I'm actually beyond sad at this stance they've taken. Our oldest learned so much from Rugby and I fell in love with its ethos.
I'm too scared to fall in love with the sport though. DS1 ended up bloodied and bruised more often than I can count. I took him to A&E after games more than once, same happened to his team mates. I actually hated watching him play and stopped going. However, DS1 begged me to attend his last youth match and so I agreed. My arrival coincided with the emergency helicopter transporting a fellow player to the hospital.
But the ethos, the commitment to safety and fair play, the team spirit. Those I loved.
Just before Covid, our youngest was offered a space on a Rugby program. He was keen, but part of the program consisted of teaching the kids about leadership and fair play, and respect and all those things that made the sport so good in my view. And at the same time, they published all this stuff about their commitment to male transgender players having the right to play against female players.
And I thought they cannot possibly teach my child about fair play while they are committed to denying it to women and girls. And I remembered all those injuries in the youth teams - a lot of them serious (broken bones, cracked skulls, injured spines, more concussions than is reasonable) but thankfully all the kids recovered. And I thought but those were injuries playing against evenly matched teams (plenty variation in strength and size even then, especially if a town has more than one team in an age class).
What Rugby England are proposing is insane. It goes against everything the sport stands for.
So we turned down the offer. I cannot believe they really are committed to safety, respect and fair play with all of this going on. It's simply not possible to believe them anymore.