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toffeeappleglow · 05/07/2023 16:42

Perhaps rather than use 'man/men' or 'woman/women', police and crime journalists should use the strictly scientific 'male' or 'female', or is that forbidden, as well? Personally, I refuse to pretend that any other than a biological female can be a woman, but for those who live in fantasyland, is it considered too 'unkind' to use factual, biological descriptors like male/female?

HorribleNecktie · 05/07/2023 16:43

Couple of things:

Burgess Hill is around a 15 min drive/ train journey from Brighton.

If the police and news are inaccurately reporting the sex of the attackers (seems likely) then they have also perhaps lied about the sex of their victim, seeing as so many teenage girls are identifying as boys.

NotHavingIt · 05/07/2023 16:44

It could be that 'sexual assault' was a euphemism for rape - but since rape can only be committed by a man ( someone with a penis), and the fact these two were dressed in women's clothing and were reported to be women it has been described as an assault.

NotHavingIt · 05/07/2023 16:45

HorribleNecktie · 05/07/2023 16:43

Couple of things:

Burgess Hill is around a 15 min drive/ train journey from Brighton.

If the police and news are inaccurately reporting the sex of the attackers (seems likely) then they have also perhaps lied about the sex of their victim, seeing as so many teenage girls are identifying as boys.

Goo point!

This is where inaccurate/politically motivated reporting takes you.

NotHavingIt · 05/07/2023 16:46

good point

Mercymymercyme · 05/07/2023 16:47

If the 15 year old reported them as women, what do you expect the police force to do? To say "Well, he said they were women, but they're tall, so we'll ignore what the victim said"??

Well being as so many people have been cultured to believe TWAW, I would now expect the police to clarify with the victim if they meant a TW or a woman who was born female. Especially if there were features of the crime or description of the attackers which pointed more typically to it having been committed by a man.

LucyWarlowsRightHand · 05/07/2023 16:47

NotHavingIt · 05/07/2023 16:45

Goo point!

This is where inaccurate/politically motivated reporting takes you.

This is true.

Presumably then all we know is that two people allegedly attacked a third person.

I believe legally that’s acceptable to say. At least at present.

Mercymymercyme · 05/07/2023 16:48

NotHavingIt · 05/07/2023 16:45

Goo point!

This is where inaccurate/politically motivated reporting takes you.

And all the confusion happens when public bodies have been indoctrinated by a movement for whom words have lost their meaning.

Mercymymercyme · 05/07/2023 16:50

Fairislefandango · 05/07/2023 16:13

If you're a true feminist though periods and childbirth are not what makes us women. In-fact modern feminism was built on the idea that what makes us a woman is determined by ourselves.

Says who? That strikes me as being totally arse-about-face. What women can do is determined by ourselves. What makes us a woman is simply the fact that we are one. In a biological sense, because there is no other sense. You seem to be confusing the concept that what women make of their lives shouldn't be determined by their sex with the idea that women's sex can't be determined by their biology. The latter is not feminism, it's just nonsense.

Excellent response

ifIwerenotanandroid · 05/07/2023 16:54

BaronessEllarawrosaurus · 05/07/2023 14:50

2 perps, one described as 5ft 10 other as 6ft 3. Most people could reasonably estimate 5 inches different between people so if taller was 5ft 10 that reduces the 2nd to 5ft 5. The majority of 15 year old boys will be taller than this so it's not an understandable error in these circumstances. The heights won't be significantly out

Also, from reading online discussions I've become aware of how important height is to guys. I had no idea so many of them lie about what height they are, even when told by someone taller, "You can't be 6'1", because I am!". So I assume that just as women are better at discerning someone's sex in a nanosecond, men are better at recognising someone's height - particularly as, as @BaronessEllarawrosaurus points out, they may be in the mid-range for guys & so will start from 'taller than me, shorter than me'.

Mercymymercyme · 05/07/2023 16:57

It's useful semantics to distinguish Trans from Cis otherwise it gets confusing

It’s the other way around. The word cis was invented to try to cover up the fact that what distinguishes women from TW, is the fact that women are women.

