Trans Widows Escape Committee 5: And so it continues...

[TinselAngel]

Welcome to thread 5. A virtual prize for anyone who can guess the geeky sci fi reference in the thread title.

This is a support area for women who are, or have been, in unhappy relationships with male partners who are transitioning, or exploring their "gender identity"

If you are in that position-

1. You are not alone
2. It is not a situation that you should be expected to tolerate, let alone celebrate.
3. There is always a way out, if you want it. The thread is called Escape Committee for that reason

Remember: women talking to each other is a powerful weapon!

In four years we have gone from starting the first thread, to launching a website, to be invited to give evidence to a government inquiry, which is pretty spectacular when you think about it.

Thanks to all the women who have told their stories and particularly to those who have stuck around to help others. Thanks also to @socialworker222 who remains nice cop, to my stern cop.

Do say hello to start the thread off!

AGPs thrive on pushing boundaries. The idea of showing cross dressing pictures to the lady vicar makes me uncomfortable.

He chose her because her church is sixty miles away and she (married to her 'wife' by the Bishop last year) runs the Open Table LGBTQ+ ministry. She did ask if he blends in or stands out. I was shocked he had pictures....he's not a great advert for CDIng. I am alarmed now. This is not going to end there.

Oh they all have lots of pictures.

I’m only aware of two actual ‘vicars’ of this persuasion in the CoE, but I think from the general enthusiasm in the hierarchy that they are recruiting enthusiastically. ‘Trans ‘ is a sacred journey’ according to an open letter issued by several senior clerics, including Rowan Williams, ex ARchbishop of Canterbury.

Bingo ( yes really) who tweets that ‘Jesus loves sparkly eyeshadow’ is attached to the Children’s Church in Liverpool .

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · Today 18:11

If you open the link to blogs by Ian Paul that Bosky posted a bit earlier, there is an interesting part with a reply/retort to Rowan Williams.

If Hell was actually a thing, Bingo would be going there for Bingo’s eyebrow sins.

Bingo also does not know how actual female priests tend to look. The idea is generally to wear a uniform and not make your personal life is the focus.

If I were thinking of taking a child to church they would not be going to a church taken over by a personality show of Bingo in drag. If the Church of England gets into this cult it will be a great shame.

Katekate,
I caught my partner trying to breastfeed our newborn. I was stunned. To my enquiry of what the hell are you doing, he calmly replied that he wanted to know what it felt like....that baby was born with teeth.
You know the things you have seen. You feel more than uncomfortable. Your midwife or other pregnancy support will have access to prompt ways to help you. They also have excellent strategies for dealing with people like him.
Do not think that once you are not pregnant all this will go away. It doesn't. Make use of the people who are familiar with this situation and accept their help.

Thank you for your message. He keeps denying calling himself mummy he has said other odd stuff though. He said he has always wanted to get pregnant then there was him saying im not giving birth here in a heated row he goes and its nothing to do with me being pregnant. Then month ons claims its sarcasm. On top of all this creepy stuff he keeps referring to himself as mummy when I call him up on it he gets nasty. That may be a good idea contacting the midwife or healthworker. I was going to tell social services but a lot of said they wont do anything.

@Katekate1991 I am so glad that you are writing down what you saw and heard. This is your record of your observations. You can keep access to this for divorce proceedings.

You are documenting the behaviour of a narcissist, a controlling and deeply disturbed man.
Please get away from him to save yourself and your DD. There is lots of good advice here.

Kate Kate I hope you can think about whether you have to stay. If your relationship and even friendship is so damaged, can you start to plan an alternative future? It's disrespectful for him not to stop these behaviours if you object and I'm not sure how you will manage to live with them/ignore them.

Merch to support the upcoming Trans Widow film

twitter.com/womensrightsnet/status/1659650665805651984?s=46&t=PSGltfjrMyZmBtYq2-AVIQ

And the film WILL be released soon. Fantastic news! Thank you so much and thank Vaishnavi Sundar. She makes very elegant films: "Dysphoric: fleeing womanhood like a house on fire" was excellent.

The Looking Glass trailer is beautifully put together.

It's Star Trek, I think.

You're very late in the day, and it was Babylon 5!

I've got a Star Trek title planned for the next thread actually, not that anybody cares!

New trailer for the upcoming trans widows film.

Definitely out the other side. Haven't seen the ex in almost two years. He pays what he's supposed to do. That's all I care about at this point.

Always around but being overly cautious about online presence.

Ooh, a Star Trek title? Make it so.

Are you going to be animated, Tinsel? Because I will donate for that alone!

I am! You can see me in the latest trailer!

Thanks for checking in. Good to hear you're doing ok x

Fantastic trailer.

Really glad to hear this. Sounds like you got some distance and freedom. And good he pays. I hope life is feeling a bit better.