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TT Exulansic Youtube

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Fleek · 19/11/2021 14:58

I've been watching TT Exulansic's videos on YouTube having seen a link to them on here. I have learnt so much - what she is sharing is so necessary in terms of this debate. I'm also finding them really upsetting. I'm so shocked by what I've seen and just wanted to talk about them here. If you haven't watched any yet, please do.

I have a condition which has meant having plastic surgery to make my body look more 'normal'. I've had multiple, very painful surgeries which have left me in a degree of chronic pain but ultimately, I have achieved my goal in that I now have a much more normal looking body which it is easier to go through life with. These surgeries have had a clear medical benefit beyond my appearance being changed, just to be clear. I have a medical condition which has objective markers. There is evidence having gone through these surgeries, I will now have better physical health in my old age and will be less likely to experience certain complications which the condition can end up causing so the benefits definitely aren't just cosmetic - it's just the cosmetic benefits meant a lot to me as a patient. My body was 'wrong' and that was badly affecting my mental health and so I've put myself through a lot to make it look 'right.'

So there I am with having gone through this journey and so I think watching these videos on YT feels that little bit more personal in some ways, even though I don't have gender dysphoria and my surgeries were completely different. I knew already that things like constructing a 'penis' out of someone's arm was utterly barbaric and had a high failure rate and I knew there could be complications with attempting to construct a vagina. I just had no idea how frequently there were complications and how dangerous this journey is. I suddenly have the view that it must be almost impossible to go through them safely - at the very least you are risking fissures and strictures and those can lead to serious complications. Just taking testosterone is likely to lead to heart damage, too. There are going to be so many people who go through these operations and who die prematurely because they end up with sepsis or other infections.

I just watched the latest video on Jazz. I felt sick to my stomach at that one in particular. How has this poor kid got any kind of future? Jazz is severely depressed, 150 pounds overweight, has no sexual functioning at all, has already experienced multiple surgeries and complications and is likely to experience more. It's a crime to be doing this to vulnerable young people. If Jazz hadn't had these surgeries, we'd be looking at a young man embarking on a degree at Harvard, perhaps at the beginning of a journey where he felt comfortable with his sex and his sexuality. He'd be out having fun. My surgeries were so incredibly tough but on balance, they were worth it and while I'm in pain here and there, I don't have any additional complications which will actually threaten my life. That isn't the case with trans surgeries. Surgeons are literally butchering healthy bodies. They must know they are. How have things been allowed to go in this direction? (I know the answer to that really)

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ClareCAIS · 18/02/2022 20:53

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vivariumvivariumsvivaria · 18/02/2022 21:06

I'm sorry, I can see why it's upsetting. You are a great communicator and it's clear why this is not acceptable.

I remember a letter about a decade ago from a DSD organisation to SW saying "leave us out of it".

They are not reasonable. They are not going to listen. It is them who are forcing women to consider chromosomes and where a technical point would be drawn. Of course, the technical point is one that impacts real people in a very challenging way.

We'd do better if we could pull the lesbians, the DSD community, the incarcerated women, the traumatised women, the vulnerable women, the women with physical disabilities, with learning disabilities, women of colour, women of faith, young women, older women and those of us who are just sick of this shit - if we could all pull together and present a loud, united "FOTTFSOF" to the TRAs. Well, I'd rather enjoy that.

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NotMyGenderGoblin · 18/02/2022 21:14

[quote ClareCAIS]@NotMyGenderGoblinSeriously, this is your response? If you had CAH you may have grown a penis. This is my body and it is the only body I have & I have to exist in this world - yes, with XY chromosomes and functioning XY chromosomes I would have developed as male - but very early in my embryological development this didn’t happen.

This isn’t about definitions - this is advocating for the widespread testing of babies so that people with CAIS can be identities, labelled as disabled men & segregated from both male & female spaces? This is both cruel & ludicrous - how would you ensure we were labelled, how could you force new mothers to consent to this screening test & what other genetic variations would you be testing for? Full genome for every baby so that they can be labelled asap?

