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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

JK Rowling hits out at first feminist Sturgeon

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JanieAllen · 11/11/2022 09:37

www.thetimes.co.uk/article/jk-rowling-hits-out-at-first-feminist-sturgeon-over-trans-laws-2tz8mj386

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RealFeminist · 11/11/2022 13:44

oldwhyno · 11/11/2022 13:41

Bit of a tangent, but have I understood correctly that should the reform pass in Scotland, any resident of the rest of the UK could move to Scotland, get a GRC under Scottish rules, and then move back again, and that GRC would have to be recognised in the rest of the UK?

AYE BUT NAEBODYD GO TO ALL THAT HASSLE

WELL HARDLY EMBDY

NO MANY FOLK, ANYWAY

ONLY REALLY DETERMINED PERSONS!

littlbrowndog · 11/11/2022 13:45

RealFeminist · 11/11/2022 13:30

TWO WEEKS IS PLENTY AH THINK WEVE HUD ENOUGH TALKING ABOUT AW THIS NOW LETS MOVE ON TO A BRAVE NEW GENDERFREE SCOTLAND WI FREE TAMPONS FOR EVERYBODY

2 weeks you chancer. It’s 2 weeks and a weekend before we have our freedom to be our true selves 🥹

Soontobe60 · 11/11/2022 13:46

Freespirit42 · 11/11/2022 11:11

To those that think jk rowling is god she’s not her opinion won’t matter at all as the majority of MSPs voted for this by a sizeable amount first round. Therefore yes maybe a couple or so we’re against it it’s still going to go ahead because maybe she feels this is the right thing to do I know shock horror. As Sturgeon says how dare jk rowling accuse her of not being a feminist when you see what sturgeon has done in the past www.dailyrecord.co.uk/news/politics/snp-msps-rebel-scottish-government-28344566

Only people who identify as a feminist would believe that males can magically become female.
Cis feminists know better.

Brokendaughter · 11/11/2022 13:49

Some woman who wants to use unisex toilets does not have the right to give away my right to single sex spaces.

Just because you don't care doesn't mean your choices override mine.

No, I absolutely refuse to use what are in practice unisex toilets with a woman sign on the door so some blokes can pretend anyone thinks he is something other than what he can never cease to be.

Yes, I feel it strongly enough I'd see the High Street go down in flames before I put a penny into the till of any shop who let men in the womens changing rooms, even if they have a handwritten note from the King of England & a voice note from my own mother saying 'be kind'.

Soontobe60 · 11/11/2022 13:49

Freespirit42 · 11/11/2022 12:15

There are full stops or are you just goading me?

Here’s a selection of punctuation that you could utilise in order to enhance people’s experience of reading your post.
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EdgeOfACoin · 11/11/2022 13:55

BreastedBoobilyToTheStairs · 11/11/2022 12:47

I am not scared of trans women using the toilets etc it doesn’t need to clash at all,

I wouldn’t let boys use girls toilets but trans girls yes not just run of the mill boys at all

What is a 'trans woman', or 'trans girl' to you? When you say you aren't bothered about them being in women's spaces, which group of people are you talking about?

Someone with strong dysphoria? Someone 'born in the wrong body'? Post surgery? Hormones/blockers but no surgery? Cross dressers with no interest in any medical intervention? Males that are sexually aroused by being dressed in lingerie and dresses (and openly state that is the case)? Perhaps a male with no outward change in appearance at all? Makes that like 'girly things' like pink and make up and dolls? Males who 'identify as women' (if so, please for the love of god, tell us what that actually means on practice, without a circular definition, and put us out of our misery). All of the above?

At what point does someone stop being a 'run of the mill' boy or man and become trans, to you?

Great questions. I look forward to hearing the answer.

FrancescaContini · 11/11/2022 14:00

VinoDino · 11/11/2022 13:37

To live as a women one needs to surely describe what a woman is. NS has consistently failed to do this (as has everyone else who's been asked).

Freddie McConnell was granted a GRC, then gave birth to two children. Surely that renders the GRC useless as giving birth isn't living as a man is it?

Freddie scored an own (female) goal there.

Brefugee · 11/11/2022 14:02

Freddie McConnell was granted a GRC, then gave birth to two children. Surely that renders the GRC useless as giving birth isn't living as a man is it?

well, quite. I think that if you are "living as a man" and have a genuine diagnosis, as a natal woman, of gender dysphoria - but then insist on getting pregnant not once but twice, and giving birth it is a massive stretch to tell me you are living as a man. Frankly, for the sake of the children, i am very happy he isn't allowed to be named as their father, since i assume that they do actually have a father.

