I have not read the whole thread so I apologise if this has already been mentioned.
Gender identity is claimed to be an innate essence - something that doesn't change. It is apparently stronger than biology or genetics as its proponents claim a person's sex is 'assigned' at birth. In other words, they are trying to imply a person's sex isn't innate and real, but 'assigned' - an arbitrary construction; while this invisible gender identity is more real and innate and exists independently of a person's sexed body. Sort of like a soul if you will. The gender soul is more real than the material flesh of the body and its connection to the mind.
A person's gender identity is so real and so strong that some males claim they have always been a woman. Any attempts to examine or interrogate a person's self-confessed gender identity is portrayed as conversion therapy.
It is viewed as ethically wrong to question or attempt to change an innate aspect of a person. Like sexual orientation. Fair enough.
Sexual orientation is considered to be innate although there is still debate over how this actually comes to be and whether some people tend to be more flexible than others in their sexual attraction. (I don't mean bisexuals - I'm referring to people who were adamant they were straight/gay and then met someone who changed their mind)
Nevertheless it is fairly obvious to the vast majority of people that you cannot change a person's sexual orientation. They can suppress it or pretend to be something they are not or ignore it, but eventually, one way or another, there is no denying something so intrinsically part of a person's psyche.
Can we ever forget something that is an intrinsic part of us?
Dementia is a horrible condition and the nature of the issues affecting the brain mean people can forget all sorts of things as it progresses - from spouses and children to basic activities like cooking and grooming oneself properly. More recent memories and skills seem to be more likely to be lost first.
Has anyone with dementia forgotten their sexual orientation?
I haven't really come across anything like that, but I'm happy to hear from others who are more knowledgeable in this area. As far as I know, a straight person doesn't forget they are heterosexual. They might forget social rules and manners and inhibitions, but will a man start hitting on another man because his dementia causes him to forget he's attracted to women?
Gay men and lesbian women also don't seem to forget their sexual orientation. Dementia might cause them to forget recent history like homosexuality is no longer criminalised or they might forget that they have 'come out' to family and friends. They may feel distressed and worried about what might happen and need reminding that people already know. But as far as I'm aware, people don't seem to forget their sexual orientation, which makes sense if we consider it to be a fairly innate and intrinsic part of a person's psyche.
Has anyone with dementia forgotten their gender identity?
Yes.
Although more studies are needed, there is evidence that trans people with dementia do seem to forget their 'innate' gender identity.
www.academia.edu/40621556/Forgotten_lives_Trans_older_adults_living_with_dementia_at_the_intersection_of_cisgenderism_ableism_cogniticism_and_ageism_Journal_Sexualities_2019_
"trans older adults with dementia may forget they transitioned and reidentify with their sex/gender assigned at birth or may experience ‘gender confusion.’ This raises crucial questions, for example regarding practices related to pronouns, care to the body (shaving, hair, clothes, etc.), social gendered interactions, health care (continuing or not hormonal therapy) and so on."
How can you be confused about something that you have always been? How can you forget something that you are?
Trans people have expressed that their most prevalent ageing-related fears are to live with dementia, to forget their chosen gender identity and be mistreated by healthcare professionals.
I can easily imagine there are universal fears when it comes to living with dementia - forgetting loved ones and memories, losing independence and agency, being mistreated by care staff etc.
Do people express fear at forgetting their sexuality? I don't think it's something that occurs to most people when they think about dementia.
I find it very odd that there is so much propaganda to insist that the concept of gender identity is an innate and intrinsic part of a person's psyche - that people are living their life authentically by transitioning, and yet if a person is merely being who they really are, why would they express distress about it?
Sexual orientation and gender identity are frequently conflated and combined. In that case we should see fairly similar levels of people forgetting their sexual orientation along with those people who forget their gender identity. Yet this is not the case. Why? I'll leave that up to the reader. 