Seriously, if you can’t see how horrific this is, I am beyond shocked[/quote]
You are being very disingenuous.

I am finding your words triggering, and I think it is for the two reasons I said. It was about me recognising why I keep posting on this thread. Obviously plenty of people have things infinitely tougher (for example someone who stubs their toe on a door, let alone someone with a DSD).

I did not say that I found your claim to be a woman who has a right to women's spaces triggering. I do not find those claims unreasonable let alone triggering. And I am leaning towards agreeing! I am sorry if my words aren;t more clear.

I also find it frustrating that you don;t appear to answer many of the questions put to you. A big part of why I am GC is not about great GC arguments, it's about never ever ever getting a straight answer from the TRA side

Exulansic holds a reasonable (but not necessarily correct) opinion that XX equals female and women's space are for females. She also holds the entirely reasonable position that excluding all XY people from women's spaces does not mean that they should all be in the men's spaces.

Do you agree that Woman = adult human female = XX is a pretty accurate starting point that covers the vast majority of people? How do YOU expand that definition to ensure that firm boundaries protect women from men, whilst ensuring you are treated how you wish to be treated?

vivariumvivariumsvivaria · 18/02/2022 21:14

I agree, people's needs are being dismissed. Not only people with DSDs but women who need rape crisis centres, women who want privacy, women who want the right to say "no".

I have a close family member with a DSD, discovered long after birth. I agree, no one would want blanket testing.

NotMyGenderGoblin · 18/02/2022 21:22

[quote ClareCAIS]@vivariumvivariumsvivaria thanks - this very much seems to be throwing us under the bus as a way to make a perfect definition, without thinking about the real life consequences.

Would you test for CAIS if you knew your daughter than appears perfect to you, could turn out to have XY chromosomes & then be discussed in this way? I am not sure that I would recommend testing, if this only leads to being labelled as a disabled man & segregated- so it will only force people into silence[/quote]
I would want to do much much more research about CAIS.

I think I would be torn between feeling that her facing reality as soon as possible is best, and feeling that her being in women's spaces is best and that the longer you ignore the elephant in the room (the male chromosomes) the easier it is to justify her being in female spaces forever.

I am a fairly rational person and I like to think that I understand the need for honest conversation using clear language in order to try to get to logical reasonable and compassionate solutions. I would want to protect her from outright cruelty (which is probably something Exulansic and Isaac veered into), but I would also want her to grow up with resilience and knowing that some things you hear are going to hurt and there's nothing you can do apart from stay strong, especially when the words are factually correct.

ClareCAIS · 18/02/2022 21:28

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NotMyGenderGoblin · 18/02/2022 21:36

[quote ClareCAIS]@NotMyGenderGoblin it is you that is being disingenuous- Exulansic is not just saying that XX equals female - she is calling for the testing of all babies, so that those with CAIS can be identitied and labelled as men, so that they can be segregated from both male & female spaces - if you think this is in any way OK, I have nothing more to say

And to answer your question - of course the platonic ideal for women is to have XX chromosomes, with corresponding reproductive system & this is true for over 99.98% of the population - just as the platonic ideal for men is to have XY chromosomes with corresponding reproductive system - however, as with any category, there will always be slightly fuzzy edges. And as someone observed and recorded as female at birth & unable to masculine & unable to be viewed as female by anyone with eyes and ears, what other choice do I have? Do I tattoo XY on my head - or announce my chromosomes in every new situation - this all feels absurd.

Are you telling me that if you found out tomorrow that your chromosomes were XY - of if your teenage daughter found out her chromosomes were XY, you would refuse to call her a woman and would suggest that she stops using female spaces?[/quote]
You have pointedly not answered my question. Define the fuzzy edges for me if you can, and if you can;t don;t be surprised that women who do not have the same interest in DSDs that you do don;t just stick to the XX definition.

