Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Mention of dangerous Terf-led lesbian bar

108 replies

QuetzalTerfLus · 03/03/2024 11:38

Article here on a new trans-inclusive “lesbian” bar, with nice dig at the horrid old lesbians who may not want men in their spaces.

I guess this is an opinion / review piece but still quite surprising to see “Terf” being used in mainstream press. And I thought the Standard had undertaken to be balanced in its journalism.

https://www.standard.co.uk/going-out/london-lesbian-bar-la-camionera-tiktok-b1142159.html

How can London have only one lesbian bar?

New venue La Camionera was long overdue, says Isobel Van Dyke

https://www.standard.co.uk/going-out/london-lesbian-bar-la-camionera-tiktok-b1142159.html

OP posts:
Thread gallery
5
PercyPeg · 17/05/2024 16:15

literarybitery · 17/05/2024 16:10

Yes, I have just listened to it. Its just a bog standard bar!

I love Cara the male lesbian saying, ' yeah, because people often read me as a straight cis man, I just don't want to have to answer those questions about my identity, so its open to everyone and inclusive.'

You could get that in any bar, Cara the Male Lesbian. No random is going to walk up to you and ask you, as a random bloke with your girlfriend, any questions about your identity, or anything else really.

But lets be honest. This entire project is a vanity project to validate Cara that Male Lesbian's identity as a lesbian.

This stuff really just beggars belief!

Are we living in the Final chapters of Animal Farm?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 17/05/2024 16:31

because people often read me as a straight cis man

Wonder why that is? Confused I can just picture "Cara".

thatsthewayitis · 17/05/2024 16:31

So basically a bar for spicy straights to feel special.
I mentioned to Jenny about having open women's nights (straight, bi) for her lesbian private club. I think it would be great. I never minded in the past in my lesbian social group if someone brought their straight female friend who wanted a girls' night out. They were always nice.

BezMills · 17/05/2024 16:48

Poor old Cara the Manbian

GrumpyPanda · 17/05/2024 19:58

Chersfrozenface · 17/05/2024 13:44

Also, why are they asking for donations?

Are not enough people going in and buying drinks?

If that's the case, I wonder why that might be.

I'm also amazed they're on Indiegogo rather than Gofundme. Isn't that supposed to indicate proximity to far right causes, or am I getting confused?

Sausagenbacon · 17/05/2024 21:27

I was listening to this in absolute amazement. How can somewhere be a Lesbian bar if they let everyone in? Mind boggling.

RapidOnsetGenderCritic · 17/05/2024 21:40

Chersfrozenface · 17/05/2024 13:32

I had to look it up. It stands for Female, Lesbian, Intersex, Trans and Agender or "anyone who is not a cis man".

So yes, anyone, provided they mouth the right words.

It’s not very inclusive if it excludes "cis" men. Another example of inconsistency among the inclusive.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 17/05/2024 21:51

And "Cara" says Cara is often mistaken for a "cis man", so all "cis men" have to do is identify as a woman or non binary. I imagine most of them that aren't doing it already probably have better things to do though.

duc748 · 17/05/2024 21:59

And "Cara" says Cara is often mistaken for a "cis man"

Oh, the shame! That must be so tough! 😄

FineThenLetsDance · 18/05/2024 07:02

JanesLittleGirl · 03/03/2024 14:59

Here is a photo of the founder, Alex Loveless, and their girlfriend, Clara. The sharper eyed among you may be able to see which one is Alex.

You guys are hilarious. Alex is trans masc. According to your beliefs, he's one of the poor, sad lesbians you're all so desperate to leverage so you can justify voting Tory.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 18/05/2024 08:48

Why does a "trans masc" female person want to run a "lesbian" bar?

FineThenLetsDance · 18/05/2024 09:29

Many trans mascs come from and are very much still part of the lesbian community.

WickedSerious · 18/05/2024 09:38

Sounds like it just identifies as a lesbian bar.

Imagine that.

PercyPeg · 18/05/2024 09:50

FineThenLetsDance · 18/05/2024 09:29

Many trans mascs come from and are very much still part of the lesbian community.

Do you believe “Clara” is the one with the short hair, or long her?

FineThenLetsDance · 18/05/2024 10:13

PercyPeg · 18/05/2024 09:50

Do you believe “Clara” is the one with the short hair, or long her?

Alex is the one holding the keys, as I understand it.

literarybitery · 18/05/2024 10:25

FineThenLetsDance · 18/05/2024 07:02

You guys are hilarious. Alex is trans masc. According to your beliefs, he's one of the poor, sad lesbians you're all so desperate to leverage so you can justify voting Tory.

