 100, 200, 400, 800, and 1500m. While some females in these age groups are faster than some males, the average male finalists are faster than the average female finalists, and the fastest males are faster than the fastest females. As running is a key component of many sports, these sex-based differences between prepubertal males and females should be considered when sport governing bodies and policy makers consider the issue of sex-based sporting categories"

If people prefer to watch a video discussion, here is a good one.

Here is an interesting video led by Prof Jo Phoenix, with Dr Emma Hilton and Jon Pike. OUGCRN Seminar : Sex, Gender, and Sport after Tokyo

As they point out the 69 kg male weightlifting champion at 164 cm can lift more weight and any female weightlifting champion. Even Tatiana Kashirina who is 108 kg an 177 cm tall. She goes through Hubbard's advantages.

It is an interesting seminar particularly for anyone who perhaps wants a summary of sex vs gender or a reminder.

Or this one below

This is quite a good discussion on transitioned males in sport done by Australia's SBS TV channel. It includes people like Jane Fleming (Olympic athletics champ), Deborah Acason (Commonwealth games female weighlifting champion and pioneer), Holly Lawford-Smith, Prof David Handelsman (Uni of Sydney) specialist in Testosterone, Dr Roslyn Carbon (part of the team developing UK Sports guidance), Mianne Baggar and Joanne Harper.

Overall, it showed just how much the inclusive side fall onto emotional manipulation in the face of overwhelming evidence that counters their claims.

I have more. Just ask.

TL/DR

Sport is NOT a 'grey area' if you take the time to read and familiarise yourself with the evidence and the emotionally laden arguments that now are the only remaining option for including male athletes in female sports.

Plus there is NO 'case by case' solution. It has been modelled by countless experts on all sides of the discussion and NO ONE has developed a model that works!

Plus no feminist is saying that trans people should be 'banned' from sport. Male people have other options available to them. A luxury that female athletes simply do not have.

Older generations show resistance to trans rights
crunchermuncher · 09/04/2024 08:49

RedToothBrush · 09/04/2024 06:44

This is what really frustrates me.

We have to consider the law and the impact of the law on everyone in all situations.

All this 'a more inclusive environment' really isn't when you unpick it and consider socio-economic backgrounds. All the phrase is doing is seeking to disenfranchise groups that are less visible and have less political voice in a new way. It's not cool. And it's certainly not progressive.

Saying 'i believe' but not having a practical solution to explicitly spelt out problems is the flaw that Brexiteers made (and I warned would happen) because you need an actual plan to implement otherwise you get a mess and then have to scramble around after fixing problems you've created that you didn't need to make in the first place.

The 'grey areas' point is like ignoring Northern Ireland and throwing a tantrum about it when reality catches up with you that you also have legal responsibilities to ensure the human rights of other people beyond transpeople.

It's a fundamental discharging of responsibility with a shrug saying 'hey not my problem'. That's not inclusive. It's the very definition of selfish. It's throwing others under the bus because you can't think further than the end of your nose and don't understand human rights.

The people with vested interests are even worse imo. They do this thing where they have deliberate Selective Self Protective Beliefs because they have friends or family members who have transitioned. They don't want to consider the long term negative impacts to others or their loved ones because that is potentially too distressing to consider as the future. That's doing their loved one a massive disservice.

Cognitive Dissonance is not a position to be inclusive from. Shouting at others for being bigots does not change this. Especially when they really aren't bigots and understand 'its a bit more complicated than that'

This over simplification to thought terminating cliches is destructive and counter productive.

Excellent post!

RebelliousCow · 09/04/2024 08:51

Zodfa · 08/04/2024 16:19

My experience of trans people is they don't fit in terribly well in their chosen gender either.

'Gender' is just the external presentation - which tends to be predicated upon tradition and other types of social expectation. Lots of people struggle with social stereotypes, especially those who are gay or lesbian, and those with autism.

You cannot change sex - though you can change your dress, hair style and other modes of presentation.

Helleofabore · 09/04/2024 08:53

lemonstolemonade · 09/04/2024 08:42

@forgotmyusername1

I'm a millennial and honestly only know one person who shares your views. Most people I know pretend they are much less gender critical than they are and don't hate trans people, but do not see them as their acquired sex - it's just that it's not possible to say it out loud to many people, so we stay quiet and thank the heavens for JK Rowling!

"it's just that it's not possible to say it out loud to many people, so we stay quiet and thank the heavens for JK Rowling!"

And this is the reality that posters such as @StolenCookie and presumably OP cannot ever acknowledge. But it has been shown in those polls.

It is chilling to see younger generations being unable to discuss the important issues that face them and directly impact them. But all those posters who declare that the 'younger generation' are more accepting, as if 'accepting' is actually a good thing when it comes to the conflict between the rights being demanded by extreme trans activists, those that prioritise gender over sex at all times, and feminists, that prioritise sex when sex matters.

Soontobe60 · 09/04/2024 08:56

Mt61 · 08/04/2024 23:17

I am 60 odd, have friends who are gay, one at 80 who was female but had part sex change, all kept hush, hush but we all knew!
I loved him to bits for the person he was.
but on to whether trans men should use female changing rooms, I think it’s not right!
males should use men’s, females should use ladies & trans should have their own spaces to change full stop. I stopped using our local baths where they introduced a changing village, plus changing the sauna to mixed, I wasn’t comfortable & that was before all this trans stuff today. I take people as I find them.

Firstly - there is no such thing as a ‘part sex change’. One cannot change one’s sex either fully or partly. One can take drugs or have cosmetic surgery, but will always remain the sex one was conceived as.
Secondly, of course transmen should use female changing rooms - transmen were born female and always will be female!

RebelliousCow · 09/04/2024 08:57

Nextdoor55 · 08/04/2024 21:08

I suggest that you speak openly to trans people.
My adult child's life was saved by becoming trans & I am not exaggerating. So I know more about the flip side than most.

Trans people are one of the most targeted group. I am speaking of violent crime, you claim to be educated so surely you are aware of this

It rattles me that people perpetuate the myth that all trans people are out to use the same fucking toilet as women because they are not. Most people are just quietly getting on with their lives.

You think people have not met, spoken to, listened to, been party to people who have claimed a trans identity? Have you spoken to any detransitioners?

If you also speak to detransitioners you will hear the exact same stories as those currently 'identifyng as' - but from those who have come out the other side. There is a lot of wisom and experience there from which we can all learn.

Helleofabore · 09/04/2024 09:00

Soontobe60 · 09/04/2024 08:59

Something similar has happened in Spain. Men in the military who self ID as transwomen have exploited a loophole that means they gain financially. https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2024/03/05/spanish-soldiers-change-gender-benefits-for-women/

And in Mexico.

https://www.reuters.com/article/idUSKBN1ID03J/

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