Declining to put my preferred pronouns in my email signature

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It's finally happened, I've been "told" to put my preferred pronouns in my email signature at work.

I've emailed back saying my preference is that I don't do this. But I'm feeling a bit anxious 😬.

Please can I get some advice on what to say if they come back with questions or pressure to comply?

Why? For what reason?

If someone calls me him and Joe by mistake when I’m a she and a Jo, I don’t care, I am not pandering to this shit.

until I took my welcome voluntary redundancy a few weeks ago, I worked for a massive well known. We had all this encouragement to use pronouns for inclusivity, I can categorically confirm 99% of people didn’t bother with the pronoun crap either and ignored it, including 100% of my female and gay colleagues.

😂😂
Same, same!

Can someone explain how me saying that my pronouns are she/her (which they are, because I’m female, and there’s unlikely to be any confusion over email because my name is unambiguously female) helps someone who is trans/gender fluid/non binary etc.

Refer them to Matt Walsh

Yes, this has always bothered me. I don’t get how this ever became a thing, as surely it is all ultimately pointless anyway isn’t it - when someone addresses me they’ll just use “you” and “yours”?

Exactly. It's not about being disrespectful to people who don't fit neatly into gender/sex categories. It just doesn't make much sense.

Because presumably that would constitute buying into an ideology that OP , and many others, feel deeply opposed to.

Why are you ashamed to let people know you’re a woman? Have you changed your first name to something gender neutral so no one can tell? I hate to break it to you but despite hiding your pronouns you will always be referred to as ‘she’.

Could I say I identify as Debbie Harry and Chrissie Hynde? on alternate days?

girl crushes for 40 years

I’m not ashamed Sunflower, but suggesting my sex (or gender!) is relevant to my job in sexist claptrap. Why should I buy into it?

This is genius!

I like the cut of his jib

I don't need to "let people know".
I am a woman.
I was born one.
I have a woman's name.
They already know.

My pronouns are we/us, for all my personalities

Still my favourite…

[[https://wildwomynworkshop.com/store/mugs/pronouns-mug/

Good for you. If pushed say my pronouns are WTF/FFS.

That’s the point. There is no shame

I am a woman. People know. No one has got it wrong, I don’t need to add pronouns

I put mine down as FeeFi/FoFum (I smell some gender bull shite).

100%

Don't gaf if I'm 'misgendered'. Quite often I'll be taken more seriously if people think I'm a man.

I do gaf about people thinking I'm into genderpish, which is the standard assumption most people make when they see pronouns.

swerve/avoid/nothankyou

Also:

https://fairplayforwomen.com/pronouns/

Except clearly everyone isn't happy, are they.

Not wanting to state your pronouns is not transphobic.

Brilliant 🤩
Mine are 'she/her/Satan'

Don’t play the game ladies. I grit my teeth whenever I see pronouns on someone’s email signature or LinkedIn profile. It irritates me so much!!

Aquarius/Aquarian/Aquariamus

If I'm always going to be referred to as 'she', I don't need to state my pronouns, do I?

@PuzzledObserver If lots of people are stating their pronouns, it normalises it. Trans people then don't feel weird about stating their pronouns, it becomes a routine thing. This is how it was explained to me at my last very diverse training day. I have to admit I completely lost track of who was he/she/they/it, but I don't mind it in principle. It shouldn't be forced on people though.