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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Complaints against Baroness Nicholson being organised

219 replies

Imnobody4 · 16/08/2022 19:53

An official compliant has been lodged with the @Conservatives Party in regard to @Baroness_Nichol’s online behaviour.

It comes after dozens of complaints were lodged with social media companies regarding her views on #trans.

The Conservative Party has been contacted for comment

twitter.com/ChamberVoice/status/1559229955543912450?t=wOEs_8EZI3NztrVZDlCUUA&s=19

Chamber voice is an on line 'news' outlet.

Apparently Twitter banned the Baroness, but immediately corrected after appeal.
twitter.com/Baroness_Nichol/status/1559139062623133697?t=oHnlHAEtE0UgzTDNj4DsPQ&s=19

They really are idiots, what do they think they achieve.

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Helleofabore · 17/08/2022 11:12

Beowulfa · 17/08/2022 11:02

I disagree with what Baroness Nicholson said nearly 30 years ago about same sex marriage.

I agree with what she is saying today about women's and girls' rights.

These two separate thoughts have not caused my brain to implode.

Yes. Mature people can do that.

I do want to see the exact context that she has said what was quoted though, hence asking for the full article to be posted. How often are we seeing clipped bits of quotes taken out of context being used against people?

But I really don't understand why there is need for 'purity' in how someone thought three decades ago to monster them now when it is actually pretty clear that she doesn't think that way at the moment.

Surely people should be saying something like, 'this is a great example of how someone has seen enough and had enough experience to now be fully supportive'?

That activists are not taking this view is actually a sure sign that all they are doing is attempting to silence women who disagree with them on other issues.

I mean, really.... they should be very careful in taking this tack. Because we all know that there will be public reverse ferreting soon, and frankly these activists will look like the hypocrites they are when people point out their previous statements....

Purity spirals are hell!

PrimAndProperPearlClutcher · 17/08/2022 11:14

luvbuggy · 17/08/2022 11:11

Well said.

Has she ever put out a statement denouncing her bigoted views from back then? It would be excellent to have something to throw back in the TRAs faces to show that she has grown as an individual.

You mean, like, a repentance speech?

rabbitwoman · 17/08/2022 11:25

PrimAndProperPearlClutcher · 17/08/2022 11:14

You mean, like, a repentance speech?

She did explain on twitter that she voted against same sex marriage because she anticipated that it might impact on the rights of women and children - thinking that a man could marry another man to protect his assets if he wanted to disinherit his children and their mother, maybe?

But those fears proved unfounded. Gay marriage became law, via a democratic process. She does not campaign for the law to be overturned.

However, the process by which women's rights are currently being eroded and children are being given unproved medical treatments is not democratic in the slightest.....

DameHelena · 17/08/2022 11:31

Sorry, what's the 20-year-ago thing everyone's referring to? Didn't she vote against same-sex marriage in 2013 ie just under 10 years ago? And make the comments about lesbians at the same time?

DameHelena · 17/08/2022 11:32

rabbitwoman · 17/08/2022 11:25

She did explain on twitter that she voted against same sex marriage because she anticipated that it might impact on the rights of women and children - thinking that a man could marry another man to protect his assets if he wanted to disinherit his children and their mother, maybe?

But those fears proved unfounded. Gay marriage became law, via a democratic process. She does not campaign for the law to be overturned.

However, the process by which women's rights are currently being eroded and children are being given unproved medical treatments is not democratic in the slightest.....

But couldn't a man also marry another woman to protect his assets if he wanted to disinherit his children and their mother?

334bu · 17/08/2022 11:42

Wasn't Stonewall ambivalent about same sex marriages because tax changes could impact the economy? They also haven't apologised for Nancy Kelly's comments about lesbians , comparing them to sexual racists.

Datun · 17/08/2022 11:43

Honestly. Can any one of those criticising the baroness for standing up for women and children, explain what they actually mean by homophobia, instead of, you know, advocating for it??

