@DeliciouslyFemale
Out of curiosity, what is the fundamental dehumanisation and the humiliation of the process of obtaining a GRC?
Genuine question. I mean, I would assume the process involves talking to professionals about profound feelings of dysphoria - is that 'inhumane'? Surely that's what you need to do in order to be prescribed oestrogen or testosterone in the first place? And 'living as a woman/man' for two years prior to transition by having a typically a female/male name on a gas bill - is that 'inhumane'? Am I missing something?
Lord knows. Considering I spent over ten years having various professionals with their hands and various instruments up my vagina, trying to decide if I was riddled with ‘just enough’ endometriosis to be permitted a hysterectomy, I’m at a loss. 🤷🏻♀️ If I had know that telling them I identified as a male would have stopped them fucking telling me that I was too young to have a hysterectomy (I was in my 30s) and would have stopped the misogynistic pricks telling me that I might change my mind about kids, (I didn’t want any) I would have gladly went through any other dehumanisation and the humiliation to have it done quicker.
Children who identify as trans are not permitted to be questioned, because that’s trans ‘conversion’, against their rights and they know their own minds. Not giving them drugs that have not been tested for their side effects on developing bodies, is ‘bigotry’.
However when it comes to a woman in her 30s, suffering from endometriosis and fibroids, or indeed any grown woman with medical problems, that she DOESN’T know her own mind and must have numerous invasive tests for years, collapse in physical agony is absolutely fine and not misogynistic, patronising, sexist bollocks. Yeah. Excuse me if my sympathy is a little thin.
Signed, an adult human female that knows the reality of what it’s really like ‘living in a female body’.
I hear you! And im sorry you had to endure that. There's seemingly no limit to the humiliation and degradation we're expected to put up with either.
My second pregnancy the baby had a serious heart defect. Experimental surgery available, oldest surviving patients at that point were 15. Otherwise it's palliative care or heart transplant.
So I'm meeting the country's foremost neonatal heart surgeon to discuss the options available to try and save my baby's life.
First of all, the dude was beyond astonished that I was able to have an informed, rational high level discussion with him, demonstrating understanding of the issue, down to the surgery, outcomes etc.
So he asks me, incredulous, whether I'm a doctor. And I say, no, I'm just very good at research and I'm highly motivated to understand my options. Our conversation shifted to basic after that. Coz unless woman has studied medicine, she cannot possibly understand.
Now these babies typically thrive in the womb and then start deteriorating immediately after birth with survival measured in weeks at most (unless they have surgery or a transplant).
Mine, however, wasn't thriving (diagnosed IUGR, half the size and a quarter the weight expected). To be able to accurately assess the baby's chance of survival it was important to ascertain my precise dates.
As I was suffering from secondary infertility issues, my obgyn had me doing an ovulation chart throughout my treatment to ensure that it was working, even if I didn't conceive.
So I knew, based on date on the chart when I ovulated, and thus the narrow window within which I must have conceived.
He didn't believe I could have correctly done that. Despite the fact he'd just thought I was a medical doctor, now he thought I couldn't possibly have plotted my temperature or take it properly.
So eventually I said, look, I know how many weeks I am because I didn't have sex with my husband after such and such a date as I left the country to visit my parents.
He replied "That's no guarantee. You could have been unfaithful on holiday."
So I had to assure this bastard that I hadn't had sex with anyone other than my husband to get him to accept my dates.
Now I realise that it probably takes a big ego to become such a renowned heart surgeon, but I don't think this was ego alone. Especially since he was from an even more traditionally patriarchal culture than my own. That was misogyny in action.
I mean I wouldn't normally engage in whataboutery when a group complains about humiliating and degrading treatment. But when said group demands a privilege that negatively affects a second group historically treated even worse, I think the question is wholly justified.