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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Shocking scenes in Auckland, TRA pours liquid on KJK

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JacquelinePot · 25/03/2023 09:59

I'm not even sure what to say about this, I just find it really shocking.

Baying mobs surrounded the intended event, one got onto the podium and poured red liquid all over KJK and KJK had to be removed amidst a huge crush.

I hope everyone is OK.

Watch: Anti-trans activist aborts Auckland rally amid counter-protesters | nzherald.co.nz

Thousands of counter-protesters see British anti-trans activist Kellie-Jay Keen-Minshull abort her central Auckland rally. Full story: https://bit.ly/3FQx6xa...

https://youtu.be/NQtHwBAdunA

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Kyliealwayshadthebestdisco · 25/03/2023 16:59

@Boiledbeetle oh I am so with you when it comes to “menopause”. Ditto calling cross gender hormones “HRT”. And actually having had puerpural psychosis myself I have no truck with “postnatal depression” in male partners of women too (although I said that on a previous mumsnet thread which got pulled as my comment was reported for “ableism”). Sure a husband might get depressed during his wife’s postnatal period but I don’t believe that is postnatal depression, he has not experienced the hormonal swings and bodily changes and breastfeeding which generally trigger it, it’s simply depression to me.

dimorphism · 25/03/2023 17:00

WildIris · 25/03/2023 16:50

There was a Twitter account of a transwoman called Suki (now banned) who posted videos of himself masturbating in women’s toilets and you could clearly see girls behind him washing their hands.

How is that acceptable?

Who really thinks that flashers aren't going to self ID as women to get easier access to girls now that it's ok to do so and women are too scared to challenge?

And of course, like Couzens, enabling these men leads to escalation. How many times do we need to see it played out?

I'm happy to put all the energy I currently put into protecting women and children to go into ensuring everywhere has third spaces. Funny how all the women so keen to share with male bodied people to make them feel better aren't out there campaigning for third spaces.

EndlessTea · 25/03/2023 17:00

garlicandsapphires · 25/03/2023 16:58

Because images of big burly bearded transwomen in dresses are forever given as examples of the absurdity of the whole debate (rightly so) but here is someone who lived for many years 'as a woman', had surgery - and it would be horribly exclusive to deny them the dignity of being called a women. Yes of course they're not literally and biologically a women.
Do people really not see this??

I do worry about language and protected spaces, but I worry about transpeople too.

Seriously. Please choose someone else to try to get our sympathy and not that evil bastard.

Hepwo · 25/03/2023 17:01

SapphosRock · 25/03/2023 15:53

The Twitter post is still there and it is quite a reach.

KJK gets attacked my male thugs in New Zealand and blames a group of women in the UK for it rather than the violent males.

That's what happened though. All the Brighton feminists sin page rubbish was quoted by an mp in Australia as a reason she was a dangerous Nazi bigot that had to be stopped.

She was interviewed about it, and it ramped up from there.

There's a direct link to them inciting violence.

dimorphism · 25/03/2023 17:02

IcakethereforeIam · 25/03/2023 16:52

I hear Auckland is campaigning to be twinned with Kabul.

They have a lot in common, so fair enough.

Lottapianos · 25/03/2023 17:03

'I DON'T CARE. I don't give a flying fuck. It's not my problem to solve. Women are not the world's bloody mummies. You did this, not me. Fix it yourself. Hashtag allouttafucks

Spot on. Standing ovation from me

JustFuckOffPlease · 25/03/2023 17:03

Terrifying. They're totally captured.
That could have been any type of fluid. Fucking hell.

WildIris · 25/03/2023 17:04

I do worry about language and protected spaces, but I worry about transpeople too.

How do we genuinely tell the difference between ‘genuine’ transwomen who have sex dysphoria and those misogynistic men who just want to self identify as women because they have a fe*h.

dimorphism · 25/03/2023 17:04

EndlessTea · 25/03/2023 17:00

Seriously. Please choose someone else to try to get our sympathy and not that evil bastard.

So 51% of the population have to be made unsafe for this vanishingly small far less than 1% of transsexuals to feel slightly better about themselves? Fucks sake.

Women are excluding themselves and their children from public places because they aren't safe anymore with people like Dolatowski who attacked two children (so far) in 'women's' toilets.

ExiledElsie · 25/03/2023 17:05

here is someone who lived for many years 'as a woman', had surgery - and it would be horribly exclusive to deny them the dignity of being called a women.

