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Four found dead in property

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WhiteFire · 18/06/2023 16:27

The police are not looking for anyone else, we know how this generally unfolds.

RIP Dawid, Maja and Monika. Sorry society has failed yet another family, I can't see an end to this.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-65937795

Dawid Wlodarczyk, 3, Monika Wlodarczyk, 35, Maja Wlodarczyk, 11, and Michal Wlodarczyk, 39

Four people found dead in Hounslow flat named

The bodies in the west London property include those of an 11-year-old girl and a three-year-old boy.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-65937795

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Clymene · 18/06/2023 18:09

@jannier - family annihilators are almost always men. This is the feminism board. If you want to bleat about women doing it too, can you take it elsewhere please?

We're mourning the loss of yet more women and children at the hands of a violent man.

NotBadConsidering · 18/06/2023 18:12

I think reporting rules should reflect which number murdered woman it is so far in a year. So for example “Woman Murder 78 of 2023” followed by the details. Make the public constantly aware of how many it is per year.

Itsaknotat · 18/06/2023 18:13

flapjackfairy · 18/06/2023 16:56

well its not just men. In Stoke on Trent it appears the mother killed her 2 children last weekend.
So many innocent babies killed by those who should be the v people to lay down their lives to protect them.

It's overwhelmingly men.

MrsTerryPratchett · 18/06/2023 18:16

It is worth saying that a huge number of really terrible crimes, notably family annihilation and terrorism are preceded by domestic violence. If we treated domestic violence far more seriously, some of these crimes could be prevented. A watch list for DV, rather than saying stupid things online would be great.

www.reuters.com/world/uk/uk-study-shows-link-between-domestic-violence-radicalisation-risk-2021-11-25/

Ramblingnamechanger · 18/06/2023 18:18

You can bet if it had been the woman we would surely know as it would be shouted about in all the media so posters like some on here could use it as evidence that “ women do it too” Every day we are faced with the true enormity of male violence, and it is really shocking to me that we are not all talking about this terrible all pervading menace in societies everywhere. We know and we must speak out about who is doing what to whom.

Clymene · 18/06/2023 18:23

According to the Counting Dead Women Twitter account, 47 women have been killed by men so far this year.

WhiteFire · 18/06/2023 18:24

I need to see if I can find actual data to back up my thoughts / casual observation from Google but whilst mothers do kill their children they tend not to also kill themselves / are unsuccessful in doing so. Obviously there are incidences where they also kill themselves but not as often.

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MumblesParty · 18/06/2023 18:26

As usual my first thought was that another man has killed his family. 9 times out of 10 it seems to be correct.

Redebs · 18/06/2023 18:29

FedgeHund · 18/06/2023 17:23

It is isolating for women to be uprooted from family and move to another country. I understand that the standard of living is now very good in Poland. I do wonder what motivates some people to start again in another country.

Are you trying to make this tragedy about immigration?
How despicable!

Redebs · 18/06/2023 18:31

jannier · 18/06/2023 17:34

You know the bit of the report that says please don't speculate to avoid distress to others........

Yes, it's so disrespectful

jannier · 18/06/2023 18:34

Ourladycheesusedatum · 18/06/2023 18:08

You are blaming women for how men act?

Is everything womens fault?

Can you not realise that incidents like this are not rare, and 98% of the time its men committing the violence.

How am I blaming women? But are you actually saying all men are genetically disposed to murder? In which case giving birth to a son must be horrendous you must spend your time wondering what crime he will commit. Parenting must play a role in some people's propensity to commit murders and crimes

LoobiJee · 18/06/2023 18:34

Festivfrenzy · 18/06/2023 17:14

Agree it's horrendous- shocking, but yet not. It's yet another annihilation of loved ones by a pissed off man. Maybe he was violent, maybe he "had mental health issues" aka was angry and horrible and nuts and didn't take responsibility for his actions- he was stressed/heartbroken/hungry/drunk/devoutly religious etc.

When will society as a whole realise we have a global issue with lunatic men who cannot control themselves. It's horrific and more so because so many people "not only men" this.

These men should be able to control their behaviour- women get pissed off about life all the time and manage not to kill people- why can't men?

Family annihilators are not lunatics who cannot control themselves. They control themselves in other circumstances.

Family annihilators are controlling men who kill their families to exercise the ultimate control over them, by deciding when and how they die.

knittingaddict · 18/06/2023 18:35

jannier · 18/06/2023 18:02

And I'm internet discussing it rather than cowing down to the blatant sexism of it obviously must be the man.
We don't know how they died, why should we all join the witch hunt before it's investigated properly?
It must be awful to have a Son .....all adults are the products of parenting mums are parents too and our children could be accused one day.

I have lovely grandsons who I hope are being brought up to respect women and to love and protect their families, should they have them. Sadly they are also being partly raised by an abusive man, so who the hell knows what will happen. The family court had a chance to stop the cycle of abuse, but they weren't interested and are fine with a toxic man manipulating his children. 😡

Let's be clear it is statistically much rarer for women to annihilate their families and their reasons for doing so are usually very different to why men do it. No point in trying to be "fair" and pretending otherwise.

