no, i didn't say that and i don't think that. i'm making the point that behaving in ways that are perceived as 'female' makes one a target of violence, regardless of one's biological sex.
Holy shit it's not complicated.
Women are oppressed because of their biological sex. Gender is the tool in which that oppression is enforced.
Gender is a hierarchy whereby things (completely arbitrarily mind you) deemed 'masculine' are at the top and things deemed feminine (also arbitrary - and subject to change, high heels were invented for men etc) are at the bottom.
Because in a sexist society women (the sex) are deemed shit and inferior, therefore all the things they supposedly like (gender norms) are shit and inferior as well.
A man (top of the heirarchy) who actively pursues "feminine" interests or has "feminine attributes" (bottom of the hierarchy) is not only stepping outside his gender role but actively degrading himself. Other men - with "masculine" interests and attributes therefore consider themselves superior to these "feminine" men and treat them accordingly the same as the other inferior class of human (that would be women of the biological variety).
Because gender is such a useful tool of oppression people stepping out of their gender boxes - in either direction - must be strictly monitored and ridiculed. Gender then becomes a prison where many people are unhappy.
Sensible people realise Gender is a harmful nonsense that needs to be abolished - people can like and be whatever they want, there is no hierarchy. However sex class remains unchanged - you are either part of the class who can get impregnated or you are not - and that will have an affect on the material reality of your life. Whether your sex organs work correctly, or whether they are removed has no bearing on your sex, hysterectomies are a part of the female experience, penectomies are purely male.
Absolute fucking idiots do not draw the same conclusion. They see rigid gender roles as negative (so far so far so good) but think that the answer is creating more genders, or allowing special people to opt out of their prison and go in the other one. But that can only work as long as most people remain confined in their own gender prison (otherwise you're not special for breaking out). It is a system that says changeable stereotypes are more real and more important than actual bodies and forces women people into roles against their will whilst telling them this is liberating and they are "choosing" the role.
It's not - it's oppression. There is nothing progressive about claiming gender is more important or more real than biological sex. It is just more misogyny and more policing of women. If that is what you want fucking own it