Do you really believe this? Why does one persons feelings trump another?
I feel like a school pupil so can I go back to school and join in the classes and take all my GCSES, and if lots of us adults, who already have degrees and masters, do that and push up the pass rate of GCSEs would that be fair, after all if I feel young then despite my biological age giving me an advantage here, it's fair, right?
What about if I feel like I want to be an accountant having done a book keeping course? Would you be okay with that? after all what are exams if not a social construct? Generally speaking the higher your academic attainment the greater social mobility, so perhaps as a society we can all feel like we've got expertise and skills and then offer our services as various professionals? Counselling is unregulated, anyone can set themselves up as a counsellor, so perhaps that's the way forward for all areas of work....what could possibly go wrong?
What about if I wanted to become a member of the royal household? Would that be okay if I buy all the gear, the diamonds, the bags the makeup, now I feel like a royal can I be a royal and have the privileges that affords me?
Or what if I'm fed up of working and want to give up my mortgage and ask the council for a house, because I feel that's the way for me to feel better and less stressed? Or would that be wrong because I'm taking something away from someone who's in a less fortunate position than myself? But my feelings matter right?
Why is okay to impersonate someone sometimes and illegal at others? Actors spend their life impersonating others, so if they carry on the charade after working hours is that okay? Going back to my accountancy analogy, providing I'm not working as an accountant is it okay to say I am one because I feel like I am? Are there anytimes when it's justifiable to claim to be something you are not because of feelings? Is deception ever okay? If I don't feel like going to work would that be okay? Would it be illegal to claim sick pay because I feel like I'm ill, even though there is nothing physically or mentally wrong with me, I'm just sick of working or would I be up before a disciplinary hearing for taking something I'm not entitled to take? Would it be seen as fraudulent gain?
So I ask you, a male with biological male advanage, feels like a female and can enter a female race, and that's okay because it's just for fun? Now supposed there is a £10k prize in the female race and a male who feels like a female enters and wins, is that okay or is that a deception? Because biologically no matter what hormones and surgeries that male person has had, the male physiology will still be an advantage over female physiology.
If someone feels disabled, even though it's a purely functional illness (so very real to them), would it be okay for them to compete in the disability sporting category, despite still having the advantages on an abled body person?
Psychologically speaking most people who feel they are 'in the wrong body' have a psychological illness, so at what point do we continue to collude in their illness? At what point do feelings takeover from reality? How does it feel to be a man or woman or an asthmatic if you don't have asthma? I don't know how it feels to be anyone else, so I can't say I feel like X Y or Z? I do feel old, my joints ache, I have arthritis, my hearing and eyesight are rapidly declining, maybe I'll feel more old in a few years time and wonder why I felt old in my 40s compared to my 60s? But if I feel old now, why can't I claim my pension and retire? have a free bus pass, or take part in the over 60s free swimming session our local leisure centre offers? Or enter the over 70s race our local running club does each year, and claim the winning £100? Or do you think I might be called out for such behaviour, after all by your argument why should my feelings and biological advantage trump someone in their 70s? It would give me a real boost to win that race, as I've no chance in winning the 50s and under category.
Supposing there are two competitions one for neurotypical and one for neurodivergent. Now supposing being NT gives you the edge in the ND competition and vice versa.
If a NT person feels ND would it be okay for them to enter the ND category?
Supposing a NT person could take a tablet that makes them ND would it now be okay to enter the category? Or do you think having lived most of their life as NT might just give them the edge?
As a ND person in a NT world I'd love nothing more to have a normal functioning brain, I would have done much better at school, I'd have had much better job prospects, I'd be much more productive at home, but I also wouldn't be me. I can no more change my biological, neurological or psychological make up, as much as I'd like too, than a leopard can change its spots. There is a reason why, in general terms, most self help books are only helpful in the short term...
It's fine to listen to your feelings and emotions and by all means find ways of making life happier, if that's wearing frocks or smocks then go for it, but we shouldn't allow feelings to disadvantage or cause harm to others, that way madness lies, I want to be treated by a qualified doctor not someone feeling like a doctor!