We bot agree that Woman equals XX equals female covers the vast majority of women. How do YOU expand that definition so that your needs are met? Woman equals XX plus CAIS? Or is there a better way of putting it?

Last paragraph - of course not. But that selfish answer says precisely nothing about the best way for society to protect the rights of women from men whilst also doing it;s best for people with DSDs.

NotMyGenderGoblin · 18/02/2022 21:42

[quote ClareCAIS]@NotMyGenderGoblin - are you really telling me that if you had a child with CAIS, who would look indistinguishable from any other girl, you would want her labelled as a disabled man & want special provision for her alone, that would segregate her from both boys & girls? This is horrific

Of course they should all information shared in a timely & sensitive way, but treating them in this way would be hugely abusive[/quote]
This is a complex and nuanced issue. When I said -

"Exulansic holds a reasonable (but not necessarily correct) opinion that XX equals female and women's space are for females. She also holds the entirely reasonable position that excluding all XY people from women's spaces does not mean that they should all be in the men's spaces."

I did not in any way say that I want any person with CAIS labelled as a disabled man and singled out. I said that the position that woman equals XX and that XY should be excluded from women's spaces is reasonable. Reasonable is not the same as "right" or "I agree" or "that's all there is to it".

You have your opinion, Exulansic has hers. I have a great deal of sympathy for both positions and am trying to work out precisely where I stand. I want a solid definition of woman whilst not chucking you under a bus. It's not easy.

IntersexTruther · 18/02/2022 21:45

The clear language here is within science, within biology, within the American Medical Association, and within every physician. They're included under the umbrella because there's been 50 years of research into these DSD. I realize it's fun to pick on people and bully people who are different from you, but I don't think you want that, so grow up.

ClareCAIS · 18/02/2022 21:46

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Cailleach1 · 18/02/2022 22:37

I just want to clarify a few things, as I think I am in danger of being misrepresented here.

@ClareCais, firstly, I did not wander into the personal and ask you about your biology at all! You brought yourself into the response. I have no wish to do that. I was not asking you personal questions about yourself when you (and only you) decided to make it specifically about yourself.

You had stated (I paraphrase) that when teenagers discover they have CAIS (other dsds?) they find out at that stage that they had been born without a uterus. The logical implication of that was that the disorder was responsible for the lack of a uterus and this would otherwise have developed in the absence of that disorder. That just simply isn't true, is it? As a simple and objective fact, and without pinpointing anyone in particular.

Also, I am a little taken aback that you seem to be associating me with advocating for segregation by bringing it into a response about me. When you (and only you) brought segregation, and other things, into the post.

Also, (and this is people in general) I simply don't understand why people who say what a shock it is for teenagers to discover they have a dsd, then deplore a situation where they could been diagnosed at a much earlier stage in life and thus been spared that. That way only makes sure more teenagers are doomed to continue to be shocked as as they hit puberty. I don't think that is centering the interests of the child. I wonder if such people would be against research or therapies if they were developed? If my child had any disorder whatsoever, I would want to get them diagnosed as early as possible. No ifs and no buts. And any care or/and treatment which may help them. I would feel that I was abnegating my responsibility for their welfare if I didn't avail of everything that I could.

Alright, I see the dishonesty wouldn't be shocking to you - if someone was fraudulently misrepresenting themselves.

I'd part company with you on that point, for sure. I don't like a con, irrespective of whether I agree with the perpetrator or not.

I'm just addressing some of these issues as they have been raised on this thread by others. Maybe an additional, dedicated thread to those topics would also be useful to enable a more layered discussion with special emphasis on the social aspect/ interests of this issue. I know it is a deeply personal and emotive issue for those affected. Also, that it is a simply another natural occurrence in the book of life. I suspect this thread probably will have some perspectives with a different focus (like me) who will probably be only viewing it against the subsequent developments relating to the titular youtube channel. Maybe with as much interest in the alleged fraudulent claim, the account which allegedly commissioned a racist caricature (and fake credits), and example of the power of the bros to shut women up. And, indeed organise and co-ordinate to do so.

orkid · 18/02/2022 22:46

So I never warmed to exulansic after watching one or two of her videos, so haven't followed this thread...

