This just feels like another way to criticise individual women for the failings of a society which doesn’t value cleaning and care work
I can understand that.
I suppose, as feminists, we need to acknowledge that society is shit when it comes to women's labor, and together, put some feminist effort towards fixing that. Because the Labor parties globally have lost interest in us, and nobody else is going to do it.
I remember finding out what the preschool teachers were paid per hour at the preschool my eldest attended and being absolutely shocked.
I didn't pull her out of preschool, but I sure as heck supported the childcare union in their efforts to raise their wages, with monetary support, lobbying and getting out with petitions, at rallies etc.
Anyway, as my kids are fond of saying 'no good choices under capitalism, mum'. It's a systemic problem, and actually, individual women being decent employers of other women is only a start.
But the questionwas 'is it OK for a feminist to have a cleaner' and my answer was 'Yes, if you apply feminist ethics to the transaction.'
Not 'no, all women who hire cleaners are bad people, and cleaning is a terrible shameful job'.
Now, if the question had been 'is it ever OK for The Guardian to troll women on IWD with articles about cleaners', my answer may have been more to your liking.