I've just been watching - part 1 is pretty gruelling, and part 2 is classic angry KJK energy. I think OP is feeling a bit called out by KJK. Here's a bit of a transcript.
I'll tell you how you can demonstrate it. Hello can we see all the evidence that said this is good? Here it is: a blank piece of paper. Here's the evidence. There's no evidence!
It's really scary when you think that most of us ordinary people - the women that congregate at Let Women Speak - we know better about this than anybody. Anybody. It just beggars belief. I feel like I'm the world expert in gender dysphoria; what is it? It's nothing!
Oh come and buy a ticket to the Conference, come and join the great and the good, all the non-confrontational polite, respectful, rational, courteous people that will sit and give you a round of applause if you say "I think it might be quite harmful to give children puberty blockers".
Oh well, fuck me, well done! Really? You think so? What, blocking puberty might be harmful?
"Uh, can I just say I also think it's harmful to cut the legs off of newborn infants."
Oh my god, well done! Wow, that's so, oh my god I can't believe someone's finally said it! You're just incredible.
And can I just say if you were in the conference, if you attended the conference, if you're part of the great and the good, the rational, the reasonable the wonderful, I don't think we're on the same team. I don't think we're fighting the same fight.
I think if you set up a conference on the basis that you are going to deal with "gender", "gender identity" and "gender dysphoria" you're just not on the same fight as me. Perhaps I just deal more in real-world stuff. Perhaps I'm just a little bit more abrasive, perhaps I don't mind being disliked, perhaps I'm not courting the great and the good. Perhaps I don't give a shit about their approval. I don't want it. I'd rather not have it, because it means I'm doing something wrong. There's a reason I don't go to these events, and that's because I really cannot - I could not sit there with a bunch of simpering morons listening to people talk about "maybe we should be cautious about giving kids cross-sex hormones".
I'm so cross. And can I just say to all the people who think that I'm not allowed to be angry, or it's not the way don't fucking tune in, don't listen I don't care.
I have said right from the off I don't need to be liked I don't want your approval I don't care if you think I'm right or wrong I don't care about any of those things. What I care about is that I see something, I want to say it, I'm going to fucking say it, I'm going to keep saying it and I'm not going to stop saying it.
And I'm never going to be okay about those of you that compromise. Like sod you, compromise who? Which child? 18-year-old? Should we compromise 18-year olds? Are they old enough are they old enough to cut their breasts off? Are they old enough for medics to go "well, you know 18 is the..." Are they okay for a theoretical paper on how we can just rob them of their futures?
I think she's clear - she's too busy pushing the edge of the GC side of the Overton window to waste her time on people being dragged along by the movement at the other end of it.
We need all sorts of people here, and KJK is utterly key to that end of the fight. If everyone was like, say, Jesse Singal, we'd be making much slower progress. (But he's key to his end too, and we need people like him). Someone has to be there consistently pointing out how extreme the "centrist" position actually is.
I'd be interested to see OP's actual response to any of KJK's actual points.