On the women's suffrage movement -
My impression is that there were an absolute fuckton of different groups and individuals, all working towards a common aim and using a huge variety of methods and there was lots of disagreement between groups.
None of the women's methods can properly be described as democratic because they didn't have the vote - they had no access to democracy.
The first national organisation for women's suffrage began in 1867 and women fought for over 50 years to get some women the vote and over 60 years to get all women the vote on the same terms as men. After the first forty years, some women got more than a bit shirty.
Methods ranged from politely asking male allies to make their case for them in parliament, right through to the terrorist tactics of the WSPU in its later years. I do believe it was only a few fringe activists who deliberately endangered lives but it was absolutely terrorism.
Women in the early 20th century were the same as women today - adult humans with fully functioning brains. Just like now, the vast majority of women with an interest in securing women's rights would have made the effort to hear what a lot of the different groups and prominent individuals had to say and would have made up their own minds and decided what they personally were comfortable with. And there would have been lots of fallings out and schisms and realignments etc because women are human.
It's difficult to say what I would have done personally because I wasn't born or brought up in that era. My ancestors at that time were coal miners, bargees, travelling fairground people and tenant farmers. They all left school at a very young age (if they went at all) and had limited literacy and even more limited time to pay attention to anything beyond their immediate hand-to-mouth existence. Maybe some of them were 'literal nazis' but we'll never know because they didn't have the privilege of leaving written records.
If I had been alive back then and had the astonishing good luck to be exposed to ideas about women's suffrage then my best guess is that I'd have been as militant as necessary up to the destruction of property but would have drawn the line at anything that harmed people.
Who knows though. It's a nonsensical question. None of us were alive.
Whatever things were like back then, I bet there were lots of men trying to shame women into denouncing each other. That has been the basic tactic since Matthew Hopkins.
We're not stupid.