But a few of the posts I've read seem to say that if parents knew their daughter had CAIS (or more broadly DSD with XY) that it would make a big difference and they may somehow cease viewing the daughter as a girl. I don't think so. I met several families where many members had CAIS, and aunts, nieces and sisters shared this bond, and I really don't recall parents or siblings suddenly telling their CAIS sister to use another changing room or change name or whatever. In some cases families knew at birth about chromosomal status, but I don't recall any parents ever saying they thought of registering as a male birth or changing sex (gender?) of rearing.

To me the problem seems to be that the XY/XX fundamentalists don't seem to have met (m)any of us women with CAIS and related conditions. I think it is preposterous that anyone who meets girls and women who have been observed as female at birth, who have had a completely female upbringing (whether knowing they have XY chromosomes or not) and who have not had pubertal virilization, would be considered in any way not girls and women. That is my experience of 30 years post diagnosis and opening to friends and meeting many families affected by DSDs.

This chromosomal fundamentalism I've been reading recently is in my opinion (and this post may be deleted for the use of this word, sorry) as ignorant as the "third sex" fundamentalism espoused elsewhere.

ClareCAIS · 18/02/2022 22:58

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Cailleach1 · 18/02/2022 23:45

That's fine, Clare. Just wanted to clear up any misrepresentations or muddied waters. As you were.

NotBadConsidering · 19/02/2022 03:27

There is effectively prenatal screening for CAIS already. Every time a woman has a NIPT and an ultrasound at 20 weeks. If 46XY is found on NIPT and female genitalia seen on 20 week scan there’s not much else it could be, apart from a few other DSDs. There are several published case studies of this.

264MyShirt · 19/02/2022 06:42

[quote ClareCAIS]@Cailleach1 of course if I had functioning androgen receptors my embryological development would have been very different

These are the more recent comments I’ve been receiving on these videos[/quote]
(Name Change as I am likely to copy and paste some text that I have used in replies outside of Mumsnet.)

Firstly, I am horrified by the ignorance (in both senses) of those comments on YouTube.

Secondly, whether or not Dalea Rundblad was lying about anything at all is completely irrelevant to the general issue of people with CAIS.

Some earlier comments to ClareCAIS here seemed to boil down to, "Don't expect me to treat you with common courtesy until you have answered whether or not you think Dalea was lying?"

WTAF! It's obvious that this whole mess has moved well beyond Dalea and into the general area of CAIS.

I will be more than happy to be corrected by ClareCAIS if anything I post here is incorrect or offensive. This is how I understand things:

"Variations of Sexual Development"

DSDs are also referred to as "Variations of Sexual Development" (VSDs) and IMHO that is a much more helpful way to think of them and the people who have VSDs. Not, as Exulansic describes them, as people with "disabilities" but as a tiny minority of people with Variations of Sexual Development that do not fit neatly into an XX vs XY binary matched perfectly with female vs male phenotypes.

KARYOTYPE vs PHENOTYPE

Exulansic has not been consistent in her arguments about excluding CAIS people from women's spaces.

Sometimes she has argued that XY = male and that people with CAIS should be excluded on that basis (Karyotype).

At other times she has advanced a theory that CAIS might result in "masculinised behaviour" and has justified exclusion on the basis of safeguarding (Phenotype).

She cannot have it both ways.

Phenotype

MASCULINISED BEHAVIOUR - PHYSICAL AGGRESSION

XX females, XY males, CAIS XY women/males and XX men/females

In what follows, I am going to refer to "CAIS XY women/males" because that seems to cover both bases in terms of how GC feminists are referring to people who have this rare VSD. (Personally, and it should become obvious why, I would prefer "CAIS women".)

