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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

If you're GC, what should trans people actually do?

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AmaListening · 10/08/2023 20:47

I'd like to understand what someone with gender critical views thinks trans people should do.

Maybe let's make it specific with a couple of famous examples: Laverne Cox (trans woman), and Elliot Page (trans man).

Imagine you had it exactly your way. What should those human beings, who feel and identify the way they do, do about every aspect like: names, pronouns, surgery, clothing, relationships, social spaces, work, sports.

How should Laverne speak about her own identity? Should Elliot not have had top surgery?

I'd really like to understand what the world looks like for trans people if we carry GC views through to their end points.

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GailBlancheViola · 11/08/2023 13:16

Froodwithatowel · 11/08/2023 12:15

I would say that anyone who identifies as a woman is welcome to attend 'women only' spaces.

So I'll ask yet again - since it's been asked several times on this thread alone and no one ever answers.

This is lovely - but what do you plan to do with all the women who cannot use mixed sex spaces and who you just excluded entirely from access to services, resources and equality of public life in order to generously give male people the freedom to choose their sex and use whatever space they prefer?

Honestly. Please. Someone.

Is this a case of simple racism/classism? That these women aren't like you and yours and so you don't see them as important enough to be worth equality? Is this the new Margot Leadbetter just washing inconvenient grotty people out of her naice middle class white British society?

Because it's repeatedly explained that these women exist, it isn't that you don't know.

Someone own it.

Why do you see these women as worthless and wish to exclude them from society?

And why are you pretending to believe that these men are women when you're making it very clear that you believe male people's entitlements come before female people's basic equality and human rights? It's fantastically sexist in a very binary way, you know exactly which sex you think should have choice at the expense of the other sex's equality and humanity.

And why does no one ever have the guts to actually own and defend this awful belief system? Is it because you know there's something very, very wrong with it?

Well said frood we never, ever get an answer to this:

but what do you plan to do with all the women who cannot use mixed sex spaces and who you just excluded entirely from access to services, resources and equality of public life in order to generously give male people the freedom to choose their sex and use whatever space they prefer?

I've come to the conclusion that they just don't care about those women, they have contempt for them that is how deep the misogyny goes.

HootyMcBooby76 · 11/08/2023 13:28

Gender neutral spaces don't work for those TW who are adamant that they are women and will only use women's spaces for the validation they crave.
This has been shown time and again.

And how would we "police" it?
In the past we relied on the good morals of most men to stay out of the women's spaces, but now?

I genuinely believe that third spaces are not the answer, that a heck of a lot of money would be spent on them, and that they would lie mainly empty.

Unless every toilet block is made gender neutral everywhere with fully independent floor to ceiling walls, there will still be men using women's spaces.
It would be the only way to remove the thrill of using the female facilities, if there WERE no truly female facilities.
But then that excludes women who can ONLY use fully female facilities, so we are back to square one.

MrsKeats · 11/08/2023 13:28

Stop invading women's spaces.
Stop denying biology.
For a start.

Froodwithatowel · 11/08/2023 13:30

GailBlancheViola · 11/08/2023 13:16

Well said frood we never, ever get an answer to this:

but what do you plan to do with all the women who cannot use mixed sex spaces and who you just excluded entirely from access to services, resources and equality of public life in order to generously give male people the freedom to choose their sex and use whatever space they prefer?

I've come to the conclusion that they just don't care about those women, they have contempt for them that is how deep the misogyny goes.

But always enough self awareness of how very wrong this is that there isn't the guts to say, flat out, 'I think women of these faiths, these cultures, these traumas, these disabilities, are worthless and should have their rights removed in order to benefit men and people like me'.

ThomasinaLivesHere · 11/08/2023 13:36

BCCoach · 11/08/2023 13:04

@loislovesstewie which is why we have female and open categories. Gender-neutral events aren't going to happen because they are a lot of additional organisation for no-one to show up. Organising 10 races at a typical meet in my sport is enough of a headache without adding a bunch more that will not actually attract any entries.

Gender neutral events are also just a way for males to win more prizes as demonstrated by having non-binary categories in marathons it’s only ever males who unsurprisingly win.

MumOfYoungTransAdult · 11/08/2023 13:40

I genuinely believe that third spaces are not the answer, that a heck of a lot of money would be spent on them, and that they would lie mainly empty.

10 years ago I might have agreed but I don't think that's true any more. By now we have created a generation of young people many of whom will need different kinds of third spaces for years if not forever. We don't yet know how many before the wave passes.

NicolaSturgeonsSOGIbottom · 11/08/2023 13:42

MumOfYoungTransAdult · 11/08/2023 13:40

I genuinely believe that third spaces are not the answer, that a heck of a lot of money would be spent on them, and that they would lie mainly empty.

