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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

St. John's Ambulance and pronouns.

68 replies

Imnobody4 · 28/03/2024 12:34

Surely this is illegal.

https://twitter.com/JamesEsses/status/1773278681286283498?t=SnCzWxajwU_7aBbspQ_2Ww&s=19

Wow.

Internal job applicants at @stjohnambulance are asked to share their pronouns.

If they refuse, text pops up chastising them and pressuring them to “reconsider”.

If they still refuse, they are told to explain why they won’t share them.

This is ideological harassment

https://twitter.com/JamesEsses/status/1773278681286283498?s=19&t=SnCzWxajwU_7aBbspQ_2Ww

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Gagagardener · 28/03/2024 14:36

Whoever suggested this upthread: it is perfect.

I/Me/Mine

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 28/03/2024 14:39

‘Everyone is referred to in the third person.’

Including the third person singular? Probably not…..

HPFA · 28/03/2024 14:42

I doubt this is going to survive for very long.

Apart from the questionable legality I don't think even Stonewall officially endorses harassing people to state pronouns when they've said they don't feel comfortable doing so or prefer not to.

Forhecksake · 28/03/2024 14:43

I work for a very large charity that primarily supports elderly people. When taking someone's details, I'm supposed to ask about their gender, sexuality, and whether they have their gender matches their sex at birth. You can probably imagine how well that goes down with people 80+ years of age.

I heard a recent proposal to add pronouns to the initial assessment questions. The reasoning was "Trans people's safety is more important than other people's feelings."

I don't even know where to start unpicking that.

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 28/03/2024 15:12

DadJoke · 28/03/2024 14:00

Everyone is referred to in the third person. You can base yours on your sex.

No, other people can refer to me as they see me. It’s not up to me to tell other people how to see me.

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 28/03/2024 15:17

Love51 · 28/03/2024 14:14

I think the issue for some of us is that we don't think that we should choose how other people speak about us. In all other aspects of speech and text, the responsibility for choosing words lies with the speaker or writer. Not with the subject of the words. Personally I can't get my head around why this would be different. I choose the words when I'm speaking, other people choose the words when they are speaking, even if it is about me or even to me.

Exactly. If someone refers to me as “snotrag” that’s their choice, and says something about them, not necessarily about me.

ExSJA · 28/03/2024 15:26

HPFA · 28/03/2024 14:42

I doubt this is going to survive for very long.

Apart from the questionable legality I don't think even Stonewall officially endorses harassing people to state pronouns when they've said they don't feel comfortable doing so or prefer not to.

Volunteers aren’t covered by employment law.

RoyalCorgi · 28/03/2024 15:32

The irony of saying "it helps to create an inclusive environment" when it does the exact opposite.

UltraLiteLife · 28/03/2024 15:32

ExSJA · 28/03/2024 15:26

Volunteers aren’t covered by employment law.

You're right, volunteers are not explicitly covered by employment law.

However, I know it gets tricky depending on the registration of an organisation etc and the perception of service delivery when the EqA 2010 is considered.

The Equality Act 2010 says changes or adjustments should be made to ensure you can access the following things if you’re disabled:

https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/law-and-courts/discrimination/check-what-type-of-discrimination-youve-experienced/duty-to-make-reasonable-adjustments-for-disabled-people/

I've no idea into which bucket SJA falls. And, yet again, can I say it's ridiculous that so many organisations don't perceive any need to be accessible, even when some 'reasonable accommodations' would be fairly trivial.

Asking your employer for changes to help you if you’re disabled

Find out when your employer has a duty to make changes to help you with your disability.

https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/work/discrimination-at-work/discrimination-at-work/taking-action/asking-your-employer-for-changes-to-help-if-youre-disabled/

Megifer · 28/03/2024 15:38

Oooh this is interesting our H&S manager (who i suspect is GC) very recently announced we were no longer using SJA for our FA and MHFA training instead using a small local company, I assumed it was cost but maybe its because of this?? I do hope so we spent about £5k a year with SJA!

HPFA · 28/03/2024 15:57

RoyalCorgi · 28/03/2024 15:32

The irony of saying "it helps to create an inclusive environment" when it does the exact opposite.

This is the weird thing, it's totally counter-productive.

I've seen trans people on Twitter and elsewhere saying that if people state their own pronouns in profiles etc it tells them "I'm on your side". Which I suppose does make sense in a way.

If you force people to state pronouns then this doesn't work anymore cos you don't know who is "on your side" and who's just doing it because they feel they have to.

This is all about forcing compliance, not the welfare of trans people.

DownWithThisKindOfThing · 28/03/2024 16:05

DadJoke · 28/03/2024 14:00

Everyone is referred to in the third person. You can base yours on your sex.

Don’t be obtuse. You know as well as anyone this is nothing more than having bought into an ideology and expecting staff to go along with it. It’s very ill advised

Emotionalsupportviper · 28/03/2024 16:07

HPFA · 28/03/2024 15:57

This is the weird thing, it's totally counter-productive.

I've seen trans people on Twitter and elsewhere saying that if people state their own pronouns in profiles etc it tells them "I'm on your side". Which I suppose does make sense in a way.

If you force people to state pronouns then this doesn't work anymore cos you don't know who is "on your side" and who's just doing it because they feel they have to.

This is all about forcing compliance, not the welfare of trans people.

If you force people to state pronouns then this doesn't work anymore cos you don't know who is "on your side" and who's just doing it because they feel they have to.