Other VSDs I am going to mention - these are very relevant to Exulansic's arguments:

CAH (Congenital Adrenal Hyperplasia)

  • CAH XX females are masculinised
  • CAH XY males are feminised.

XX males exist.
De la Chapelle Syndrome. They are even more rare than CAIS XY women/males and I have not found any research that includes them in studies of propensity for physical aggression.

CAIS XY: Exulansic's theory is that, despite being androgen insensitive, that there is a possibility that there might be another route that the presence of T in the body could lead to "masculinisation" of behaviour.

Research

There is a current research project with aims that mention, "If XY females with CAIS resemble women rather than men in regard to physical aggression, confidence that T is the responsible agent will be increased."

grantome.com/grant/NIH/R01-HD081720-05

(That is a direct quote so do not complain to me if you do not like the wording "XY females".)

The grant holder has not published anything relevant to this aspect of the project so I have written to her asking if this has been researched yet.

However, there are already multiple research projects using "desktop" measures of "physical aggression" comparing:

  • CAIS XY women/males with CAH XX and XY people
  • CAH XX and XY people with both XX females and XY males
  • XX females with XY males

Although the results are not conclusive most of these studies have found that:

  1. XX Females, CAIS XY women/males and CAH XY males show less propensity for physical aggression than CAH XX females and XY males.

  2. CAH XX females show less propensity for physical aggression than XY males.

  3. XY males show more propensity to initiate physical aggression than XX females

  4. XX females show more propensity to persist with physical aggression once started than do XY males.

Discussion

Exulansic uses the theoretical possibility that CAIS results in "masculinised behaviour" as an argument to exclude people with CAIS from women's spaces, ie. on Safeguarding grounds.

There is no evidence to support this hypothesis.

However, there IS tentative evidence that some women with DSDs (CAH XX females) are so masculinised that they are "more like men" on many measures, including propensity for aggression, than:

  • CAH XY males
  • CAIS XY women/males
  • XX women

For the avoidance of doubt:
I am NOT suggesting that CAH females are "really men" or "partly male" nor that they should be excluded from women's spaces. The single relevant factor is that their propensity for physical aggression would appear to be further from that of XX females than CAIS XY women/males.

Where is that knowledge going to take us, if we follow Exulansic's argument that "masculinised behaviour" is the criterion for exclusion?

It results in the:

  • inclusion of CAIS XY women/males on the basis of phenotypically female behaviour by people who are, to all real-life intents and purposes, phenotypically female
  • exclusion of CAH XX females

Karyotype

If we follow Exulansic's other proposal, that exclusion is based on Karyotype XY or presence of an SRY gene, then the result is:

  • inclusion of XX males (De la Chapelle Syndrome)

(XX males are usually considered to be sterile in that technical, medical assistance is required in order to extract sperm with which to father a child.)

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264MyShirt · 19/02/2022 06:43

IMHO the only analysis of Karyotype vs Phenotype in DSDs that makes any sense in the real world, both as it is now and as we would like to see it as GC Feminists, is the model published by DSD Families.

"The Story of Sex Development"

www.dsdfamilies.org/application/files/4915/7386/0021/ECOPY_Story_of_Sex_Dev_Nov_2019.pdf

CAIS gets a brief mention on page 8 as one of the rare forms of an already rare set of medical conditions.

Where VSDs are concerned, there is no "tidy" answer that ties XX to "absolute femaleness" and XY to "absolute maleness".

If we can accept that, then we can accept that the only rational, moral way of accommodating CAIS XY women/males is to accept that they are, to all intents and purposes "infertile women" (not "infertile men") - and then we can get our eye back on the ball: transgenderism and gender ideology.

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Exulansic and her . . . fan-club?

