RIP to this woman and her two children.
I knew what was up as soon as I found out that two of the "four people found dead" were two children and an adult woman and man.
Seeing the photo of the family , I saw 'pisshead to my right who could be photobombing to how disconnected he is from the others".
I also saw the overcompensating rictus grin from the mother.
I hardly have any useful relationship with any of my blood family. My father abused my mother, then turned on my full sibling and I. I had a difficult relationship with my mother, mainly because I always wondered why she entertained us maintaining a relationship with my father who hadn't stopped by being a shithouse since she rightly left him.
I was a very clever, curious and angry girl/teenager/ woman. Before I knew the words " misogyny/ male identified/ patriarchy", I knew these things existed. I have spent my life avoiding abusive men and male identified women with and without success.
Unfortunately, being Black, avoiding cultural misogyny much less misogyny outside of the culture can be isolating. Worse if one is a Black woman refusing to excuse scummy, infringing behaviour by Black males as something beyond their agency.....especially since the understanding is completely a one way dynamic with even liberal woman of other races bandwagonning that dynamic, this underscoring their latent internalised misogyny/ misogynoir and racism of no, much less low expectations of Black men whilst having everything to say about White men with financial privilege, near to fuck all pro or con about White men with no financial privilege.
So it is no wonder that even in the first world Anglo west, cultural misogyny and the refusal to counteract it and it even being supported as progressive if committed by Black and POC males ( rap and all its derivatives ) and envy/ Trans males.
Dealing with domestic violence doesn't give those who have the power to do so.....it doesn't give them enough clout in these days of too many politicians ,etc seeking online validation from people, who quite frankly have never been taught the truth that "no; your fucking opinion is of no bloodclaat importance everywhere. Who is you?".
And I say the exact same thing to those in this thread who need to fuck off and perform some prayer, begging Mother Nature as to the not why she beat them with the duncebat stick when they were travelling out the birth canal.
In the year 2023, there shouldn't be so many stupid women willing to brandish their stupidity all in one place to excuse a dead murdering man. I'm just surprised that we haven't had a glitch in the Matrix, what with so many of us being exposed to such concentrated stupidity that insists on travelling to this corner of Mumsnet periodically. So dry eyed they are, with no shame in their game. And they've reproduced?
I will go to my grave saying that these type of women, women who defend nonces that they know, nonces that they don't know, transactivists, etc....they are all on the "hate women and children" spectrum .
They sick my stomach.
This post can never be worse than any defending male family annihilators, simply because they are male .
It takes a lot of woman and child hatred to be a person chastising women for guessing the malignant disposition of a man who killed his family and on a feminist board, too.
You cape wearers for malignant males need telling .