This is a good point. I hadn't thought of this.

They could let a Trojan horse full of rabid TERFS into their organisation . . .

SamW98 · 28/03/2024 16:07

Gullsoaring · 28/03/2024 14:09

In all the job interviews I have done in my decades of work, no-one has ever referred to me by my pronouns.

Furthermore, this information, that refers to your protected characteristics, should not be linked to your job/ volunteer application (except in specific circumstances) as it can lead to candidates being discriminated against, such as for being female. So they really shouldn't be asking for pronouns at this stage so that they 'know how to refer to you.'

Furthermore, I have never seen a form asking me to explain why I don't want to state, say, my ethnicity or sexuality. Its highly inappropriate for them to ask this. This information is for equality monitoring purposes only.

And finally, we all know this creates a hostile environment for people with GC views, especially the ' why not' question. Asking for pronouns is not a neutral act, its a political one.

💯- in my 55 years on this planet I’ve never had to introduce myself as she/her or announce that I’m a woman. Every bloody clue is there in front of peoples eyes and ears.

I’ve interviewed 100’s maybe 1000’s of job candidates over my career and I’ve not once asked someone’s pronouns. I use their name like most normal people always have before this crap started

We’re not allowed to ask someone’s age, sexuality, political leanings or religion at a job interview- why is asking pronouns acceptable then?

HPFA · 28/03/2024 16:25

Emotionalsupportviper · 28/03/2024 16:07

If you force people to state pronouns then this doesn't work anymore cos you don't know who is "on your side" and who's just doing it because they feel they have to.

This is a good point. I hadn't thought of this.

They could let a Trojan horse full of rabid TERFS into their organisation . . .

It's funny how you just don't know what people's real views on this are!

I saw the word TERF used on a note at work (an informal note but still, officially, a work communication) and said quietly to the manager that I thought it was inappropriate and warned them possibly illegal (Thanks, Maya) They totally agreed but commented cryptically that it was lucky it was me who spotted it and not "someone else" or there's have been hell to pay. Which makes me think there's someone much more GC in the building somewhere but I have no idea who!

ExSJA · 28/03/2024 16:26

UltraLiteLife · 28/03/2024 15:32

You're right, volunteers are not explicitly covered by employment law.

However, I know it gets tricky depending on the registration of an organisation etc and the perception of service delivery when the EqA 2010 is considered.

The Equality Act 2010 says changes or adjustments should be made to ensure you can access the following things if you’re disabled:

https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/law-and-courts/discrimination/check-what-type-of-discrimination-youve-experienced/duty-to-make-reasonable-adjustments-for-disabled-people/

I've no idea into which bucket SJA falls. And, yet again, can I say it's ridiculous that so many organisations don't perceive any need to be accessible, even when some 'reasonable accommodations' would be fairly trivial.

None of the above. There is no legal requirement for them to consider RAs for vols.

howard97A · 28/03/2024 16:33

we are firmly committed to meeting the requirements under the Equity ACT 2010.

They could start by learning the the name of the Act !

UtopiaPlanitia · 28/03/2024 22:22

howard97A · 28/03/2024 16:33

we are firmly committed to meeting the requirements under the Equity ACT 2010.

They could start by learning the the name of the Act !

It like nails scraping across a blackboard for me every time somebody on telly or radio call it The 'Equalities' Act 😩

nothingcomestonothing · 29/03/2024 07:42

Forhecksake · 28/03/2024 14:43

I work for a very large charity that primarily supports elderly people. When taking someone's details, I'm supposed to ask about their gender, sexuality, and whether they have their gender matches their sex at birth. You can probably imagine how well that goes down with people 80+ years of age.

I heard a recent proposal to add pronouns to the initial assessment questions. The reasoning was "Trans people's safety is more important than other people's feelings."

I don't even know where to start unpicking that.

How does declaring pronouns make transpeople 'safe'? So sick of the ridiculous hyperbole that people not 100% believing and swearing allegiance to someone's religion, makes that person unsafe.

HereForTheFreeLunch · 29/03/2024 08:48

Nobody in senior positions/board is trans but there are influential people with trans friends and family members.
Amazing how everyone has women friends and family members but that never works out in our favour.

DadJoke · 29/03/2024 08:51

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 28/03/2024 15:12

No, other people can refer to me as they see me. It’s not up to me to tell other people how to see me.

So you think pronouns should be based not on sex, but on the perception of it?

passthepenguin · 29/03/2024 08:54

Imnobody4 · 28/03/2024 12:34

Surely this is illegal.

https://twitter.com/JamesEsses/status/1773278681286283498?t=SnCzWxajwU_7aBbspQ_2Ww&s=19

Wow.

Internal job applicants at @stjohnambulance are asked to share their pronouns.

If they refuse, text pops up chastising them and pressuring them to “reconsider”.

If they still refuse, they are told to explain why they won’t share them.

This is ideological harassment

I would reply back asking why they need to know. The truth is they don’t need to know. They are pushing an ideology.

passthepenguin · 29/03/2024 08:54

DadJoke · 29/03/2024 08:51

So you think pronouns should be based not on sex, but on the perception of it?

🙄

mach2 · 29/03/2024 09:26

Their policy states that if someone objects to sharing toilets or changing rooms with someone that is trans they will be “educated” and if they still refuse they’ll face disciplinary proceedings for harassment.

There is no accomodation that can be made with this mindset. The ideologues must be driven out.