I was going to say "Followers", in the technical sense of "YouTube and Patreon subscribers", but not all will be "Subscribers". "Followers" also has cult-associations, which is somewhat ironic.

Exulansic was a TRA and is using TRA logic in her focus on CAIS.

IMHO that is wholly misguided and irrelevant and will inevitably play into the hands of TRAs.

I hope that Exulansic gets her YouTube Channel back but I also hope that she stays far away from considering people with VSDs. She is, in different ways:

  • helping TRAs
  • damaging GC arguments and aims
  • creating unnecessary division within the "GC movement"
  • making "GC views" look deranged, without either credibility or human decency.

She cannot be held responsible for how other people with GC views are behaving even if she is modelling that behaviour.

We have had our fill of the TRA thought-terminating cliché TWAW. We don't need that mirrored by a GC thought-terminating cliché "CAIS are Male".

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264MyShirt · 19/02/2022 06:45

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NotBadConsidering · 19/02/2022 07:03

CAH (Congenital Adrenal Hyperplasia)
- CAH XX females are masculinised
- CAH XY males are feminised.

This is incorrect and oversimplified. CAH XX females can be virilised in classical, and the degree depends on when it’s picked up. But they incontrovertibly female.

CAH XY males are not simply “feminised” they can experience early virilisation or under virilisation depending on a variety of possibilities.

Your statement is far too simplistic and needs qualifying with the type described in your reference.

264MyShirt · 19/02/2022 07:24

@NotBadConsidering

CAH (Congenital Adrenal Hyperplasia) - CAH XX females are masculinised - CAH XY males are feminised.

This is incorrect and oversimplified. CAH XX females can be virilised in classical, and the degree depends on when it’s picked up. But they incontrovertibly female.

CAH XY males are not simply “feminised” they can experience early virilisation or under virilisation depending on a variety of possibilities.

Your statement is far too simplistic and needs qualifying with the type described in your reference.

Your statement is far too simplistic and needs qualifying with the type described in your reference.

Firstly, there were several different studies and TBH some were so poorly written up that at times the researchers referred vaguely to "CAH people" where they clearly had the data to differentiate between CAH XX subjects and CAH XY subjects.

Secondly, the lack of specificity and the variation within groups does not alter the general argument, as it would just need to reference sub-groups.

WarriorN · 19/02/2022 07:59

RVN123 yesterday at 17:45, pretty much the post I wanted to write, thank you. I've started so many.

I was a late starter. That was hard and embarrassing enough though I managed to see benefits in not having a period yet as my friend fainted from the pain next to me. However I already felt "different" and socially ignored in some aspects especially by boys. It wasn't nice going to the dr and being asked intimate questions and having to show parts of my body.

If I'd had to then get my head around being male and then being forced to use male toilets etc? I can't imagine how fucked up that would have been. I couldn't have even transitioned to male as my cells wouldn't have responded to testosterone. So they're asking for women who will never have anything else than a female phenotype, but are also unable to have children (a whole headfuck on its own) to enter male spaces???

The twisted female YouTube is more abhorrent with the comments; I'm so sorry you have to read that Clare and please know the vast majority of us don't agree.

That that's still up though makes me think something else has gone on with Ex's channel, plus what ever has been happening with some male pile on.

Claire Graham made points in her Boyce video that she doesn't want girls with dsds to find these videos or discussions fo damn good reasons and that the original two people discussing this POV have themselves one from being heavily indoctrinated in tra ideology.

Thank you for those posts @264MyShirt, I need to read them more carefully later.

Re nipt tests NotBadConsidering, I had to pay for mine and felt uncomfortable tbh. I was told later in my area they could be opted in but many health authorities aren't doing this because of sex selection issues.

I could choose to know sex, which also tested for the sex specific trisomies which would have revealed intersex conditions, mainly because of the associated health issues.

^this isn't featuring in the conversation on YouTube much either and I'm finding the whole thing ableist.

WarriorN · 19/02/2022 08:02

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