My brain matches my body simply because it is a human brain in a human body. My reproductive class is female, I am an adult, therefore I am a woman.
I do not have a strong sense of connection or happiness about my body, I find parts of it deeply troubling and have worked through an awful lot of mental discomfort related to that. I am not 'gender conforming', I am gender challenging - I will not be boxed into rules about 'what a woman should be'.
A woman can be and like anything, love who she wants to, have the name she wants, believe whatever she chooses. But she will always be a woman, because it's an immutable human characteristic. And it cannot be identified in or out of.
In this all this eagerness to either fashion a personal opt out, or redfine woman so that it includes men, where is the desire to actually challenge and change the sexism of the gender system that makes so many women unhappy?
Why are those misrepresenting Rowling and extolling the wonderment of gender and the irrelevance of sex not pouring that energy into making the world better for women? Why are you so eager to be kind to either the people who hurt and minimize women or the women whose response to the suffering of all women is to pretend there is a special escape, just for them?
Oh, and this is Mumsnet. The one with all the swearing. We don't all fucking gender conform to daintylady bullshit here.