Male and Gender Critical

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Anyone else find being associated with some of the male Gender Critical activists a bit…well embarrassing? I’m not even going to deal with the dumpster fire that is Glinner (though it seems many on this board love him). But now we have James Esses who is hyper focused on what this woman is wearing. What difference does it make if she wears revealing clothes or not? Typical gross male attitude.

*people who thinks asexuals should just stay silent and never talk about themselves (or at least this part of them) and sit there silently, when others get to talk about themselves just fine.

Hopefully one day asexuality will be more known and accepted and I can be honest with the people I care about.*

If everybody's talking about their sex lives - unusual unless you're young - and you don't have one, the only honest contribution you can make is that you aren't interested in sex, @YouAreNotBatman. There's absolutely no reason why you can't say so, is there? Sure, it leaves you out of that conversation, just as I'm excluded from enthusiastic discussions of cycling or football.

Why do you think you can't be honest with the people you care about? I'm 'asexual' these days - haven't had sex in 15 years and can't be bothered any more. I wasn't always this way but have no qualms about telling people, and fail to see why you shouldn't.

If you'd like to be coupled up without sex, there's no reason why you shouldn't say so, is there? Sex is usually the glue in long-term relationships, but there are certainly a lot of non-sexual pairings for a multitude of reasons. You're more likely to meet potential partners if you know what you're looking for, and say so.

In other news, the alphabet people should come up with a label for my "too broke & knackered to date, too selfish to cohabit, medication killed my libido" identitee 😏

Of course I care what people think about my appearance etc. But more in a “oh she looks good” rather than “I’m sure she shags anything with a pulse so I’ll try my luck” kind of way. One is people’s opinions on a visual image they are seeing - acceptable. The other is people’s opinion on my inner thoughts that they can’t see - unacceptable.

It’s a little bizarre to make the claim that “it doesn’t really matter what you intend” just because you can’t control the reception.

of course what the individual intends matters to this debate. Because when other people assume stuff about you based on it (the reception you talk about” they are either correct or incorrect.

let’s take the example of a rape case. Let’s also assume that enough people on the jury make assumptions about what a woman wears to influence the outcome of the case.

would you really make the argument that what the woman actually intended by wearing the clothes is irrelevant?

It’s not my logic at all. I’ve said all along people make assumptions about clothes. So of course if you are trying to impress a client showing up in clothes that may cause them to make assumptions about you would be pretty dumb.

the point I’m actually making is that the particular association people make between wearing revealing clothing and being “up for it” is wrong and misogynistic.

Forget nuance and the subtleties of life. Blank everything anyone says which veers off the desired response. Be a one trick pony.

Nobody but you has suggested that, though. It is like you are on endless repeat.

Dumb thread is dumb. It checks out

I hope it's just that you just haven't bothered to read the thread properly, and aren't trying a poor attempt at gaslighting.

Dumb post is dumb. It checks out.

Yes, I've read the thread.....and she is like a broken record.