I'm happy to call anyone by a name they choose for themselves, and I'm ok with using their preferred prononus if required. I am not happy with "girl mode" and "boy mode" (or variations thereof, yes Bunce, I'm looking at you) because as a dyed in the wool and die-hard 2nd waver, i reject notions of gender as a social construct (aka social bollocks)

With people like Bowie and (as he used to be) Izzard and Julian Clary i was happy that they were embracing the otherness of dressing how they pleased. As a teenager in the 80s i was happy to see people like Duran Duran and so on putting on make-up and doing their thing. It was fucking great and we were beginning to think we had it cracked.

Turns out that it's all a crock of shit and actually it is down to long hair, nail varnish, tits and a dress after all. Oh well. I fail on all those counts to be a woman. Maybe I'll identify as a man and finally get that promotion and pay-rise.

Roomytrouser · 11/11/2022 14:06

Freespirit42 · 11/11/2022 12:16

Then one thing that stands out for me is she made period products free for women in schools etc. she did that first .

Which the girls at my DC’s school won’t take because you have to go to the office to get them. It’s almost like some who has never met a teenage girl dreamt that one up.

MattDillonsEyebrows · 11/11/2022 14:08

EdgeOfACoin · 11/11/2022 13:55

Great questions. I look forward to hearing the answer.

Me too, I'd like these answers as well.

I'd also like to ask @Freespirit42 if you've ever worked with vulnerable women or girls?

The reason I ask is because, if you haven't, then you need to understand it is not just about you and your feelings, but about those more vulnerable than you.

If you have and you still think that trans women should have access to women's spaces then you clearly didn't do it right and I can confidently say that it was the wrong job for you.

EpicChaos · 11/11/2022 15:56

Freespirit42 · Today 12:16
" Then one thing that stands out for me is she made period products free for women in schools etc. she did that first ."

" I wouldn’t let boys use girls toilets but trans girls yes not just run of the mill boys at all "

Presumably the trans girls :-/ will be the ones being ever so kind and doing a Jessica Yaneev, in wondering if they should offer to help the young real girls change their tampons?
Amirite @Freespirit42 ??? Eh, amirite??? :-/

Unsure33 · 11/11/2022 17:39

Freespirit42 · 11/11/2022 12:27

Because it’s not a woman’s right issue at all as there are women like me that don’t see trans people affecting my rights at all. I am not scared of trans women using the toilets etc it doesn’t need to clash at all, what many of you don’t realise is there are many women on my side to that don’t see it affecting us at all.

Have you actually read how easy it is going to be to ID as a woman ? Just change a few documents and after a few months you can just say you are a woman. And then access all areas that you want ?

you have to ask yourself why ?

it’s not just toilets is it ? Prisons / refuges/ medical situations / school trips / sport / business awards / cause changes to our language . Is a huge bigger picture . Plus even crime figures if the criminal is ID as a woman .

Unsure33 · 11/11/2022 17:46

I would really recommend spending 10 mins to listen to the speech by Renee Girlich on womens voices . It really opened my eyes and I can’t claim to understand all of it but is is I think part of the puzzle .

soundcloud.com/womenreadwomen/international-womens-day-speech-by-renee-gerlich

if you agree please share .

RhannionKPSS · 11/11/2022 20:00

Freespirit42 · 11/11/2022 12:41

Big differences and if you can’t tell that then either you are transphobic or don’t have a clue about this issue. Maybe you should watch Georgia stone documentary on Netflix. Maybe listen to parents of trans kids .

No such thing as Trans kids, just confused children.
Your argument is nonsense, you carry on being “ not bothered” and the rest of will carry on being bothered and speaking up especially for those women & children who can’t. 💚🤍💜

Freespirit42 · 11/11/2022 20:04

RhannionKPSS · 11/11/2022 20:00

No such thing as Trans kids, just confused children.
Your argument is nonsense, you carry on being “ not bothered” and the rest of will carry on being bothered and speaking up especially for those women & children who can’t. 💚🤍💜

You keep telling yourself that trans kids don’t exist when they do? As I say look at Georgia stone who was trans as a kid and still is trans now and many other kids try talking to parents of such kids but you actually won’t? Sure there may be a few confused but most trans adults knew they were trans as kids

lifeturnsonadime · 11/11/2022 20:10

most trans adults knew they were trans as kids

You are ignoring the existence of the ones that didn't , some of whom are only women on certain days of the week, who also want to impinge on women's spaces. There are plenty of examples of that.

You are also ignoring the existence of ones who have discovered their trans identity upon being convicted of a crime. There are examples of that in Scotland.

