This is what probably annoys me the most about the movement, in all honesty.
The obsession and unhealthy obsessions that a lot of transwomen have with “woman” things, but it’s incredibly stereotypical.
It’s always an obsession about menstruation (which they can never experience so instead they turn it into something cutesy rather than what it actually is like for thousands of women- painful, draining and something that makes us self conscious and hormonal).
Or it’s fashion. The obsession with wearing skimpy clothes where no one would actually wear them (see Dylan’s Instagram where they go hiking in a leather skirt…). Pink glittery everything. Dressing like a Barbie doll. Now, there’s nothing wrong with liking pink and glitter, but it doesn’t seem authentic to me. If I was to go out in skimpy clothes like that for a hike then I’d be told that I was leading guys on and “asking for it”, but it’s totally inspiring for Dylan to wear said outfit.
Or it’s makeup. Absolutely piled on and then tonnes of references to how they look better than biological women. Like it’s a competition. I love a full face of makeup, but it doesn’t make me any more/less a woman depending on whether I’m wearing it or not. Same goes for fake boobs and other cosmetic surgeries. If Dylan gets surgery they’ll be told they “slaaaaayyyy”, but if I got a BBL and a boob job I’d probably be told how fake I am.
None of them are obsessed with the fact so many women can’t afford to work when they have children due to the cost of childcare. They don’t care about the gender wage gap. They pretend to care about the attacks on women by men, but only because they can twist it around back on themselves by saying they also get attacked by men and that’s why they need to use the female bathroom. The list goes on.
I genuinely did not care 5-10 years ago about people transitioning. I was completely for it. I want people to live a life where they can be their true authentic selves. But clearly accepting that you are different is difficult, apparently, and it’s much easier to force others to change to fit around you than to figure out how you can fit into a world with others while being true to who you are.
The issues that transwomen have would be easily solved if they simply accepted that they are not women in the biological sense, and instead campaigned to have safe spaces for their own minority group, rather than infringing on a group who have been historically terrorised by men (and still are, frankly).
If you’re trans and want to use the toilet? Campaign for trans exclusive bathroom facilities.
If you’re trans and want to compete in sports? Campaign for trans exclusive sporting events.
If you’re trans and you want to wear makeup/dress feminine? That’s totally cool.
If you’re trans and want to get involved with biological women’s issues and try to help? Great, but act as an ally. We will return the favour, as an ally, as respect works both ways- but don’t try to assert ownership over something that you’ve never lived through or experienced.
It’s a lot more complex being a woman than having a fucking tampon or not.