Why do you think something happening for a long time makes it true? No man can "live as a woman" because to do so you need to be female.

If men want to call themselves women they can do but I don't have to play along.

garlicandsapphires · 25/03/2023 17:05

WildIris · 25/03/2023 17:04

I do worry about language and protected spaces, but I worry about transpeople too.

How do we genuinely tell the difference between ‘genuine’ transwomen who have sex dysphoria and those misogynistic men who just want to self identify as women because they have a fe*h.

If they've had surgery?

Boiledbeetle · 25/03/2023 17:06

WildIris · 25/03/2023 17:04

I do worry about language and protected spaces, but I worry about transpeople too.

How do we genuinely tell the difference between ‘genuine’ transwomen who have sex dysphoria and those misogynistic men who just want to self identify as women because they have a fe*h.

Autogynephilia, the philia the TRAs try to deny exists, whist a whole swathe of men post on line proving it very much does.

dimorphism · 25/03/2023 17:06

Also transsexuals who've had surgery and invaded women's spaces against many women's wishes for years without anyone except the women they encountered noticing can take up their loss of rights with the TRAs who made us all wake up. It's not on women.

Baldieheid · 25/03/2023 17:07

garlicandsapphires · 25/03/2023 16:58

Because images of big burly bearded transwomen in dresses are forever given as examples of the absurdity of the whole debate (rightly so) but here is someone who lived for many years 'as a woman', had surgery - and it would be horribly exclusive to deny them the dignity of being called a women. Yes of course they're not literally and biologically a women.
Do people really not see this??

I do worry about language and protected spaces, but I worry about transpeople too.

From that, I can only conclude that you'd be happy to deny women, the female kind, those of us with vaginas and uteruses and breasts, the dignity of facilities free from those we easily recognise as male? Don't give me any of this pish about them not being obvious. Caitlyn Jenner has more money than God and clearly has spent a fortune looking the way they do, yet they are still, clearly, obviously male - and absolutely clear about that too.

Boiledbeetle · 25/03/2023 17:07

garlicandsapphires · 25/03/2023 17:05

If they've had surgery?

Ha! Nope! Some of them not going to name names get their penis cut off as part of their fetish.

RufustheSpeculatingreindeer · 25/03/2023 17:07

I would like someone to explain why third spaces are such an issue

female
male
mixed sex

id deffo use the mixed sex one if the queues were smaller

WickedSerious · 25/03/2023 17:08

garlicandsapphires · 25/03/2023 17:05

If they've had surgery?

How would we be able to tell whether or not they've had surgery?

A guy I used to walk to school with has had surgery but he looks nothing like a woman.

Boiledbeetle · 25/03/2023 17:10

WickedSerious · 25/03/2023 17:08

How would we be able to tell whether or not they've had surgery?

A guy I used to walk to school with has had surgery but he looks nothing like a woman.

That's a fair point!. I've had bits of me removed (illness not for any other reason) and clothed you'd never know. Unclothed its fairly obvious something's are missing

EndlessTea · 25/03/2023 17:10

ExiledElsie · 25/03/2023 17:05

here is someone who lived for many years 'as a woman', had surgery - and it would be horribly exclusive to deny them the dignity of being called a women.

Why do you think something happening for a long time makes it true? No man can "live as a woman" because to do so you need to be female.

If men want to call themselves women they can do but I don't have to play along.

I feel so angry and insulted any time that mine and my daughters’ words are used to describe men.

In fact, I feel more insulted, the longer they’ve been doing it.

Doing something antisocial and wrong for a long time doesn’t make it right.

JacquelinePot · 25/03/2023 17:11

Kyliealwayshadthebestdisco · 25/03/2023 16:52

@garlicandsapphires I agree with you, it’s an extremely polarised debate, like everything else these days. And it’s actually very complex which is why I’m somewhere in the middle and finding it difficult as I feel like neither side tolerates anyone being unsure or in the middle somewhere. I grew up in the 1990s and feel like we had more tolerance back then for grey areas and a middle ground. Having said that I remember a lot of homophobia and racism back then which has definitely improved so maybe I’m just looking at it with rose tinted glasses.

I say this as gently as possibly; what is the middle ground between humans can't change sex, men cannot become women, women need single sex spaces and any man who says he's a woman is one and all spaces meant for women must let him.in regardless of detriment to women?

If one man is allowed in a women's space, that space is now mixed sex and many women will not be able to use it.

Read some of the many threads here to see where this ends.

