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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

I don't have a gender because I refuse to believe in gender woo. But I'm not gender non conforming. What am I?

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Metabigot · 31/12/2022 00:13

Genderfree? I'm not agender or non binary as that implies believing in gender.

In times of old I would have described myself as a Woman, but as non biological women/ transwomen are now women I no longer want to use that word

Trans have spoilt the sex based meaning ot once had.

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Metabigot · 15/04/2023 22:30

It makes sense the same as if you were vegan or Jewish or into astrology.
Part of you but not 'you' and certainly no need to announce it to all and sundry unless relevant eg if I invited you to lunch and you were vegan it may be relevant to share that information.

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MissingMoominMamma · 15/04/2023 22:48

Yes! It’s important, but doesn’t consume me!

Oblomov23 · 15/04/2023 22:53

I'm getting confused.
Are you female? Are you a woman?
A woman is an adult human female. What has gender got to do with it?
I am a woman. I am gender critical.

Metabigot · 15/04/2023 22:58

Oblomov23 · 15/04/2023 22:53

I'm getting confused.
Are you female? Are you a woman?
A woman is an adult human female. What has gender got to do with it?
I am a woman. I am gender critical.

What ate you confused about

Yes I'm a AHF woman

It's sorted now

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Metabigot · 15/04/2023 22:59

Gender has sod fucking all to do with it!

I don't 'believe ' in Gender

Bit like santa claus or the easter bunny

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zurala · 15/04/2023 23:05

Woman

Gender atheist

Oblomov23 · 15/04/2023 23:11

Are you gender critical?

This maintains that men are men and women are women, biologically. It asserts that trans women are not women, that trans men are not men, and opposes transgender rights.

HotPenguin · 15/04/2023 23:13

You are non bullary, because you don't lap up bullshit.

Metabigot · 15/04/2023 23:15

Oblomov23 · 15/04/2023 23:11

Are you gender critical?

This maintains that men are men and women are women, biologically. It asserts that trans women are not women, that trans men are not men, and opposes transgender rights.

Oh yes! Very much so

After going through a difficult second pregnancy my husband couldn't choose to have, of course biology matters.

I nearly became permanently disabled and was advised not to have a second child.

If only we could have changed sex for 9 months! ( pre existing condition)

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Metabigot · 15/04/2023 23:15

Luckily both me and the baby survived

Other women with my condition were not so lucky

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haXXor · 15/04/2023 23:50

Oblomov23 · 15/04/2023 23:11

Are you gender critical?

This maintains that men are men and women are women, biologically. It asserts that trans women are not women, that trans men are not men, and opposes transgender rights.

Define "transgender rights"...

Shelefttheweb · 15/04/2023 23:59

haXXor · 15/04/2023 23:50

Define "transgender rights"...

the right of men to ignore women’s boundaries.

clpsmum · 16/04/2023 00:02

Grow the fuck up

TheAustralian · 16/04/2023 00:08

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TheAustralian · 16/04/2023 00:08

Your *

Shelefttheweb · 16/04/2023 00:12

you’re

AnyaMarx · 16/04/2023 00:17

You are either born male or female. There is no 3rd gender .

X or Y chromosomes. What you were born with is what you are . It's really that simple.

NickEccles · 25/04/2023 00:00

🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔

CallieQ · 25/04/2023 01:11

Gender woo woo?

haXXor · 30/04/2023 16:17

AnyaMarx · 16/04/2023 00:17

You are either born male or female. There is no 3rd gender .

X or Y chromosomes. What you were born with is what you are . It's really that simple.

Developed Wolffian duct or Mullerian duct. And yes, I know there's new words for those embryonic structures, but I can't spell them.

If your Mullerian duct developed and Wolffian duct atrophied, you are female. You will have part or all of a female reproductive tract, regardless of chromosomes. That's how Complete Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome results in XY females.

If your Wolffian duct developed and Mullerian duct atrophied, you are male and have a partial or complete male reproductive tract.