10 years ago I might have agreed but I don't think that's true any more. By now we have created a generation of young people many of whom will need different kinds of third spaces for years if not forever. We don't yet know how many before the wave passes.

The Gender Quacks have a lot to answer for.

RebelliousCow · 11/08/2023 13:43

vibecheck · 11/08/2023 10:52

God, I just don’t want women to be segregated in this way. I don’t want to be constantly defined by my biology and othered by it, whilst everyone else gets to be “all welcome”.

When youb talk about being 'othered' are you referringv to a recognition that there are actually some differences between the two sexes - which at general population level, mean it is best/safest/optimum for women to have single sex spaces, services and categories in certain types of circumstance?

turbonerd · 11/08/2023 13:44

ASGIRC · 10/08/2023 23:36

Yes, I really can see the feminine side of Brian Michael Smith, with his small hands and feet!
https://pridesource.com/article/ann-arbor-native-brian-michael-smith-incredibly-honored-to-be-first-trans-man-on-peoples-sexiest-men-alive-list/
It is the first thing that strikes me about him when I look at his pictures. Its how feminine he looks.

I don’t care if she looks like Attila The Hun.

Men in the men’s facilities.

Women in the women’s facilities.

Single sex facilities are not options for those of us who have ptsd after rape and/or abuse.

How about being kind?

Campaign for a Third, mixed sex facility.

Good luck.

Froodwithatowel · 11/08/2023 13:45

MumOfYoungTransAdult · 11/08/2023 13:40

I genuinely believe that third spaces are not the answer, that a heck of a lot of money would be spent on them, and that they would lie mainly empty.

10 years ago I might have agreed but I don't think that's true any more. By now we have created a generation of young people many of whom will need different kinds of third spaces for years if not forever. We don't yet know how many before the wave passes.

I agree. And it's the obvious answer. If you are not comfortable using the space for your sex then that feeling and choice can be respected and an alternative is available.

This will separate those who genuinely want an alternative option for their needs, and those who merely wish to use non consenting women in a vulnerable state, and exclude those who will not comply. And those who cannot tolerate seeing women's needs met even after their own needs have been provided for. Those poor behaviours need stamping on, not indulging.

What is then needed is a massive 'education' of male people, and sadly a lot of female people too, that women are human, that some women have inclusion and diversity needs just as important as male people with TQ identities, and that a working society requires accepting a responsibility to respect other people's boundaries and inclusion/access needs as well as expecting accessible facilities yourself.

turbonerd · 11/08/2023 13:45
  • single sex facilities are not optional, but vital
RebelliousCow · 11/08/2023 13:47

vibecheck · 11/08/2023 11:07

I’m going to stop posting now, I don’t know why I bothered, I’m off work and got sucked in I suppose. I just can’t get over how any woman can believe they’re a feminist whilst consistently defining womanhood as vulnerable and biological. It’s so not helping anyone. The cruelty and nastiness on this thread I’ve come to expect, but the stupidity I find mind-boggling.

(and I know you all think my views are stupid and not feminist, but ah well - we’ll never agree on this I suppose)

But a woman is literally an adult human female. Biology is what defines the sexes.

That is not to say everyone is circumscribed by their sex in all matters, but that sex can and does have consequneces on a material, emotional and social level - which necessitate the provision of single sex categories for women - in order they maintain the dignity and privacy of their sex; and also to ensure that female athleticism and excellence receives if fair reward in sporting competition.

Feminist believe that women have value and dignity - not that they are exactly the same as men.

RebelliousCow · 11/08/2023 13:55

puffyisgood · 11/08/2023 11:49

"Vulnerable and biological"? Jesus **ing christ. Women, I mean actual women, can do pretty much anything that men can do - we've seen plenty of women become the absolute best in the world, regardless of sex, in their field. Women heads of state, women, Nobel laureates, women Fields medal winners, women FTSE 100 CEOs... and we'll see more of all of the above... women can be as good as or better than men in pretty much every field of human endeavour, that's a given... but when it comes to the purely physical stuff, can a woman ever be as physically strong, or as fast, as the strongest or fastest men in the world... no, that can never happen, as a species we're just not built like that, this has always been known by every say aged 10 plus year old human on the planet and always will be.

Also men tend to be driven in more overtly sexualised ways. There is plenty of evidence of this ( plus there is no female equivalent of the voyeur, the flasher, the heavy breather, the transvestite...); and you only have to look at gay male culture to see what male sexual behaviour looks like when free of the contraints of female preference. Pornography is also predominantly a male pastime, as is the buying of sex.

