There are some people who specifically HATE the fact that this website has supported - what was it, over 6,000? - women to leave abusive and violent relationships.
I've seen a few abusive Exes let rip on the Relationships board late at night when they're furious that MN helped the partner to achieve her heartfelt desire to get away. The messages on MN that annoyed them the most?
You're not alone, this happens to other women. It isn't because you're odd or wrong or did something to cause it.
You don't have to accept this: if you're not happy, not consenting, if you're not being treated well and with equal consideration, then you deserve better. You are entitled to expect more of relationships than this.
Other people have to take equal responsibility for their choices and actions, it's not all on you all the time
You have resources, support and legal protections, here's how to find them, and the financial means to survive alone
Yes this is very scary but you have responsibilities and support to change this if you want to.
This, to someone who is getting their needs met by coercively controlling their provider? Is not helpful in any way. Empowering women, giving them ideas above their station, people to talk and get perspectives from, practical help and strategies - makes for a really badly behaved victim.
Because they are unable to barge in here, assert their manly authority and take control of our conversations they must destroy it.
I always thought the philosopher who commented that men often see women's spaces as 'terra nullis' nailed it. If it isn't occupied with being useful to men then it's just pointless, unused space waiting for a real purpose to come along. None of the crap that bothers women is ever in men's experience or on their radar, so for less sensitive men? Well it doesn't happen to them, so more or less just doesn't happen and doesn't matter.