WanOvaryKenobi · 17/08/2022 11:44

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tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz · 17/08/2022 11:46

Beefcurtains79 · 17/08/2022 09:23

Some posters are so desperate and disingenuous that they are pretending reconstructive breast surgery is the same as cosmetic breast enlargement. I’m cringing for them.

This

It doesn't compare. At all.

Snazz · 17/08/2022 11:47

Datun · 17/08/2022 11:43

Honestly. Can any one of those criticising the baroness for standing up for women and children, explain what they actually mean by homophobia, instead of, you know, advocating for it??

The dictionary definition is a dislike of or prejudice against gay people.

^^

tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz · 17/08/2022 11:51

Having cosmetic surgery for whatever reason is one thing, but men having cosmetic surgery on their genitals and thinking that makes them women and gives them the rights of women is another entirely.

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And for medical staff to be complicit in something which will never be a reality is pretty mind boggling really.

SweetSenorita · 17/08/2022 11:57

Tramane · 17/08/2022 00:54

Do you believe that male-sexed people have the right to undress and shower in a communal changing room with teenage girls?

No one whether they are male or female has the right to shower with teenage girls, what a weird question.

What a bizarre response.

I'm female; ergo I share the gym showers with teenage girls. Where else would you like me to shower? Or them for that matter?

DarkDayforMN · 17/08/2022 12:01

The dictionary definition is a dislike of or prejudice against gay people.

like calling them sexual racists, would that quality?

Theeyeballsinthesky · 17/08/2022 12:01

back when Ben summerskill was CEO of stonewall he said many times that a minority of LGB people especially lesbians did not want equal marriage because they saw it as a patriarchal institution they wanted nothing to do with. That was why there was such a fierce internal debate within stonewall at the time as to whether they should back it
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SpinCityBlues · 17/08/2022 12:04

SweetSenorita · 17/08/2022 11:57

What a bizarre response.

I'm female; ergo I share the gym showers with teenage girls. Where else would you like me to shower? Or them for that matter?

Well, precisely. University squash courts have showers. There are female ones. Why wouldn't a 17 or 18 year old student share a squash court shower facility with a, say, 30, 40, 50 or 60 year old female lecturer? They are organised by sex not age.

EmpressaurusWitchDoesntBurn · 17/08/2022 12:17

Would all the people who are condemning the Baroness’s comments 10 years ago please explain why it’s ok for the head of Stonewall to have expressed homophobic views under 10 months ago?

Datun · 17/08/2022 12:23

Snazz · 17/08/2022 11:47

The dictionary definition is a dislike of or prejudice against gay people.

^^

Likening lesbians' sexual orientation to apartheid would probably qualify...

SweetSenorita · 17/08/2022 12:31

ToGanymedeAndTitan · 17/08/2022 02:36

Breast reductions and enlargements on the NHS are fairly rare, almost always done for spinal health and post-oncology reconstruction, respectively, and are never done because a woman who develops a B cup decides one day she was born into the wrong body and should have been an F.
Where are you getting this from though? I with my B cup could quite easily apply for surgery for enlargement tomorrow (,I don't want to, but I could))
should I be denied it then as according to this thread I need to learn to be happy with what I've got?

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Yes, you should be denied. I'm not all that invested in whether you 'learn to be happy with what you've got'. I think that it would be good for you if you could do that but ... whatever; that's your issue.

ScrollingLeaves · 17/08/2022 13:23

Cosmetic surgery is not routinely provided on the NHS.

It may occasionally be provided on the NHS for psychological or other health reasons. For example, the NHS might pay for:

breast implants – if you have very uneven breasts or no breasts, and it's causing significant psychological distress

nose reshaping – if you have breathing problems

ear correction surgery – if a child needs it, or sometimes, if an adult has prominent ears that are causing significant distress

female breast reduction – if you're very distressed about the size of your breasts and they're causing problems like backache

male breast reduction – if you've had a condition called gynaecomastia for a long time, other treatments have not worked, and it's causing considerable pain or distress

Generally, most people who want cosmetic surgery will need to pay for it privately

Reconstructive or plastic surgery is often available on the NHS. It's different from cosmetic surgery because its main aim is to repair and reconstruct missing or damaged tissue and skin after an illness, accident or birth defect.