It’s really important, as we can see from uncertainty about what sex of person police are looking for, that the woman means woman. It’s important in many, many other contexts too.

FourTeaFallOut · 05/07/2023 16:59

Hmmm

Horrible news story
backinthebox · 05/07/2023 17:01

evieowlette · 05/07/2023 15:23

Thing is I do call Trans Women "Women" and I believe in most ways they are. I don't consider them men at least not the ones who aren't just impersonating women in drag. I know that wont slide here but that's my opinion.

“….In most ways they are…” But how? What makes these men women? What tangible thing - give me just one thing - makes them women? Come on, if you are so certain trans women are women, give me one characteristic, one trait, one feature that is unique to women that makes these men women too, that they could only have if they were women for sure!

They are not women. You cannot be born a man and become a woman. You can be born a man and become a trans woman, but you can never, ever be born a man and become a woman. To suggest otherwise is to insult women - you know (to paraphrase Ricky Gervais) the cunty ones.

crumpet · 05/07/2023 17:01

Like many on here I will eat my hat if this is a crime committed by two biological females. In fact I will be happy to apologise to Sussex police if this is the case, but going by their current record at this stage I don’t believe their statement.

My heart goes out to the victim, who I hope is given the privacy and support needed to recover.

(Lets face it, it’s not going to take a lot for anyone to remove a red wig, pop on “manly” clothes and go about their daily business either, is it)

Florissante · 05/07/2023 17:03

Jarnsaxa · 05/07/2023 14:44

Maybe not dating sites. Snapchat, Instagram, that kind of thing. I'm not 15 anymore so idk. Just saying it's a likely scenario. Fifteen year old boys are often quite keen to meet girls.

A likely scenario? On what planet?

Quiverer · 05/07/2023 17:04

Mercymymercyme · 05/07/2023 16:47

If the 15 year old reported them as women, what do you expect the police force to do? To say "Well, he said they were women, but they're tall, so we'll ignore what the victim said"??

Well being as so many people have been cultured to believe TWAW, I would now expect the police to clarify with the victim if they meant a TW or a woman who was born female. Especially if there were features of the crime or description of the attackers which pointed more typically to it having been committed by a man.

So what is your evidence that they didn't clarify that? There are so many mad assumptions on this thread. We have no evidence that the police did not explore all this in depth with the victim who was absolutely sure that he was attacked by women. Alternatively, it may be that that was the best description that they could get in the first instance and they went with that because they had to; but they have every intention of going back over it with the victim in more depth when he has recovered a bit. When have you ever seen a description of a criminal where the police have said "Well, the victim said their attacker was a man with dark hair wearing a black coat, but actually we think they probably got it wrong because in our view men with dark hair don't commit this type of crime"?

RavingStone · 05/07/2023 17:09

If it turns out to be committed by 2 girls (as opposed to one girl &, one bloke or 2 blokes) we've nothing to apologise for.

We are only speculating about this because the police and the BBC have already repeatedly demonstrated their institutional misogyny and capture by the trans lobby.

Boiledbeetle · 05/07/2023 17:14

Helleofabore · 05/07/2023 16:22

Fuck! Did you read this before posting?

How do you know that no child was raped in producing that child sex abuse content that you just dismiss as ‘not like sexual offences or rape’? Not only that, but do you understand that every single time that content is viewed that any child sexually abused to produce that specific material is harmed again and again and again.

You seem rather dismissive about it all. Like ‘well, at least x wasn’t actually raping that child’ is any consolation for the victims. But maybe I am misunderstanding your post, in which case I apologise.

Thank you for saying that.

A lot of the children in child sexual abuses images will have been raped/sexually assaulted by the person who took the photos probably before after or during the time when the photos were taken.

And knowing that images of my CSA will still exist out there somewhere continues to haunt me over 40 years later.

people think it's a victimless crime just swapping and being in possession of images. It's so not which is why if you could put a line of children in each court room to represent the children in the photos i think the sentencing on these cases would change rapidly.

