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Feminism: Sex and gender discussions

Do any of you dress etc 'gender free' or have tried to in the past?

353 replies

SoulofanAggron · 21/10/2020 12:23

I'm going a bit more 'gender free' in my look. Did try it once years ago for a couple of years. Have any of you tried it/done it?

I know a lot of women have quite a 'gender free' look anyway.

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CaraDuneRedux · 21/10/2020 12:26

I'm afraid I find that suggestion slightly nuts, OP.

I dress as me - comfortable, warm (or cool in summer), reasonably presentable so as not to scare the horses in social situations. Don't give a flying fuck about gender norms, never have, wear trousers most of the time because they're unisex and comfortable, buy things from the men's section if I like the colour, buy things from the women's section if I like the colour.

The idea of dressing in order to signal one's political outlook is... well, a very weird one, IMO.

Anotherdayanotherdisappointmen · 21/10/2020 12:27

Somedays I wear a hoodie and jogging bottoms..other days I wear a dress..basically I'm not dressing like any particular gender, I just wear what the fuck i want.
I cant imagine trying to dress specifically 'gender free'. Dont we all just wear what suits us/is comfy/makes us feel good?

littlbrowndog · 21/10/2020 12:28

I dress for comfort

Never even think about the gender woo woo when getting dressed

DeaconBoo · 21/10/2020 12:31

Afaik the only "gendered" clothing is skirts and dresses. Quite often i don't wear them. Other clothing tends to be the same but fitted in different ways, so I've no idea which of my t-shirts meet the measurements of being one gender or another.

oo0Tinkerbell0oo · 21/10/2020 12:31

I wear what i feel comfortable in, i dont wear skirts or dresses because i dont like them, never have since i was little, I like the comfort of trousers. I am a woman that dresses as she pleases not to please anyone else or make a statement.

AnotherEmma · 21/10/2020 12:31

I have a female body so I need clothes that are cut for my female body.

Massive boobs so I have to wear well-fitting bras and choose tops carefully.

Big bum, hips and thighs so I also choose trousers carefully.

I don't dress in a particularly feminine way; I mostly prefer to wear reasonably plain trousers and tops (with the occasional dress but nothing too floral or fussy), flat shoes as I find heels uncomfortable, minimal or no make up and jewellery.

But I do wear women's clothes because I have a curvy woman's body.

(I realise other slimmer women might wear men's clothes and that's fine too; it doesn't make them any less women!)

Winesalot · 21/10/2020 12:31

Pardon? What is gender free mean?

I wear clothes I want. Often they are from the men’s department because they are comfy and have pockets!!!

BebeStevens · 21/10/2020 12:34

I dress for comfort and my body shape in the clothes that I like wearing (or, as more is the case these days, the clothes that fit and don’t have too many holes in)

I honestly don’t have time or inclination for more than that. I do wonder who’s got enough navel gazing time to deliberately dress to a gender criteria (and who decides what those are anyway?) Maybe it’s having a teen of my own and heading towards 40 myself that makes me Confused

IwishNothingButTheBestForYou2 · 21/10/2020 12:34

Did try it once years ago for a couple of years.

How did your clothes differ during that period from what you'd normally wear?

BestIsWest · 21/10/2020 12:35

Does gender free mean defaulting to Male I wonder. Otherwise what do you mean?

BaronessBomburst · 21/10/2020 12:35

I live in the Netherlands. Most women my age wear trousers with a t shirt, have short hair, and don't bother with makeup or jewellery. It's not making a political statement. It's just practical and comfortable for a school run on a bicycle.
I also remember my boyfriend picking me up for a date in the early 90s. We were both wearing baggy jeans, a black t-shirt and a leather bracelet. I had to get changed. Grin
I do find all this gender neutral stuff quite exhausting. Just wear what the fuck you like, but XX chromosomes in the Ladies toilets/ changing rooms, XY chromosomes in the Mens. It's that simple.

BaronessBomburst · 21/10/2020 12:36

Sorry Aggron I forgot to wave. Wink

EndoplasmicReticulum · 21/10/2020 12:36

I wear men's trousers because I like pockets and have long legs, does that count?

EyesOpening · 21/10/2020 12:37

I wear what I like and find practical for the occasion, so usually trousers of some description but I do love a dress too. I’m not deliberately going for a gender-free or gender non-conforming look, I’m not trying to impart some meaning in my clothes although if I was time warped back to when trousers weren’t seemed suitable attire for a lady, then I guess I would be

EvenSupposing · 21/10/2020 12:37

Maybe move to S and B?

TomatoesAreFruit · 21/10/2020 12:38

I am wearing my husband's striped grey and black thermal pjs today and I identify as a prison inmate.

FairFridaythe13th · 21/10/2020 12:39

I don’t really understand. I usually wear trousers and a jumper - sometimes one of DSs sports cast offs. As a teen I wore ‘men’s’ clothes and boots mostly and had my hair cropped.

FairFridaythe13th · 21/10/2020 12:39

Or is it ‘unisex’ clothes rather than wearing the opposite sex clothes?

sleepyhead · 21/10/2020 12:40

When I was in my teens I wore:

  • Band tshirts
  • Baggy cardigans from the men's section at M&S
  • Levi 501s
  • hiking socks
  • DM boots

All of these were unisex items. Apart for bras and pants, my female and male friends could have pretty much shared clothes if they were the right size.

We weren't thinking about gender though I don't think. It was "the style at the time" as Grampa Simpson might say.

Sexnotgender · 21/10/2020 12:42

What does gender free mean?

I’m pregnant so dressing comfortably. My usual skinny jeans have been replaced with yoga pants.

I’ve got a bra on as my boobs are massive- am I unwittingly creating a non gender free outfit by ensuring my breasts are comfortable?

orangejuggling · 21/10/2020 12:44

I have noticed quite a lot of stuff about 'gender neutral fashion' in fashion magazines/sewing magazines recently. It's clearly a thing.

It seems to mean male default (not so neutral); and on sewing patterns it means 'stuff with absolutely no darts or shaping.' I wear jeans and a jersey top most days, but my massive boobs tend to make gender neutrality via fashion choice
a fairly hopeless ambition.

WagnersFourthSymphony · 21/10/2020 12:46

What does this even mean? I loathe wearing dresses and frilly things, always have, so haven't worn them for years. I loathe make-up too. Apart from that, I like clothes that are comfortable and practical. And YYY to pockets!

Dmtush · 21/10/2020 12:48

Being a very womanly shape (all tits and arse) I look wretched in men’s clothes. I wear jersey dresses exclusively, they’re comfortable, go with everything and I always look suitable for any occasion.

ItsAllGoingToBeFine · 21/10/2020 12:49

I also don't understand this OP either. I just dress. In clothes that fit me and are comfortable. Some clothes I wear are sexed insofar as they are designed to fit the female rather than the male form.

midgebabe · 21/10/2020 12:50

Mans shirt, trackie bottoms ( loose fit , probably female or teenage due to size)

big boobs so my sex is pretty obvious

What on earth does gender free mean anyway? Is there a uniform that people need to wear to prove that they are gender free? Would that affect how people treat me?