Live births where there is partial development of both reproductive tracts are so vanishingly rare that, when they occur, they get written up as single-patient case studies in medical journals, like this man. Even then, the person is reproductively male or female, not both, because the hormones needed for spermatogenesis are very different from those needed to sustain a pregnancy.

TerfLady · 30/04/2023 21:11

I know that Blaire white and buck angel both gender critical people who identify as transexual which apparently inflames the TRA’s because they want the term to be considered hate speech. lol

invalide · 03/05/2023 01:15

Paul B Preciado puts it in his book 'Can the Monster Speak?':

Why is it, my beloved binary friends, that you are convinced that only subalterns possess an identity? Why are you convinced that only Muslims, Jews, queers, lesbians, trans folk, people who live in the banlieues, migrants and Blacks have an identity? Do you therefore believe that you – the normal, the hegemonic, the bourgeois white psychoanalysts, the binary, the patriarchal-colonials – have no identity? There is no identity more rigid and sclerotic than your invisible identity. Than your republican universality. Your weightless, anonymous identity is the privilege of sexual, racial and gender norms. Either everyone has an identity. Or there is no identity. We all occupy a distinct place in a complex network of power relations. To be branded with an identity means simply that one does not have the power to designate one’s identity as universal.

haXXor · 03/05/2023 21:59

invalide · 03/05/2023 01:15

Paul B Preciado puts it in his book 'Can the Monster Speak?':

Why is it, my beloved binary friends, that you are convinced that only subalterns possess an identity? Why are you convinced that only Muslims, Jews, queers, lesbians, trans folk, people who live in the banlieues, migrants and Blacks have an identity? Do you therefore believe that you – the normal, the hegemonic, the bourgeois white psychoanalysts, the binary, the patriarchal-colonials – have no identity? There is no identity more rigid and sclerotic than your invisible identity. Than your republican universality. Your weightless, anonymous identity is the privilege of sexual, racial and gender norms. Either everyone has an identity. Or there is no identity. We all occupy a distinct place in a complex network of power relations. To be branded with an identity means simply that one does not have the power to designate one’s identity as universal.

Why is it that these pseudo-intellectuals talking about "subalterns" and "colonialism" never seem to recognise that the universally marginalised group in almost every society is women? That our bodies are colonised by men and the state to produce children? That we are disproportionately likely to die in a car crash (after controlling for things like speed of collision etc) because safety belts, car seats, and air bags are designed for male bodies? And that we can't choosy-choose a new gender identity to escape these very physical oppressions?

Mumskisail · 03/05/2023 22:05

How ridiculous - of course you're a woman. So fed up with people trying to cancel women.

invalide · 11/05/2023 18:37

haXXor · 03/05/2023 21:59

Why is it that these pseudo-intellectuals talking about "subalterns" and "colonialism" never seem to recognise that the universally marginalised group in almost every society is women? That our bodies are colonised by men and the state to produce children? That we are disproportionately likely to die in a car crash (after controlling for things like speed of collision etc) because safety belts, car seats, and air bags are designed for male bodies? And that we can't choosy-choose a new gender identity to escape these very physical oppressions?

They do recognise this, it's foundational to work like this. The oppressions are socially imposed so Paul, for one, did indeed choosy-choose a new identity, as he describes elsewhere in that wonderful speech.

What was expected of me was the execution of the silent, conscientious and reproductive work appropriate to my assigned gender and sexuality. I was expected to grow up to be a dutiful heterosexual girlfriend, a good wife, a good mother, a shy, retiring woman. I grew up listening to whispered stories of young girls being raped, of young women who went to London to have abortions, of
lifelong spinster friends who lived together without ever asserting their sexuality in public – ‘the dykes’, as my father contemptuously referred to them. I was trapped. Had I been nailed to the floor, it would not have reduced my scope for action.

So, since in the heteropatriarchal binary circus women are offered the role of belle or victim, and since I was not and did not feel myself capable of being one or the other, I decided to stop being a woman. Why couldn’t abandoning femininity not become a fundamental tactic of feminism? This amazing association of ideas, lucid and magnificent, must have hatched somewhere in my womb, since women’s creativity is said to reside solely in the uterus.

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