You are trying to get us to feel sorry for 'trans kids' as a way to break our boundaries. We do feel sorry for 'trans kids' for very different reasons to you, especially in Scotland where they will be affirmed despite the findings of the Cass Review.

These children will grow up. Some of them will have been mutilated in the process.

Women matter. So do Trans kids.

Freespirit42 · 11/11/2022 20:13

lifeturnsonadime · 11/11/2022 20:10

most trans adults knew they were trans as kids

You are ignoring the existence of the ones that didn't , some of whom are only women on certain days of the week, who also want to impinge on women's spaces. There are plenty of examples of that.

You are also ignoring the existence of ones who have discovered their trans identity upon being convicted of a crime. There are examples of that in Scotland.

You are trying to get us to feel sorry for 'trans kids' as a way to break our boundaries. We do feel sorry for 'trans kids' for very different reasons to you, especially in Scotland where they will be affirmed despite the findings of the Cass Review.

These children will grow up. Some of them will have been mutilated in the process.

Women matter. So do Trans kids.

Why do you guys focus so much on negatives? Ignoring the positives the reason why so many detransition is many find it hard to live in a society with so many against trans people and many actually go back to being trans but I think there are far more positive stories don’t always focus on negatives.

Meceme · 11/11/2022 20:17

You also ignore the 'trans kids' who with watchful waiting turn out not to be trans at all but gender questioning/non-conforming or gay.
The Cass report clearly states social transition is not a neutral act but often sets children on a medicalised pathway that is not always in their best interests.

Freespirit42 · 11/11/2022 20:21

Meceme · 11/11/2022 20:17

You also ignore the 'trans kids' who with watchful waiting turn out not to be trans at all but gender questioning/non-conforming or gay.
The Cass report clearly states social transition is not a neutral act but often sets children on a medicalised pathway that is not always in their best interests.

So you know how you sort that out great psychological help and counselling etc but the nhs has a massive waiting list so what is great is more centres now opening to help the trans kids that may or may not be trans. However don’t be saying there isn’t trans kids because quite clearly there is as I say Georgia stone great example of one such case.

lifeturnsonadime · 11/11/2022 20:27

Why do you guys focus so much on negatives?

Because the negatives are pretty huge. Healthy breasts cut off and transmen like Freddy Mcconnel not having been told this would have implications for breastfeeding their child being just one example.

Women being raped in prison.

Women being told that they are racial bigots for not accepting the 'lesbian penis'.

Women who have been raped. being told they need to 'reframe their trauma' and accept people with penises in rape crisis centres.

Girls avoiding school when on their period or not using the toilet because trans girls , who have penises, might be in there.

Women & girls losing out in sport to males who identify as women.

Girls being sexually assualted by a 'transwoman' in the toilets of a supermarket.

and for balance

trans girls having their puberty delayed and cross sex hormones preventing them from having proper sexual activity as adults.

This list is not exhaustive.

But NOTE most of the negatives affect women and girls.

We say NO.

lifeturnsonadime · 11/11/2022 20:29

Women being told that they are racial bigots for not accepting the 'lesbian penis'.

Sorry that should have said sexual bigots.

OldCrone · 11/11/2022 20:29

Freespirit42 · 11/11/2022 20:21

So you know how you sort that out great psychological help and counselling etc but the nhs has a massive waiting list so what is great is more centres now opening to help the trans kids that may or may not be trans. However don’t be saying there isn’t trans kids because quite clearly there is as I say Georgia stone great example of one such case.

So what makes a child 'trans'? Are they born in the wrong body? Or is there some other explanation?

OldCrone · 11/11/2022 20:34

Healthy breasts cut off and transmen like Freddy Mcconnel not having been told this would have implications for breastfeeding their child being just one example.

I find this unbelievable. How could a reasonably intelligent adult not realise that removing their breasts would mean that they couldn't breastfeed?

BernardBlacksMolluscs · 11/11/2022 20:34

Freespirit42 · 11/11/2022 20:21

So you know how you sort that out great psychological help and counselling etc but the nhs has a massive waiting list so what is great is more centres now opening to help the trans kids that may or may not be trans. However don’t be saying there isn’t trans kids because quite clearly there is as I say Georgia stone great example of one such case.

Super

can you list the differences between Georgia stone and a run of the mill boy? How can I tell from looking at Georgia that they’re not a boy?

WinterTrees · 11/11/2022 20:36

Why do you guys focus so much on negatives?

Because it's not about individuals. It's about safeguarding women and children and allowing for the worst case scenario - because that's what safeguarding is. You focus on the negatives so you can make systems robust enough to protect the vulnerable.