I have a genuine interest/curiosity about people's views on this stuff because I feel I don't know enough to fall on one side or the other of the argument. My instinct is to support people who identify as Trans because I am taking their feelings on good faith and believe that everybody deserves the recognition of basic human rights. I would always respect people's choice of pronoun.
In a philosophical sense I find the appropriation of the word "they/them" as a pronoun very useful as it suggests that we are moving towards equality in the language. Pronouns "she" and "he" are overdetermined by sexism.
However I never thought about issues affecting feminism until I read an article where Germaine Greer talked about how, because they do not have a history of inhabiting a female body from birth, men who identify as Trans do not have the concomitant feminine psyche that is circumscribed by upbringing. She said that men who identify as women have inhabited bodies that in our current society give them a physical and psychological advantage. That really got me thinking.
I find it impossible to wade through the arguments on both sides because the current culture war is so toxic and hysterical. While each side lobs insults at the other like Molotov Cocktails people like me are caught in the crossfire with no exit route.
If I look at one of the issues people seem concerned with - Trans women inhabiting female spaces: I find it a problematic argument that some Trans women pose a risk of sexual assault because cis women are also capable of such an act (apparently woman on woman rape accounts for 10% of all such recorded crimes).
I apologise for the long post, but if there are any books that people recommend for helping me to learn more about this subject I would be very grateful. At the moment I feel really scared to open my mouth and say that, as a person from an older generation, I just don't understand and would love some clarity.