[quote CloudyVanilla]@BlackWaveComing personal insults aside, where did I ever say conservative views align with feminism?? If I gave that impression anywhere I did not intend to.
My point and my perspective is always that gender identity is a nuanced issue. While I agree that it shouldn't matter what gender someone is, because I am a feminist and naturally believe that conformity to gender stereotypes should not exist for the sake of both men and women, it doesn't mean that I think it doesn't matter.
Therefore when a man says he is a trans woman I do not say "but feeling feminine doesn't make you a woman", I accept that our society is sadly very gendered in some aspects and I do not doubt or question their lack of confortability with identifying with their natal sex.[/quote]
Being uncomfortable with the stereotypes imposed on you by virtue of your sex is understandable.
Men who chose to perform femininity as an escape or expression of resistance - no problem. It doesn't make him female, and he ought not to insert himself into our movement/needs, but gender non conforming behaviour is fine. I fully support men pushing back against imposed masculinity.
The idea that woman, however, is an essence, or subjective gender identity, and not a material and immutable fact of birth unaligned with gender - the TRA claim - is far more alike to conservatives claims of natural gender.
Feminist approaches to gender stand apart from both TRAs and MRAs.
Therefore, to conflate a basic tenet of feminism - a critique of gender - with men's rights proponents - who do not critique gender but reinforce it - is mistaken.