Where have I claimed there’s anything wrong with femininity?
I think it’d be a great thing if males were socialised into being caring and gentle and putting others first.
Or do you mean the outside trappings of femininity? I just said upthread I like nice lingerie, how is that abhorring femininity?
There’s is nothing scientific that says femininity is inherent to being born female, or that masculinity is inherent to being born male. This is what’s meant by ‘one is not born but becomes a woman’. Sex role stereotype socialisation begins immediately and is overwhelming influential. A great deal of how women are socialised is to the benefit of men- so we will put our needs last, so we can look the way they tell us too. Our choices and preferences don’t develop in a vacuum. If the leading trend in porn was women with a full bush and hairy legs a great deal more of us would think that’s our preference. Being able to evaluate the affect of that isn’t any criticism of femininity itself, I shave my legs, I like the way it feels, I like doing it when I deep condition my hair and use a body scrub and body oil. I do this because it pleases me, but I’m aware the fact it pleases me didn’t develop with zero influence. Critiquing the influence and affect on women as a group isn’t any call for women to burn their bras and chuck away razors. The personal is not always the political and where it is it’s entirely possible to ustilise critical thinking about the affect of that on women as a group, while still taking part in the femininity being critiqued. We live in an unequal society, there is no feminist choice within that structure, not shaving my legs or shaving my legs contributes to women’s rights not a fuck. But I can still understand the beauty myth and be informed.
Substitute any action of femininity you like with shaving legs or whatever.
No one is deriding anyone liking ‘feminine’ things, we’re just aware that they have fuck all to do with the reality that we are stuck being female even if we discarded every bit of ‘femininity’ there is. We are still stuck at the mercy of our biology and the biology of the men who use our physically weaker bodies against us as their socialisation teachers them they are entitled to.
On fwr the issue will always be with masculinity or with the anti science anti fact myth that there’s anything inherent about femininity and being female or masculinity and being male.