BoredandFifty · 05/07/2023 17:16

Breastfeeding babies and nipple clamps (see Thames Water thread)
Sexually assaulting children

We've been gaslighted, and we have been distracted. This was never about women and getting to use our spaces. It was about getting us to capitulate and look the other way whilst they targeted our children under the guise of being caring women. I can't believe we didn't see this before.

It's time to get very, very angry.

Chersfrozenface · 05/07/2023 17:18

Thing is I do call Trans Women "Women" and I believe in most ways they are. I don't consider them men at least not the ones who aren't just impersonating women in drag.

I'll ask again, because I didn't get an answer last time.

What exactly is the difference between Trans Women and men who are just impersonating women in drag? Since you @evieowlette differentiate between the two groups.

How do we know which is which?

Mercymymercyme · 05/07/2023 17:21

Quiverer · 05/07/2023 17:04

So what is your evidence that they didn't clarify that? There are so many mad assumptions on this thread. We have no evidence that the police did not explore all this in depth with the victim who was absolutely sure that he was attacked by women. Alternatively, it may be that that was the best description that they could get in the first instance and they went with that because they had to; but they have every intention of going back over it with the victim in more depth when he has recovered a bit. When have you ever seen a description of a criminal where the police have said "Well, the victim said their attacker was a man with dark hair wearing a black coat, but actually we think they probably got it wrong because in our view men with dark hair don't commit this type of crime"?

i feel like you are in a different conversation from the one I am in. Look at the quote I was responding to, which you have copied here. I was replying to that. That is, to someone asking if I expect the police to ignore what the victim says about the sex of the attacker. I hope now you see how you are attacking me for arguments I never made.

Secondly, my main point, made elsewhere on this thread, is that the real concern is that the public can no longer have confidence that the police or media are accurately sexing suspects and criminals, even when their sex is evident to all.

BoredandFifty · 05/07/2023 17:22

Thing is I do call Trans Women "Women" and I believe in most ways they are.

So, if these 2 individuals are found to be trans women, and they have raped this boy, are you still going to view them as women? Even after committing a terrible, life ruining crime on a CHILD, you are still going to hold your position.

Are you really that brainwashed or are your liberal beliefs more important than the safety and life of a child?

turbonerd · 05/07/2023 17:22

evieowlette · 05/07/2023 15:53

If you're a true feminist though periods and childbirth are not what makes us women. In-fact modern feminism was built on the idea that what makes us a woman is determined by ourselves

If you are a true feminist it is our shared female biology that makes us women.

There. Fixed it for you.

What else could it otherwise be?

Helleofabore · 05/07/2023 17:25

Boiled Flowers

The dismissal of child sex abuse coming from someone who puts so much in stock in being the 'right kind of feminist' and who expresses so much concern for male who say they are women would say all we need to know about them. I will await for clarification from this poster, but I suspect that I understood that post correctly.

Fucking horrific & hypocritical.

Froodwithatowel · 05/07/2023 17:29

BoredandFifty · 05/07/2023 17:22

Thing is I do call Trans Women "Women" and I believe in most ways they are.

So, if these 2 individuals are found to be trans women, and they have raped this boy, are you still going to view them as women? Even after committing a terrible, life ruining crime on a CHILD, you are still going to hold your position.

Are you really that brainwashed or are your liberal beliefs more important than the safety and life of a child?

This.

We're a multi faith society, I am all for people being free to worship at whatever altars they wish, so long as they don't expect me to validate their beliefs or get involved and are equally accepting of me stating my beliefs. I do not believe there is a point or situation in which a man ever stops being a man. Some men identify as transwomen, which is fine, but to my perception and belief they are men who would prefer to be women and there are limits to how far others can be expected to enable this.

But yes. There is a point at which you have to question what you are participating in regarding this particular faith, and whether you are enabling harm to happen to others.

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