Men who impersonate women to enter women's spaces with ill intentions are not trans women. Trans women seek to live as women permanently, they want to be in women's spaces because they see themselves as women.
They are, actually. Stonewall says anyone who claims to be a woman IS a woman, No Debate. That INCLUDES predatory men if they claim to be a woman. In Scotland, some MSPs tried to amend the GRR bill to exclude those who were facing rape charges or had convictions for rape from obtaining a GRC, but their amendments failed. This means a rapist (predatory man) can be a woman if he says so. No Debate. This is the reality. There isn't a lovely fluffy version of where only nice cuddly people are trans women and the violent bastards are not - not according to self-ID, Stonewall's definitions or the GRR n Scotland.
If you genuinely believe that predatory men are NOT and cannot be transwomen, you are very mistaken.
And if you do accept that predatory men can also be transwomen, you are faced with a choice: is it, or isn't it, acceptable for predatory males to be allowed in woman's spaces? I don't know how anyone can claim to be a feminist but also knowingly tolerate violent men in womens safe spaces. To me, this is an especially cruel form of misogyny.
Furthermore, let's be very clear that the argument to exclude transwomen from womens safe spaces is no more or less bigoted than excluding ALL men from those spaces. The majority of men don't rape, but a significant minority do and this affects ALL women. Most men understand that this means they, unfortunately, also have to be excluded. That's because it isn't possible to discern the good guys from the bad guys when they are all male.
The same applies to TW - a group which unfortunately encompasses good and bad male-bodied individuals. The majority of TW don't rape, but some do, with devastating consequences for their victims, which means - like men - all TW need to be excluded. I'd be a lot less hardline about this if the GRC process still involved safeguarding in the form of extensive psych evaluations etc - but the demand now is self-ID. No safeguarding. No debate.
If this baby is a girl, I will raise her to have the confidence, courage and independence of thought to advocate for herself and others, just as I was taught.
That's how I was raised too. It didn't stop a man from beating me to a pulp and destroying my "confidence, courage and independence of thought" for years. It was really hard to come to terms with the knowledge that no matter who I was, no matter how clever I was, fit I was, educated I was etc a male - any bog-standard piece of shite male - could dominate and demean me if they wanted to simply because of their physical size and strength.
Lipstick, heels and a frock on a man doesn't change that physical reality.
Women need safe spaces.