Look up Edinburgh or Brighton Rape Crisis. Isla Bryson or Karen White. Lookup Kiera Bell and the GIDS scandal.

If there is a middle ground, I cannot imagine what it could possibly be.

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WildIris · 25/03/2023 17:11

Nope, don’t bring surgery into it. It’s not something I would ever recommend to someone who felt distress in their body as the surgery risks are awful.

And having your penis removed doesn’t reduce physical strength, male aggression, height etc.

just look at what has happened to Jazz Jennings - and Jazz is now saying that after all this, Jazz still doesn’t feel happy.

Boiledbeetle · 25/03/2023 17:12

JacquelinePot · 25/03/2023 17:11

I say this as gently as possibly; what is the middle ground between humans can't change sex, men cannot become women, women need single sex spaces and any man who says he's a woman is one and all spaces meant for women must let him.in regardless of detriment to women?

If one man is allowed in a women's space, that space is now mixed sex and many women will not be able to use it.

Read some of the many threads here to see where this ends.

Look up Edinburgh or Brighton Rape Crisis. Isla Bryson or Karen White. Lookup Kiera Bell and the GIDS scandal.

If there is a middle ground, I cannot imagine what it could possibly be.

What's the line?

When you include men you exclude women.

Wanderingowl · 25/03/2023 17:12

garlicandsapphires · 25/03/2023 16:30

I am still trying to figure out this debate. I have never been TWAW but I've shifted a bit over the last year or so - away from the GC angle.

I'm not sure about the original billboard ad. I think that horrible GP has a point, I think it was incendiary. Of course on its own the dictionary definition of a woman is not 'offensive' but isn't it the context that counts? by stating one thing you are also stating something else (that trans women are not women)

Has anyone come across the tomato analogy? technically we know that a tomato is a fruit (and that transwomen are not literally women) but we still don't put it in a fruit salad (we don't force a transwoman, who has been living all their life as a woman, into the male toilets)

I have no idea what the solution is, to protect vulnerable women and trans men and transwomen. I believe both need protecting. And those scenes in NZ are horrifying - how has it come to this?

If you are basing any of your thinking on that tomato analogy, you may want to rethink it. Tomatoes, like bell peppers, cucumbers, green beans, squashes of every kind, avocados, aubergines, okra, olives, pea pods, and chilli peppers, have the botanical classification of berry. They are also classified as culinary vegetables and in legal cases where classification is necessary, for example related to tax status, are always classified as a vegetable. Other berries include peanuts and bananas but not strawberries. People who say tomatoes are fruits in order to make some sort of point, are people who understand a fraction of a situation but think they know it all.

Fruit and vegetable classification is not like sex classification. Not even one little bit. There are males humans and female humans and a small fraction of a percentage of humans with disorders of sexual development who are still either male or female.

Hepwo · 25/03/2023 17:13

CarryMeOut · 25/03/2023 16:13

What do you all want to happen to Trans people? Should they just disappear?

They can stay out of women's spaces.

LondonJax · 25/03/2023 17:13

WildIris · 25/03/2023 16:48

I would absolutely welcome transmen into women’s spaces as they are biological women.

Transwomen need to start campaigning for men to accept them as non-conforming men (because that’s what they are) into their spaces.

Women aren’t here to budge up and hand over our spaces and rights just because some men say they’re women!

My DS, who is 16 years old, has a large group of friends. One has come out as gay, one has come out as lesbian and one has said (she) they are non-binary.

He had an interesting conversation with his non-binary friend recently. 'They' said they didn't see the problem with a trans woman using a women's/girls changing room.

DS said something along the lines of 'well, as you're non-binary, how come you don't come into the boys changing room? After all we've been your mates for seven years so you know that we accept whatever you are.' They said 'because I don't want to see your willies and I wouldn't feel safe with boys in the same room even if I knew them.' At which point DS went 'duh!' and they said 'OK, I see what you mean'!

But...the interesting thing here is that there are at least two 'trans girls' in DS's school, one of which is in his year and has been skirt wearing since year 8. Where does 'she' change for PE? Where does she go to the loo? In with the boys. Does 'she' get teased in the boys changing room or harassed in the boys loos? Nope. DS said in the past 'X has always worn a skirt. X is who X is. Why would we worry about 'him/her' being in with us? X has got a willie like me so it's the logical place to change'.

Now, if more young men thought like DS and his friends maybe there'd be a bit of hope in the future for everyone to feel safe.

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