Men whistling loudly

[BlueSpotty]

Does anyone else get fed up with men that whistle loudly and tunelessly in public? It's so rude! And before anyone says that women do it too, I can't say I've ever noticed a woman doing it!

I was just browsing in a small shop. A man came in, whistling extremely loudly, which was annoying in itself but then he came and stood right next to me and started browsing there and whistling right in my ear!

After a couple of minutes I said, politely 'Can you stop whistling in my ear please?'. He looked so shocked, as if it was the most shocking thing anyone had ever said to him, then just said 'How bloody rude!' and gave me a filthy look.

I carried on looking for a few minutes and he did stop whistling but kept giving me dirty looks until I left the shop.

Yes, I hate it. It's a huge trigger for me as I have ASD. We've got a bunch of old guys at work who whistle randomly throughout the day and it's beginning to really upset me. It makes me jump. It's in the same bracket as car alarms to me.
I also think it's the sign of an empty mind.

Why DO men - and it's almost always men - whistle tunelessly and inanely? What's the point? Is it because they want to be seen & their voices heard even if they're not speaking?

Yes! It's so annoying and they always look so chuffed with themselves, as if they expect you to applaud their 'skill'.

A neighbour does it when we are sitting outside. And he knows it. So fucking irritating.

Of all irritating / annoying things that men do this is not one that remotely bothers me! What’s the problem??

Territory.

If you can hear the whistle you're on his.

Toxic prick. Pep Guardiola and his spitting - same thing. Like actual animals.

I don’t mind whistling or humming. What I hate is spitting.

Spitting is a whole different kettle of fish! There’s really no comparison.

Men might whistle but women hum or sing I find (based on my very unscientific observations at work)

I did not compare whistling to spitting. I contrasted them
Whistle- I do not mind
Spit- I hate
They are different.

I find men whistling irritating. I would find someone singing or humming loudly to be equally annoying, but I rarely hear people doing that.

To me, whistling loudly is arrogant - it says either:

“I have the right to force you to listen to my whistling, even if it makes if difficult for you concentrate on what YOU want to think about.”

or

“I think my whistling is so amazing, that there is no way you will not enjoy listening to it”.

Either way - the mindset of a twat.

No, it was HorseWithNoLang who said “same thing”.

It always makes me think of little boys on the swings screaming "Look at me mummy! Look at me!"

I can't say I've ever noticed this phenomenon.

Honestly some of you really do go to extraordinary lengths to find something to get offended by.

Oh christ, I'm an habitual whistler... Obviously a twat. I'll try to not whistle! Sorry to anyone I may have inadvertently offended!

There's another sort of whistle that men do now. Not as overt as a wolf whistle but a low key sporadic whistling that starts up when a vaguely attractive woman is around. DD and I have both noticed it.

Totally agree, hate it. Seems to me to be saying “I am a man. This is my space. I do not have to accommodate you in any way”.

The aural equivalent of man spreading.

Oh, honestly! Get over yourselves.

Sorry how that came across. Yes of course spitting is worse; it's vile. I was grouping them together as examples of territory marking. Another bugbear of mine would be playing music really loud either where they live (poor neighbours!) or from a vehicle. Man spreading is another one isn't it? The message always seems to be this is my bit and if you don't like it you know what you can do. I think these things are all signs of aggression, but yeah, some are worse than others.

Oh, and I do believe that not all men are like that. Too many are tho' eh?

The loud music from a vehicle I complete agree with (although it isn’t always men). I just never associate whistling with anything negative.
Maybe because I remember my Dad whistling while he shaved in the mornings? It was the background to my childhood mornings

Oh, honestly! Get over yourselves.

Gawd! I've seen the light and am off to get over myself.

Oh God I've found my tribe.

I was talking to a friend about this the other day and she thought I was bonkers. I'm so glad this is a thing that others have noticed.

I think its to do with symbolically taking up public space (which is why I think it is similar to spitting). I don't think men necessarily always do it on purpose, I think a lot of it comes from unquestioning public space ownership (see also manspreading, not moving on pavements etc. etc.).

I do think some men do this to draw attention to themselves when attractive women are around and as a kind of quas-wolf whistle (i.e. they're not technically whistling at a woman...)

I remember last year when a man who lives in my local area and pisses me off immensely for all sorts of reasons (including whistling) stood right next to me in a shop and was whistling tunelessly right in my ear. I was so pissed off that I saw red mist and when the song changed on the radio I started singing it at a volume to match his whistling. He wasn't prepared for Take That's 'Everything Changes' at 200 decibels in Savers the Chemist and looked very shocked. My DP exited the shop post haste.

x-post with @HorseWithNoLang

I find myself getting less and less tolerant of this symbolic space invading as I get older.

If I see a man spit now, I will tell him loudly that he's disgusting and should be ashamed of himself. I commute and regularly tell manspreaders to move out of my way. I absolutely don't move for men on public pavements.

It feels great but is fucking depressing how often this shit happens.

I have never noticed this

Is this a thing? In my 45 years I have never encountered this.