Men whistling loudly

[BlueSpotty]

Does anyone else get fed up with men that whistle loudly and tunelessly in public? It's so rude! And before anyone says that women do it too, I can't say I've ever noticed a woman doing it!

I was just browsing in a small shop. A man came in, whistling extremely loudly, which was annoying in itself but then he came and stood right next to me and started browsing there and whistling right in my ear!

After a couple of minutes I said, politely 'Can you stop whistling in my ear please?'. He looked so shocked, as if it was the most shocking thing anyone had ever said to him, then just said 'How bloody rude!' and gave me a filthy look.

I carried on looking for a few minutes and he did stop whistling but kept giving me dirty looks until I left the shop.

But for the last bloody time, it's not JUST the whistling, it's in combination with other behaviours, just another tool in the creepy dude's toolbox, and we're NOT talking about male passersby whistling in the street, as has been said many many many many many many many many many many many many many many many times already.

Oh, give over, the op was about whistling. However many many many times you try to shoehorn unrelated stuff in.

...PS, don't mean to be rude, it's just exasperating when you know full well what you've experienced and yet you're being told by strangers that you haven't.

But in my experience the whistling has involved inappropriate, pervy behaviour from men. Am I not allowed to mention that, then?

Yes, of course you are. Just don’t assume everyone else’s experiences are the same.

Just don’t assume everyone else’s experiences are the same.
What a joke! I've said a few times I accept others may not have experienced this, meanwhile I've been gaslit and told I'm imagining what's happened to me all the way through the thread!

Sorry about your experiences, btw. I’m not dismissing the effect of shitty male behaviour.

It's nothing I'll lose sleep over, but it's not very pleasant to be told it hasn't happened. I never knew whistling would be such a contentious issue! It's quite odd that people are so divided about it, perhaps there's some subconscious triggers at play all round. I guess if you've had experiences of creepy blokes doing it that's what you will associate it with, whereas if it brings back memories of your dear old granddad doing his DIY then the opposite would be true. Maybe it's as simple as that.

Ah, Upfield, of course I’m not saying it hasn’t happened to you. I’m sorry. I didn’t mean to upset you.

and we're NOT talking about male passersby whistling in the street,

And yet this is the opening sentence of the op

Does anyone else get fed up with men that whistle loudly and tunelessly in public?

So, it is precisely talking about male passers by, whistling. It's you who's decided to widen it out to now include any other creepy or intimidating behaviour that you can think of.

Thisismytimetoshine No problem! It's too daft a subject to get this wound up about anyway Enjoy your day!

I think you cherry picked a little bit there, as with a lot of your other posts, Hearhoovesthinkzebras you missed the rest of it:
"but then he came and stood right next to me and started browsing there and whistling right in my ear!"
It's you who's decided to widen it out to now include any other creepy or intimidating behaviour that you can think of.
Because these behaviours happened in combination with the whistling. Signing off now, you seem intent to disagree at whatever cost and I've said all I wanted to say on this. Good Day!

But really, how does a stranger whistle right in your ear? If that is what is really happening then they must be leaning in very close to you, touching you. That's far more than just whistling isn't it? If what they were doing was standing near to you and whistling, well then that isn't whistling right in my ear. It's just whistling.

Hear why do you always assume posters are lying rather than accept that a man can be either really fucking annoying or in the wrong? Just take people's word for it instead of countering everything with 'but I've only seen women do it/I've only seen both sexes equally do it/how is that possible?' you are relentless in what you do.

Just take people's word for it instead of countering everything with 'but I've only seen women do it/I've only seen both sexes equally do it/how is that possible?'

' Discussion is fine as long as everyone agrees with what's being said. '

The OP asked whether others saw loud public whistling as rude. It’s a behaviour seen more often in men than women. Misophonia is more common in women. I would say it’s inconsiderate at best to whistle loudly in public. When combined with other behaviours, it can be creepy.

Gronky I think you misunderstood. I wasn't asking them to agree, I was asking why they assume people are lying about their experiences all the time.

Notredamn apologies for the hyperbole, I'm not familiar with Hearhoovesthinkzebras in other discussions but it seemed to me that they were presenting additional experiences here and only disagreeing with the limitations stated by others (e.g. only men do x). For example, if you say that the only condiment people have with chips is ketchup, I'm not calling you a liar on your ketchup experiences if I state that, due to my Dutch heritage, I know plenty of people who enjoy them with mayonnaise.

Notredamn

I'm not saying people are lying. If a strange man was whistling right in a pp ear as they said, then that is very strange and intrusive. But I wouldn't class that as the same thing that the op is posting about, which was men whistling in public.

For someone to be whistling right in my ear they would be leaning against me and over my shoulder. I wouldn't describe that as someone whistling in public. That is unwanted touching, invasion of personal space, or something. Not simply whistling in public, which is what the op describes.

Agree, if someone was standing close and whistling in my ear, it wouldn't be the whistling I'd complain about.