I'm no man hater. I have a lovely, caring husband who helped our daughter escape her abuser, so please don't throw that my way either.

AllPlayedOut · 18/06/2023 18:36

There was this horrific case in Tennessee the other day too. It wasn't exactly a surprise when I learned that my suspicion about which family member was the murderer, proved to be correct.

nypost.com/2023/06/16/gary-barnett-posed-in-friday-the-13th-mask-and-posted-about-breakup-with-wife-before-murder-suicide/

jannier · 18/06/2023 18:36

Clymene · 18/06/2023 18:09

@jannier - family annihilators are almost always men. This is the feminism board. If you want to bleat about women doing it too, can you take it elsewhere please?

We're mourning the loss of yet more women and children at the hands of a violent man.

But until you hear that as a fact don't you think you should wait or just mourn the loss of all. For example the children may have a genetic condition that neither parent could live with

ArabeIIaScott · 18/06/2023 18:37

MrsTerryPratchett · 18/06/2023 18:16

It is worth saying that a huge number of really terrible crimes, notably family annihilation and terrorism are preceded by domestic violence. If we treated domestic violence far more seriously, some of these crimes could be prevented. A watch list for DV, rather than saying stupid things online would be great.

www.reuters.com/world/uk/uk-study-shows-link-between-domestic-violence-radicalisation-risk-2021-11-25/

Yes. Not to mention that almost all terrorist incidents are preceded by dv.

https://www.hachette.co.uk/titles/joan-smith/home-grown/9781787476066/

Home Grown

What do the attacks in London Bridge, Manchester and Westminster have in common with those at the Charlie Hebdo offices, the Finsbury Park Mosque attack and ...

https://www.hachette.co.uk/titles/joan-smith/home-grown/9781787476066

Soontobe60 · 18/06/2023 18:39

Sarah2891 · 18/06/2023 16:59

Dreadful. So sick of these things happening.

It was murder/suicide by the way.

Are you a coroner or Judge / jury?
Coroners determine if a death is suicide. Judges / juries decide if a death is murder. At best, the police could say it was an unlawful killing and unexplained death.

littleripper · 18/06/2023 18:41

flapjackfairy · 18/06/2023 16:56

well its not just men. In Stoke on Trent it appears the mother killed her 2 children last weekend.
So many innocent babies killed by those who should be the v people to lay down their lives to protect them.

Almost alway men, actually. As with all violent crimes. 59/71 studied here:
https://www.wired.co.uk/article/family-killers
Please do not come on feminist threads spouting this nonsense NAMALT is such a fucking boring response.

Study: family killers are usually men and fit one of four distinct profiles

A study has been published that analyses three decades of criminal records of British murder cases, drawing up psychological profiles of the four types of men who kill members of their own families

https://www.wired.co.uk/article/family-killers

littleripper · 18/06/2023 18:43

MrsTerryPratchett · 18/06/2023 18:16

It is worth saying that a huge number of really terrible crimes, notably family annihilation and terrorism are preceded by domestic violence. If we treated domestic violence far more seriously, some of these crimes could be prevented. A watch list for DV, rather than saying stupid things online would be great.

www.reuters.com/world/uk/uk-study-shows-link-between-domestic-violence-radicalisation-risk-2021-11-25/

Also the vast majority of terrorism is preceded by DV. Stopping DV and acting on rehabilitating these men would prevent a lot of misery. But that would involve accepting men do this, and they do it because they can and want to.

Starseeking · 18/06/2023 18:46

Even before reading the article, I could tell how this story would go.

RIP Monika, Maja and Dawid, I hope whatever occurred happened quickly and they didn't suffer.

knittingaddict · 18/06/2023 18:47

My daughter's ex wouldn't admit to being an abuser (narcissism), so cafcass said he couldn't be put him on a course for abusers. What do we do with men like that?

knittingaddict · 18/06/2023 18:48

Terrible English there.

I meant couldn't be put on a course

Riapia · 18/06/2023 18:50

WhiteFire · 18/06/2023 16:27

The police are not looking for anyone else, we know how this generally unfolds.

RIP Dawid, Maja and Monika. Sorry society has failed yet another family, I can't see an end to this.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-65937795

What evidence do you have to say that “society” is at fault?

WhiteFire · 18/06/2023 18:56

Society as a whole, whatever the circumstances these individuals have been failed whether that's the police, mental health services whatever. Do you truly believe that these things happen in a vacuum?

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jannier · 18/06/2023 18:57

knittingaddict · 18/06/2023 18:35

I have lovely grandsons who I hope are being brought up to respect women and to love and protect their families, should they have them. Sadly they are also being partly raised by an abusive man, so who the hell knows what will happen. The family court had a chance to stop the cycle of abuse, but they weren't interested and are fine with a toxic man manipulating his children. 😡

Let's be clear it is statistically much rarer for women to annihilate their families and their reasons for doing so are usually very different to why men do it. No point in trying to be "fair" and pretending otherwise.

I'm no man hater. I have a lovely, caring husband who helped our daughter escape her abuser, so please don't throw that my way either.

I am just saying wait don't make things worse for the relatives and judge before you know just because a man is involved. We all know the statistics but there are exceptions. We live in a world now where judgement is made Purley on gender

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