Elizadoloads · 11/08/2023 14:01

Also curious about people's views.. Those people saying women's spaces should not include trans.. Are you therefore fine with the idea of Elliot Page using a female space? I read somewhere that someone was taking legal action against a women's charity that supports rape victims for letting a trans person join their group therapy. So if Leverne was assaulted do you think she shouldn't be able to use these services.. Where should she go for support?

NicolaSturgeonsSOGIbottom · 11/08/2023 14:05

Elizadoloads · 11/08/2023 14:01

Also curious about people's views.. Those people saying women's spaces should not include trans.. Are you therefore fine with the idea of Elliot Page using a female space? I read somewhere that someone was taking legal action against a women's charity that supports rape victims for letting a trans person join their group therapy. So if Leverne was assaulted do you think she shouldn't be able to use these services.. Where should she go for support?

A GBT specific service (L’s and female B’s can use the women only one).

SunnyEgg · 11/08/2023 14:08

Haven’t rtft but I’d like people to present how they want but use their own sex class spaces / sports etc

No forced pronouns and just sex being biological sex not a legal difference

ChatBFP · 11/08/2023 14:09

@vibecheck

So if you were incarcerated, you would want to be in a male prison, rather than being "defined" by your sex?

Ereshkigalangcleg · 11/08/2023 14:09

Are you therefore fine with the idea of Elliot Page using a female space?

Yes, EP is very obviously female, so why wouldn't I be?

NicolaSturgeonsSOGIbottom · 11/08/2023 14:09

Elliot Page presumably won’t want to use the women only provision but if Elliot did prefer the women only provision the other women using it are unlikely to feel scared of Elliot’s potential for physically or sexually assaulting them.

Elliot Page is very obviously female despite the cosmetic surgery and hormones.

If you're GC, what should trans people actually do?
If you're GC, what should trans people actually do?
Elizadoloads · 11/08/2023 14:10

@NicolaSturgeonsSOGIbottom
Sorry your response has confused me, What does L's and B's mean?

DeanElderberry · 11/08/2023 14:10

Elizadoloads · 11/08/2023 14:01

Also curious about people's views.. Those people saying women's spaces should not include trans.. Are you therefore fine with the idea of Elliot Page using a female space? I read somewhere that someone was taking legal action against a women's charity that supports rape victims for letting a trans person join their group therapy. So if Leverne was assaulted do you think she shouldn't be able to use these services.. Where should she go for support?

Women's spaces should not include men.

Transwomen are men, and should not be in women's spaces.

Transmen are women. Transmen, including Elliot Page, are welcome in women's spaces.

Rape support charities for men exist and are available to any man who has been raped or sexually assaulted. If Transwomen need specific designated support, then they should do what women have done, and organise it.

MumOfYoungTransAdult · 11/08/2023 14:12

I read somewhere that someone was taking legal action against a women's charity that supports rape victims for letting a trans person join their group therapy. So if Leverne was assaulted do you think she shouldn't be able to use these services..

You only read half the story. The charity offered a group for women, an LGBT group and a goup for men. The legal case is because the charity allowed a male (a transwomen) to join the women's group and also insisted that the women had to welcome them.

Where should she go for support?

Laverne (a transwoman presumably?) could join the LGBT group or the men's group.

The right services do exist if only people would use them.

NicolaSturgeonsSOGIbottom · 11/08/2023 14:15

Elizadoloads · 11/08/2023 14:10

@NicolaSturgeonsSOGIbottom
Sorry your response has confused me, What does L's and B's mean?

L is the female part of LGBT.

GBT services exist for humans like Laverne, a gender nonconforming homosexual male who identifies as a woman. These services also cater for gender non conforming homosexual males who don’t have inner lady-feelings (eg most drag queens).

Female bisexuals can use women only rape crisis services, as can lesbians, which is why I wrote GBT instead of LGBT.

Cox isn’t female & doesn’t actually look female 🤷‍♀️

If you're GC, what should trans people actually do?
If you're GC, what should trans people actually do?
Helleofabore · 11/08/2023 14:15

”I don’t want society to section off “biological women” whilst everyone else gets to be everyone else, not defined by biology. That’s othering. That’s what women have been trying to escape for hundreds of years and now we’re back to women othering themselves. It’s not long before we go back to being told we can’t do XYZ because of our poor feminine biology”

And

I just can’t get over how any woman can believe they’re a feminist whilst consistently defining womanhood as vulnerable and biological. It’s so not helping anyone.

Just coming back to these two posts.

This is an example of polarisation that seems to underlie that misrepresentation of the equality / equity that second wave feminists sought as I believe it. Often this is linked with a false narrative that all discrimination is bad when in actual fact, there are different types of discrimination. And discrimination in and of itself as an action is not ‘bad’. It can be good for society and individuals also.

This is lazy thinking though that some feminist academics have also been publishing so I don’t blame posters specifically for this, there are professional feminists who are saying this. And many extreme trans activists.

