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Would you ok your son wearing a dress?

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KristinaJup · 12/12/2020 18:46

Candace Owens recently tweeted (in response to Harry Styles wearing a dress on a magazine cover) "Bring Back Manly Men".. amongst other things.

Who really cares if a guy wears tutus and glittery dresses? Prince was hot af in his heels and Makeup.

Imo I would have no problem with it at all if my son wanted to put on a skirt but the tweet gained a lot of traction and I saw quite a few memes and lots of fingers pointed at feminism for "ruining men"

If we carry on this way the next thing will be....women should not be wearing trousers! What do you think?

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2bazookas · 12/12/2020 19:38

Gawd, you must be young; some of us here have already lived through the time when women were often criticised for wearing trousers in public. I had open complaints from employer , other teachers, and even neighbours.

SnugglySnerd · 12/12/2020 19:44

I recently sent my dad some cute photos of the dcs dressing up. Ds was wearing an Elsa dress in one picture and my dad told me "you need to put a stop to that". I challenged him by asking if he would say the same if dd was wearing a super hero costume and he was stumped by that.
I would worry about ds if he wanted to wear a dress out in public when he gets older as I'd worry about bullying. When he's an adult though that up to him.

TeenyTinyDustinHoffman · 12/12/2020 19:44

My brother used to wear my old dresses when we were kids. This wasn't in an especially forward thinking area. Other kids made comments at first, then they just got used to it. I'm very glad we weren't brought up by some of the people on here.

nancybotwinbloom · 12/12/2020 19:51

@SimonJT

He can wear what he likes as long as it doesn’t need ironing.

This.

TheABC · 12/12/2020 19:51

Nope, no problem with DS in a dress, tutu or anything else. Dragons are popular at the moment. Mind you, even the adults dress up in our house and I had to have The Talk last year with DH after he stole and wrecked my favourite bra for a Britney Spears skit with his mates.

A lot of my male, hetro friends at uni often had a skirt or cloches for nights out. It was frankly more dangerous to wear a kilt if you were non-scottish!

Awarethebear · 12/12/2020 19:58

No I would not feel comfortable with my son wearing a dress honestly I'd be embarrassed for him and me.

TeenyTinyDustinHoffman · 12/12/2020 19:59

Why would you be embarrassed by it?

Awarethebear · 12/12/2020 20:03

I would be embarrassed to see my son in a dress it would be a natural reaction.

Lordamighty · 12/12/2020 20:05

No I wouldn’t.

YouJustDoYou · 12/12/2020 20:05

People should be able to wear what they want. I don't find men wearing make up and dresses attractive at all, but that's just me and my opinion is kept to myself. Men should wear what they want, just as women should wear what they want.

SimonJT · 12/12/2020 20:05

@Awarethebear

I would be embarrassed to see my son in a dress it would be a natural reaction.

Would you be equally embarrassed if your daughter wore trousers?

It wouldn’t be a natural reaction, its learned behaviour.

TeenyTinyDustinHoffman · 12/12/2020 20:09

But what's embarrassing about it?
I'd be embarrassed if my children were rude or bullying or disrespectful or something like that because they're poor traits in a person and I wouldn't want people thinking I'd brought them up like that.
But I don't see how a male child wearing a dress is equivalent to that.

Awarethebear · 12/12/2020 20:09

No I'm not embarrassed to see my daughter in trousers because that's normal attire however dresses for men are not normal. Why kid yourself? It's silly you must know that deep down.

DontStopThinkingAboutTomorrow · 12/12/2020 20:10

My son can wear what he wants.
Unfortunately, in this world we live in, I would try to dissuade him from leaving the house in a dress for his own safety; but not for any other reason. There are a lot of arseholes out there who would think it a sport to harass and attack a male wearing a skirt.

user131426479642 · 12/12/2020 20:10

I would be embarrassed to see my son in a dress it would be a natural reaction.

I don't think you understand what the word natural means.

helpfulperson · 12/12/2020 20:10

Some of these responses feel like we are moving backwards and losing everything that slack wearing women in the 70s fought for. And the 80s where men wore frills and make up and even skirts.

DontStopThinkingAboutTomorrow · 12/12/2020 20:11

@Awarethebear

No I'm not embarrassed to see my daughter in trousers because that's normal attire however dresses for men are not normal. Why kid yourself? It's silly you must know that deep down.

Trousers for women used to be abnormal too. Until more and more women wore them and they became normal. Things become normal by people doing them.

Awarethebear · 12/12/2020 20:12

I think allowing a male child out in a dress is the equivalent of throwing them to the wolves so to speak.

Awarethebear · 12/12/2020 20:13

So do you think more and more men should wear dresses? The world's already gone mad enough as it is.

cheeseismydownfall · 12/12/2020 20:15

DS(13) and I were talking about his school uniform recently. He's cross because for some reason ties are mandatory for boys but optional for girls and he was (quite rightly) calling that out. We then got on to the subject of skirts and he felt that if girls have the option yo wear a skirt, then boys should too (after all, it might well be more comfortable in summer).

I asked him if he personally would choose to wear a skirt and said absolutely, definitely not - he would have the absolute piss ripped out of him. I then asked if it would be easier for a boy to identify as a trans girl and then wear a skirt - he said yes, that would be much more acceptable.

So there we have it - it is easier for a boy to reinvent himself entirely as a girl than it is for a boy to wear an gender non conforming item of clothing

DontStopThinkingAboutTomorrow · 12/12/2020 20:15

@Awarethebear

So do you think more and more men should wear dresses? The world's already gone mad enough as it is.

Lol yes the world is mad indeed. We're currently in a pandemic, there are genocides and other atrocities occurring as I type, people are being murdered, raped, abused and tortured daily, I think attire is the very least of anybody worries.

DontStopThinkingAboutTomorrow · 12/12/2020 20:16

And honestly I don't give a flying fuck what anybody wears. As long as they are wearing a mask that covers their fucking nose, that is.

NotExactlyMrsCurrentAffairs · 12/12/2020 20:17

My Son wears mostly 'girls clothes'. His choice. He is really confident. No one bullies him. He doesn't give a shit what anyone thinks. I think he's marvellous.
His friends at school accept him for who he is. He's 9.

user131426479642 · 12/12/2020 20:19

Yeh, men have never in recorded history worn dresses.

Other than throughout recorded history, obviously.

EdwardCullensBiteOnTheSide · 12/12/2020 20:20

Harry styles is an attention seeker though so I assume that's why he wears dresses. If it makes you happy to wear a dress as a man then fine, but no ones going to take you seriously are they, really? I'd be interested in the reason a man would want to wear a dress, if he isn't trans. What would he get out of it?

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