@Melroses
The hormones all work together to fool us into reproduction.
Menopause is a release 
(of sorts 
)
That's me all over: love menopausal insight, hate the stiff joints!
I came to MN straight to this board, and for ages I didn't stray anywhere else. But of late I've been reading a few of the relationships threads and AIBU, and the stories of men duping (young) women, their aggressive, narcissistic behaviour -- it's horrific! and at the same time so familiar. I too was duped and taken for a ride so many times, all through trying to be nice, to be generous, to comply, to win him through sheer niceness, convert him, prove that "love conquers all". And it doesn't. It was never love, it was always neediness and subjugation and if I could I'd go back and give my younger self a good slap. And tell myself, LTB!!!!
I see similar advice given to those women on MN boards and I say, Yes! Yes! LTB! But I know they won't. They have to go through the whole horrible charade and learn the hard way, just as I did.
As they say, youth is wasted on the young. If only post-menopausal women could plant our older minds into our young bodies, what fun we could have putting those bastards in their places, righting all those wrongs! They'd want us but could never get us!
And yes I know NAMALT and I finally got a good one. In fact, all the men I've known closely for the past couple decades have been really good ones; the only bastard was my stepson (now in his mid 40's) who behaved abominably to his father and me. I'm not a man-hater. But the bad ones tend to shout the loudest.