When you evaluate it though, it can only be a false premise.

Feminists who believe that there are some needs that are unique to female people and that they need to be fully considered in policy and law do not believe that ‘biological women’ should be ‘sectioned off’ unless there is a specific need for that. This makes statements like these falsehoods. Because it removes the limiter on the statement, in this case ‘unless there is a specific need’ and makes a blanket statement about what some feminists believe. Again, this may not be something the poster has considered and they might be simply repeating what they have read from people they have chosen to respect.

So, no. feminists who are considered ‘gender critical’ join the poster in not wanting society to ‘section off biological women’.

“Whilst everyone else gets to be everyone else, not defined by biology” is not true. If female people are ‘defined by biology’, that just leaves male people. So…. there is no everyone else outside ‘male people’. Now it is a feminist thought, I believe, that male people have been the ‘default’ in many societies for a very long time. The reality is that there is only two sexes. And both are defined by their biology. There is absolutely no truth that there is any other group of people not defined by their biology. There is plenty of arguments that males should never be the default position and that no female person should be negatively discriminated against because of their sex.

However, it is very short sighted to say that every day life is not defined for many by their sex. In many job roles, if there is not a separate male vs female lifting regulation, then the maximum lift will be set with consideration to female physical limitations. Including the impact of repetitious lifting will have on the female body. This is just one example.

The argument for ‘equality’ misses the need that feminists fought for ‘equity’. That women should never be excluded from job roles or any opportunity that was not by necessity sex exclusive (such as male carers for male people). The argument was that women can contribute just as much to a workforce as male people so employers should not fucking discriminate against them for being female.

Making accommodations for female people is not ‘othering’ them! FFS. It seems like messed up logic to declare that differences in the needs of male people and the needs of female people are non-existent and that, as a concept, this ‘equality’ is progress!

It’s not long before we go back to being told we can’t do XYZ because of our poor feminine biology”

When I see professional feminists use this line of thought, I see it as coercive. It is threatening women with falsehoods to get them to comply or to campaign for that feminist’s view of women’s equality. It is not based on any reality at all. There really is not threat that the roles that are open to female people will begin to be limited. It is an empty threat. And it is also based on misrepresenting what other feminists are saying.

That is the polarisation part. The absolute statements being made. That is:

Feminists who acknowledge the needs of female people, including their trauma history that is certainly based on their ‘biology’, are reducing female people to their biology.

This is simply not true and it doesn’t take much to understand why.

I just can’t get over how any woman can believe they’re a feminist whilst consistently defining womanhood as vulnerable and biological. It’s so not helping anyone.

This is also a misrepresentation. One framed in exaggeration. Because feminists are not ‘defining’ womanhood as ‘vulnerable’. Feminists who prioritise the needs of female people above male people ‘acknowledge’ women are vulnerable to not only negative sexist discrimination in the work place, but also they will never be as strong or have the physical advantages of male people.

Women are not fucking TV super heroes, no matter how much some people wish to believe that it is highly likely that the average female person (even on testosterone) can fight off the average male people. The answer to that is, no. They MAY fight off an attacking male person but it is more likely that they will be significantly harmed and injured. However, technically, yes. All female people are ‘vulnerable’ when compared to male people.

Again, grip strength in a male in the lowest quartile of all male adults will be still stronger than all but the top 5 or 10% of female people. Punching power has large discrepancies. And female people have got less dense bones making them more susceptible to breakage AND our brains have more delicate brain fibres meaning we are more susceptible to permanent brain damage.

I ask any poster who uses the arguments that women are ‘just as’ strong as male people to show their workings. Link us up to the evidence. Otherwise you are speaking bollocks and you really need to stop because it is harmful to women and girls.

Now, where does that matter.

A person’s sex rarely matters in today’s society except when female people need extra protections due to their physical reality. And female people are hugely more at risk of having a male commit a sex crime against them. Toilets, changing rooms, prisons are all part of female single sex spaces. This IS where it matters.

Also any role where a female person wishes to have a female person look after them. For whatever reason.

So, I would now like someone who believes that acknowledging the physical reality of female people ‘is not helping anyone’ to explain to us how this is true in their eyes.

ApocalipstickNow · 11/08/2023 14:22

Elizadoloads · 11/08/2023 14:01

Also curious about people's views.. Those people saying women's spaces should not include trans.. Are you therefore fine with the idea of Elliot Page using a female space? I read somewhere that someone was taking legal action against a women's charity that supports rape victims for letting a trans person join their group therapy. So if Leverne was assaulted do you think she shouldn't be able to use these services.. Where should she go for support?

The whole thing is on MN if you read the thread by the woman concerned you will see the issue.

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