Plastic surgery includes procedures such as rebuilding a woman's breasts after a mastectomy (an operation to remove a breast), and repairing a cleft lip and palate.

ScrollingLeaves · 17/08/2022 13:32

Surgery for trans women

(available from the NHS following assessments after attending Gender Dysphoria clinics)

Gender surgery for trans women includes:

removal of the testes (orchidectomy)

removal of the penis (penectomy)

construction of a vagina (vaginoplasty)

construction of a vulva (vulvoplasty)

construction of a clitoris (clitoroplasty)

Breast implants for trans women (trans-feminine people) are not routinely available on the NHS.

Facial feminisation surgery and hair transplants are not routinely available on the NHS.

As with all surgical procedures there can be complications. Your surgeon should discuss the risks and limitations of surgery with you before you consent to the procedure.

Needmoresleep · 17/08/2022 13:50

One reason why it is not routinely available on the NHS is price. There is potentially limitless demand for health care and the NHS cannot afford everything.

Some prices:
www.thelondontransgenderclinic.uk/price-list/

Needmoresleep · 17/08/2022 13:52

I wonder what the "etiquette training" includes.

MangyInseam · 17/08/2022 14:09

rabbitwoman · 17/08/2022 11:25

She did explain on twitter that she voted against same sex marriage because she anticipated that it might impact on the rights of women and children - thinking that a man could marry another man to protect his assets if he wanted to disinherit his children and their mother, maybe?

But those fears proved unfounded. Gay marriage became law, via a democratic process. She does not campaign for the law to be overturned.

However, the process by which women's rights are currently being eroded and children are being given unproved medical treatments is not democratic in the slightest.....

I don't know that we should be sure this kind of worry was wrong. Arguably it was part of what established this idea that reproductive role is not something that should be recognized in law, because it's necessary to treat all people identically. This is less so where there was legislation as in the UK, but I think we can all see that there is significant international influence going on with the way people think about these issues. And in places where it was treated as a rights issue, that set a kind of precedent around whether you could have a social/legal institution that treated male and female categories as different. You can see how it's usually argued, not as, should we have SSM, but can we not have SSM.

MangyInseam · 17/08/2022 14:14

334bu · 17/08/2022 11:42

Wasn't Stonewall ambivalent about same sex marriages because tax changes could impact the economy? They also haven't apologised for Nancy Kelly's comments about lesbians , comparing them to sexual racists.

They were ambivalent because the lgb community was ambivalent.

Some people thought it was a good idea because it would encourage gay men to commit to monogamous relationships.
Some people thought that homosexual love should be acknowledged socially.
Some thought it was a good idea due to things like inheritance.
Some people thought it should be a human right.
Some people thought marriage was opposed to the nature of male homosexuality and irrelevant to gay men.
Some thought marriage was an oppressive patriarchal structure.
Some thought marriage exists to manage childbearing and issues around a union between people with opposite reproductive roles.
And I am sure some other things.

There was more a sense, and not just for SW, that lobby groups should really work in areas where there was strong consensus among the people they represented. Rather than trying to form the opinions of those people.

Cuck00soup · 17/08/2022 14:35

As I posted earlier, I dislike this particular tweet from the Baroness, because well healthcare is healthcare and when it is provided on the NHS, it should be done well and without judgement.

That said, I don't think the colourful language is especially harmful especially if it reminds people considering surgery what is involved. I've unfortunately come across trans people who were unhappy with the results of their surgery, either because their expectations weren't met and/or because it didn't resolve their dysphoria.

I'm expecting a spotlight to be shone on adults after the Cass report is published and hope there can be an open discussion. Informed consent is essential to mature people too. Especially when their mental health is fragile. I sincerely hope that psychological assessment and support remains part of any NHS pathway and would like to see stricter safeguards around private options.

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