So I think it's possible to mourn the EI that DID challenge the status quo of male identity expression while still understanding that he misled us all for a very long time.
Yes, for me, the realisation that I was probably being duped, in hindsight, is what pisses me off.
He was, like Grayson Perry, entirely upfront about his cross dressing, but, unbeknownst to me, had already wondered whether he could be a lesbian and availed himself of female facilities to the detriment of young girls.
It's one thing considering cross dressing in isolation, but it's quite another, when you realise it utterly relies on the concept of what constitutes womanhood for it to exist. And then the concept is fetishised.
Not something that would have crossed my mind when I was laughing at Eddie the clever comic wearing nail varnish.
But understanding how these things work and escalate, and the rank sexism involved in underpinning them has changed my mind.
It looked like he was gender nonconforming, but in reality, he was vehemently conforming to male gender stereotypes. Self entitlement, centring his sex drive to the detriment of women and girls, whilst still retaining all the power of a man in show business.
it doesn't get more stereotypically male.