nancywhitehead - If there were no stereotypes in the world about "male" or "female" then I suppose we would have a perfectly gender-neutral world. Everybody would have a sex of course but other than that, no one would be influenced in the way of girls liking pink, boys liking blue and all of those gender stereotypes.
Unfortunately though, that's just not the world we live in, as much as we would like to. We do have gender stereotypes, and some of them are very deep, unconscious biases that are difficult to get rid of, and I suppose we don't want to, or it would have happened.
These ideas and stereotypes possibly are a factor in people feeling they are the wrong gender. But the fact is that these norms are a part in our society and we can't erase them, so until society changes we just have to accept them as part of people's lived experiences. There is not really any point saying "but we shouldn't have gender stereotypes!" when in fact, we do.
Yeah, feminists, give up now - you'll never achieve anything 