Confused. Your argument here is based on people needing to create causes to ‘justify’ voting Tory. But why do you think they need to do that? If someone wants to vote Tory, why don’t they just vote Tory? I can’t see the sense in what you are saying?

Do you invent causes to justify voting for whatever party you vote for? Is that why you think others do the same?

FineThenLetsDance · 18/05/2024 10:33

literarybitery · 18/05/2024 10:25

Confused. Your argument here is based on people needing to create causes to ‘justify’ voting Tory. But why do you think they need to do that? If someone wants to vote Tory, why don’t they just vote Tory? I can’t see the sense in what you are saying?

Do you invent causes to justify voting for whatever party you vote for? Is that why you think others do the same?

I'm not making an argument. I'm watching GCs dunk on a trans masc cos they think he's a cis man in the name of 'protecting lesbians' and pointing out that by your own beliefs, Alex is exactly who should be running a lesbian bar.

Chersfrozenface · 18/05/2024 10:46

FineThenLetsDance · 18/05/2024 10:33

I'm not making an argument. I'm watching GCs dunk on a trans masc cos they think he's a cis man in the name of 'protecting lesbians' and pointing out that by your own beliefs, Alex is exactly who should be running a lesbian bar.

I'm not making an argument.

Can't let this first sentence go without comment.

From the FineThemLetsDance's post , quoted by literybitery:
"According to your beliefs, he's one of the poor, sad lesbians you're all so desperate to leverage so you can justify voting Tory."

My bolding.

FineThenLetsDance · 18/05/2024 10:53

Chersfrozenface · 18/05/2024 10:46

I'm not making an argument.

Can't let this first sentence go without comment.

From the FineThemLetsDance's post , quoted by literybitery:
"According to your beliefs, he's one of the poor, sad lesbians you're all so desperate to leverage so you can justify voting Tory."

My bolding.

Quite keen to side step the ignorance about who Alex is, eh?

But sure, it's a common statement on here that many of you are 'reluctantly' voting Tory because little Rishi 'at least knows what a woman is'. Given that a few of you claim to be on the left, it's clear you're scrabbling around for justifications and some of you have settled on 'protecting lesbians'.

AstonUniversityScrapedMyCorpus · 18/05/2024 14:56

FineThenLetsDance · 18/05/2024 07:02

You guys are hilarious. Alex is trans masc. According to your beliefs, he's one of the poor, sad lesbians you're all so desperate to leverage so you can justify voting Tory.

You are correct that Alex is female but why would a transman open a lesbian bar? Sounds suspiciously terfy.

AstonUniversityScrapedMyCorpus · 18/05/2024 15:04

Also, someone should probably pull KuntaCxnty aside and warn zir that the ‘Indigenous’ bit of ‘Queer, Trans, Indigenous, People of Colour’ doesn’t translate well from US to UK 🙈

Looks like the queer AFABs, transmen and nonbinary folx risk being displaced by an influx of visitors from Malaga Airport and their male admirers anyway? 😬

Mention of dangerous Terf-led lesbian bar
Mention of dangerous Terf-led lesbian bar
Mention of dangerous Terf-led lesbian bar
FineThenLetsDance · 18/05/2024 15:32

AstonUniversityScrapedMyCorpus · 18/05/2024 14:56

You are correct that Alex is female but why would a transman open a lesbian bar? Sounds suspiciously terfy.

Only if you have zero connection to lesbian history or community. 🤷‍♂️

AstonUniversityScrapedMyCorpus · 18/05/2024 15:39

FineThenLetsDance · 18/05/2024 15:32

Only if you have zero connection to lesbian history or community. 🤷‍♂️

Don’t get me wrong, I’m in total agreement with you, transmen and lesbians belong together.

But I’m a total terf, so that makes you at least a cryptoterf, maybe even an actual terf.

Welcome to Terf Club! 🍹🍹

TitusMoan · 18/05/2024 15:48

QTIPOC booking priority??? FFS.

Wouldn’t it be simpler just to say ‘I identify as someone who’s so special that I shouldn’t ever have to wait or queue’ ?

AstonUniversityScrapedMyCorpus · 18/05/2024 15:49

FWIW I thought the garden/court yard area looks lovely, based on the instagram behind-the-scenes pics.

Might be hard to generate enough covers in such a small venue to stay afloat financially, but Alex’s food Substack suggests the product could well be very good and I wish them (plural!) well.

London is a massive city so plenty of room for both a Trans owned tapas cafe and the upcoming Lesbian private members club - I suspect A will create an unintended pipeline towards B anyway.